Have you been ghosted by your friend group without a clue why? Welcome to Awkward Etiquette with Kiki Astor, your cheeky guide to modern manners and social survival. In this episode, Kiki tackles the concept of the real-life shadowban—when you’re not blocked or unfollowed, but subtly iced out of social events, text threads, and brunch invites.

Learn how to spot the signs of a social shadowban, what accidental faux pas might’ve triggered it (yes, even your thirsty Instagram stories count), and how to gracefully re-enter the scene with charm, class, and a soft-launch-worthy glow-up.

Whether you’ve been quietly canceled, ghosted by the group chat, or just feel like everyone’s “busy” all of a sudden, this episode serves etiquette advice with a twist of reality check

In this episode of Awkward Etiquette with Kiki Astor, yes, we’re breaking down the myths behind the old money aesthetic- but we're sharing the secrets of all effortlessly stylish people. Think you can buy the uniform and waltz into the club? Think again. Kiki explores the difference between curating and cosplaying, and why real style can’t (always) be Amazon-Primed.

We dive into the psychology behind inherited clothes and inherited neuroses, and how to decode your upbringing to find your true personal style. Why does new money often look so...tacky? Why do old money wardrobes (and homes) have that quiet, undone charm? It’s not about perfection—it’s about patina over polish, heritage over hype.

With nods to Carolyn Bessette’s secret sauce, Kiki shows you how to train your eye, embrace imperfection, and stop copying starter packs in favor of becoming a classic in progress. Because style—real style—is lived in, layered, and entirely yours.

Looking to marry up, move up, or simply mix with high society—without getting laughed out of the room? In this episode of Awkward Etiquette, Kiki Astor pulls back the velvet curtain on modern social climbing and how to do it with grace, discretion, and strategic charm. Whether you're angling for a seat at the boardroom table, a place in the Hamptons, or just a better table at Cipriani, this is your cheat sheet to elegant upward mobility.

We’ll cover:

• The unspoken rules of old money circles, new money power networks, and the high-level corporate elite
• How to cultivate access and influence without looking obvious (or desperate)
• What to do and not to do if you're trying to marry into money—and whether you actually should
• Real examples of people who climbed tastefully... and those who absolutely did not
• How to avoid becoming a society cautionary tale (or group chat punchline)

If you’ve ever asked yourself “How do I fit in with people wealthier, smarter, or more connected than me?”, this is the episode that gives you the etiquette edge—minus the cringe.

Perfect for anyone navigating high society, luxury social circles, elite dating, or aspirational career moves.

In this episode of Awkward Etiquette with Kiki Astor, your Auntie Kiki spills a whole chilled bottle of rosé worth of her best secrets on how to entertain with true old money elegance—no villa or vintage yacht required. From Newport-style lawn luncheons to boho-glam back garden soirées, learn the etiquette commandments of summer hosting: think linen chic dress codes, room-temp bites, and shady seats (always!). Listen in as Kiki dishes on everything from Dalí’s surrealist dinners and the mythic Riviera summers of the Murphys, to mosquito repellents that double as accessories and the art of making HomeGoods look haute. Whether you’re planning a budget clambake, a Como-inspired patio picnic, or just wondering how much ice you really need (spoiler: more), this is your cheeky, charming masterclass in old money-coded summer hospitality.

This week on Awkward Etiquette with Kiki Astor, we’re diving into the enduring—and often awkward—tradition of the summer houseguest. From the Gilded Age to the Hamptons, summer hosting has long been a cornerstone of old money etiquette and upper-class rituals. But why did houseguests used to stay for weeks (or even months)? And how can you survive it today—whether you’re the host or the one unpacking in someone else’s guest room?

Kiki shares the surprisingly elegant history behind long-term summer guests, the unspoken codes of how to be a good houseguest (and host), and what to do when things get awkward—like when you’ve overstayed your welcome or your friend is trying to “pop by” for ten days. Expect practical etiquette advice, personal stories, and subtle boundary-setting tips for modern manners.

Topics include:
– Old money rules of summer hosting
– The art of being a charming houseguest
– Setting boundaries with grace
– Saying no (without sounding rude)
– How long is too long to stay?
– Funny (and painful) real-life guest stories

Whether you're decamping to someone’s beach house or preparing for your own weekend guests, this episode is your social survival guide. Listen now and brush up on the manners that still matter.

Planning a wedding? Attending one? Praying your drunk uncle doesn’t grab the mic during the toasts? You’ve come to the right place. In this episode of Awkward Etiquette with Kiki Astor, we unpack the unspoken rules and social slip-ups that can turn a dream wedding into a diamond-studded disaster.

Whether you’re the blushing bride, the groom with opinions, the mother-in-law with a seating chart grudge, or just a guest determined not to wear white (again), this guide to modern wedding etiquette will help you glide through the season with grace, style, and minimal scandal.

From guest list drama and overbearing family members to dress codes, RSVP protocol, emotional outbursts, and the etiquette of elopements, Kiki offers practical advice and sly commentary with old money polish and new manners wit. Plus: how to behave at the reception, what to never say during a toast, and why good etiquette is the best insurance policy for your “I do.” You'll also be getting stories from Auntie Kiki's long-ago wedding.

In this sun-soaked episode of Awkward Etiquette with Kiki Astor, we unpack the storied tradition of “summering” in old money circles—from Newport to Nantucket, the Hamptons to the Highlands. Kiki dives into the social history behind the season: why certain destinations became icons of understated wealth, how WASPs made “going to the country” a ritual of quiet luxury, and what distinguishes a legacy summer spot from a flashy one.

You’ll learn:

• The defining characteristics of old money vacation spots, and the key packing list items for each

• The etiquette (and quiet codes) of classic summering culture

• Key destinations like Bar Harbor, Watch Hill, Gstaad, and Cap d’Antibes—and what they signal socially, and how to romanticize your life until it really does feel like you're summering there

• How to channel old money summer vibes with elegance and humor, even if you’re staycationing, house-sitting, or renting the cheapest French Riviera adjacent flat.

This isn't just about faking it til you make it, it's about curating summer rituals and enjoying the experiences that will leave you feeling refreshed and inspired come fall, even if your only vacation was a staycation.