This week on The Wrong Ones, we’re unpacking a breakup that played out in front of millions — and left behind some major lessons on relationship dynamics, trauma bonds, and the psychology of healing after public shame.

Yes, we’re talking about Rachael Kirkconnell & Matt James — from The Bachelor to After the Final Rose… to Japan… to Call Her Daddy… and everything in between.

In this episode, we’ll explore:
Why some relationships start with trauma-bonded foundations
The Fix Me Fallacy — and how it can quietly erode our sense of self in relationships
How future projection and unaligned actions can trap us in false hope
The emotional labor of being "the one who stays" after public controversy
What ambiguous loss can teach us about invisible breakups
And why rediscovering self-worth after the wrong ones is always the greatest win

We’ll also revisit last week’s reflection question and leave you with a new one to sit with as you continue your own growth journey.

Reflection Question of the Week:

Were you fighting for connection—or for confirmation that you were worth staying for? Was it really love—or a performance for someone who made you feel like you had something to prove?

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