#perimenopause

In this episode of 100% Real with Ruby, we dive deep into why those once-effective diets and workout routines just aren’t cutting it anymore. Ruby walks through the physiological changes that happen as we age, how stress impacts us differently, and why it’s not you—it’s your approach that needs a reboot. From understanding metabolism to building a lifestyle of resilience, Ruby provides practical steps and a fresh perspective for women navigating the frustrations of evolving bodies and goals.

Timestamps & Subtopics:

(00:00) Introduction: Setting the stage—why the “old ways” of dieting aren’t delivering the same results.

(01:12) Why “Eat Less, Work Harder” is Outdated: The trap of calorie deficits and high-intensity training.

(02:21) Changing Bodies, Changing Needs: How metabolism and hormonal changes affect weight and energy.

(04:04) Metabolism Myths Busted: Ruby explains the truth about metabolism and the importance of muscle mass.

(05:20) Caloric Deficit Reality Check: Why drastic cuts harm more than help.

(07:56) The Dangers of “All-or-Nothing” Thinking: Shifting from restrictive habits to a sustainable balance.

(09:34) Why Your Body Holds Onto Calories: How scarcity mentality affects calorie processing.

(12:41) Daily Movement’s Hidden Impact: NEAT (Non-Exercise Activity Thermogenesis) and its role in overall calorie burn.

(13:48) Juggling Life, Hormones, and Fitness Goals: Managing additional stresses and the hormonal challenges for women.

(18:42) Training to Build, Not Burn: The real purpose of training—building muscle for lasting transformation.

(19:46) Recovery Isn’t Optional: The power of rest and recovery for sustainable results.

(21:25) Alcohol and Fitness: Understanding the effects of alcohol on your body and metabolism.

(23:20) Resisting the Allure of “Quick Fixes”: The mindset shift needed for long-term progress.

(24:29) Self-Talk and Mental Resilience: How to focus on positive, productive energy in your fitness journey.

(26:54) Actionable Steps: Key steps for sustainable success: focus on protein, progressive overload, recovery, and mindset.

Key Takeaways:

Outdated Diet Myths: The old “eat less, do more” model doesn’t work as we age. Metabolism and muscle preservation are crucial for sustainable progress.

Mindset Shift: Moving from a “dieting” mentality to a performance-based approach can lead to better health and body composition.

Sustainable Steps: Simple but effective actions—such as increasing NEAT, hitting protein goals, and prioritizing rest—are game-changers.

Importance of Recovery: Building resilience and allowing your body to recover is as vital as any workout.

Sharons Journey over the years has been AMAZING and one to talk of... through a host of health issues, perimenopause and navigating this thing called LIFE...

you dont exist in isolation all to do with food and training

theres so much more to this !

STOP JUDGING YOURSELF for where you are right now, past failures, whatever it is.

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Muscle mass isn’t just about aesthetics—it’s crucial for maintaining strength, energy, and a higher metabolism. But if you’re over 35 and haven’t spent at least a year focused on building muscle, there’s a reality check here: you’re likely losing up to 1% of muscle per year since the age of 30. That’s muscle loss due to aging, and if left unchecked, it can lead to weaker bones, a slower metabolism, and less functional strength.

Building muscle after 35 takes intention, planning, and dedication, but the benefits are life-changing. It can make daily activities easier, boost metabolism, and help you stay fit and healthy in the long run.

• Eat the right amount to support muscle growth while staying lean.
• Prioritize protein intake consistently every day to fuel muscle maintenance.
• Incorporate strength training with progressive overload to push your muscles and encourage growth over time.
• Work with a coach; time machine to your best results - surpass what you think possible
• you need that outside guidance for your training to maximize your results - technique and form can make a world of difference in achieving your muscle-building goals.

Building muscle isn’t just a physical shift; it’s a psychological one. Many people find it tough because the visible progress is slower and less noticeable than with weight loss. Add in factors like social expectations, the pressure to be “bikini-ready” by summer, or even fluctuations from things like PMS, and it can feel like a constant struggle to stay the course.

Here’s what you need to know to stay motivated:

• Accept that progress will be slower and less visible. It’s okay if you’re not seeing big changes every week. This is normal for muscle building.
• Remember the big picture. Building muscle is about creating a strong, resilient body—not a temporary look.
• Commit to your goals, even when they feel counter to social norms. Ignore quick-fix trends and embrace the longer-term benefits of true muscle growth.

. Building muscle is challenging not just because of the physical work but because of the mental patience it requires. You have to be okay with not seeing much progress, or at least not seeing it as fast as you might want. That’s hard. You might feel uncomfortable in your clothes for a while, you might feel bloated, especially around your PMS if you’re a woman, or just a little out of place in your own body sometimes. And those feelings are tough – they can mess with your motivation.

But that’s what it takes if you want to build a solid, muscular foundation. And yeah, it’s probably harder to stick with because it’s not what’s promoted out there.

people give up on building muscle because they’re not mentally prepared for the slower progress. But if you stick with it, if you push through the slow stages and keep doing the work, I promise, it’s worth it. You’re building something sustainable and strong – not just a quick fix.

Nikias; fuelling your body to train hard and build the muscle and strength you want. Importance of fuelling well for gains and prioritising performance for the physique you want

* hard training isnt alwayss for growth

- effective sets

- progressive stimulus, debunk it and mistakes

- EMG

** honest effort

** 8 second reps

1) short-term - peri-workout nutrition

2) long-term - the importance of being at least around maintenance caloires, if not in a surplus, in order to fuel training adaptations

Talk about me doing all the right training and training hard but then not having enough fuel there

It worked until it didn’t

The worst fate is grinding so hard but not eating enough to see the changes youre hoping for

3) pros and cons and differences between maintenance and a surplus. Thoughts?

- different sensations so things feel tight

Training is the trigger

Nutrition is permissive

* moderate surplus

The ONE thing that holds people back from seeing results

@nikias_fittotransform

the one mindset shift that will help you stay the journey for your best results

note.... its not only the scale weight that can set you off, its not only seeing yourself in progress photos either. its the constant body checks, mirrors, how your clothes feel. yes even that...

@irisdeadlifts

@transformxruby

Why time outside of a deficit is so important even if you have fat to lose.. Theres things that need to be addressed so that fat loss can be short, sharp and effective

LEARN FROM THE LESSONS - you need self awareness

When you do hard things and over come them… if its in line with the life you want to live, who you want to be, - you feel so good for it

The moment you decide to diet, fatigue can start peaking because now your mind is on “less calories” blah bloah blah FAT LOSS IS HARD when you do it right - maintenance is easy

Thats how it should be only its not

Everything in life requires effort. 😜 If anyone sells anything as “effortless,” rest assured they’re full of shit.

By nature, life in maintenance is more flexible and has more freedom than a calorie deficit. But it’s not mindless or effortless.

Too many think that “after the diet,” they can just go back to “normal” and expect to maintain their progress.

Tracking

As adults we hate being bad at things

LEAN IN to maintenance

Talk about ali….

Track to learn about how you feel with food and whats in food

Body positivity & self compassion …..

Timelines make it hard to allow yourself to get there

Also summer comes around every year and we all think hat we need to shred for it and fuck ourselves over

Youre going to mess up - relapse

HOT TAKES https://www.instagram.com/p/DAQZpZaRi5l/?img_index=1

BEING OKAY WITH NOT MUCH CHANGING

+ COGNITIVE BIASES/DISTORTIONS

Body image & neutrality even when you want to change your body

Self talk

We all have that one thing we hate but we feel great after

You don't get comfy with something new by avoiding it

Stress management

“We are a luxury” we actually arent…. We are a first line intervention

Pausing is a super power

Why People Believe It: The calorie-burning nature of cardio creates the impression that more cardio equals more fat loss. The immediate sweat and heart rate spike make it feel like the fastest way to slim down.

Why It Seems True: Cardio does burn calories and can contribute to fat loss, but it doesn’t address the bigger picture of body recomposition.

https://www.instagram.com/jace_lopez_/

@transformxruby SO much in this episode SO SO much

breathing - bracing

with progress and not much changing

This doesn’t happen linearly

Changing programs or things not working because the weight stopped going up

** this is why having lower rep hard training helps because you recruit them more

Nutrition & lifestyle factor into this fatigue too

And this is why things feel hard but aren’t effective for results

• Higher reps talking about that part jace said

• We do need more time under tension too so theres places for this. 10-

Guys see more change

Booty bands

There are no pushing muscles. Muscles pull – it helps to imagine this for muscle centric movement

• Focusing on core and bracing

• Breathing is underrated

• Its hard to get the best out of exercises if you aren’t optimizing for this

I want to talk about nutrition for results now. We did training for results

** speaking of the running