“I used to be so pissed that I’m an addict. And now I’m so grateful that I am.”

That’s from Blake Roberts, a licensed therapist, writer, and someone who has walked his own road of addiction and healing. In this episode, we dive deep into his story—particularly his struggles with porn and sex addiction—and why he believes recovery is about so much more than just not drinking, not watching, or not acting out.

Blake opens up about his early exposure to sex and substance use, the generational patterns that shaped him, and the moment therapy finally gave him the language and space to name what was really going on. We talk about the importance of language (why he doesn’t always say “I’m a sex addict”), how Internal Family Systems (IFS) gave him a whole new way to view addiction, and why even “moderate” alcohol use was still functioning as an escape for him—and thus why he gave it up.

If you’ve ever struggled to understand your own behavior, felt like you didn’t fit the typical “addict” mold, or wanted to know what recovery looks like when it’s rooted in grace and curiosity instead of shame, this episode will hit home.

We explore:
—Blake’s story of addiction, secrecy, and growing up in dysfunction
—Why 12-step recovery was helpful… until it wasn’t
—The difference between sobriety and true recovery
—How Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy reframed his addiction
—Why he says “a part of me is addicted to sex” instead of “I’m a sex addict”
—The role his wife played in naming his problematic relationship with alcohol
—Why escaping—even subtly—is still escaping
—The power of curiosity and compassion in healing
—The orchestra metaphor for IFS and living in harmony with your whole self
—What it means to be 97% known—and why that’s not enough

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“Prayer can come before belief.”

That’s the lesson that stopped me in my tracks.

In this second conversation with Dr. Lisa Stanton—yes, the first-ever repeat guest on the “Confessions of a Christian Alcoholic” podcast—we go even deeper into her story, her recovery, and her brand-new book 52 Life-Changing Lessons I Learned in Recovery. Lisa doesn’t hold back. She talks about everything from leaving voicemails for God because she didn’t know how to pray, to the one line in her book that I haven’t stopped thinking about since I read it: “Another day of sobriety is the wrong goal.”

This episode isn’t about pat answers or spiritual clichés. It’s about showing up—broken, angry, uncertain—and still choosing to reach out to a God you’re not even sure you believe in yet. We talk about what real faith looks like, the difference between venting and confessing, and why self-love may not be the answer we've been sold. If you’ve ever felt stuck in your recovery, tired in your faith, or unsure if God’s even listening, this one’s for you.

It’s for everyone, not just those that have struggled with addiction.

We explore:

— Favorite lessons from Lisa’s book, including “prayer can come before belief”

—The Google Voice hack: leaving God voicemails when prayer feels empty

—Why belief ≠ faith—and how to cultivate an interactional relationship with God

—The hidden problem with church and recovery meetings

—Why aiming for “another day sober” often backfires—and what true goals look like

—The unforgettable “blue truck” story and what it teaches us

—Redefining self-love

—The key difference between venting emotions and true confession

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“My intellect was my greatest obstacle to getting sober.”

Dr. Lisa Stanton is the brilliant doctor who made a lot of bad choices. In some ways, she was too smart for her own good. Too smart to get sober, as she says. Until it all caught up with her. In this honest conversation, she opens up about her spiral into alcoholism that began in high school and accelerated through college and into getting her PhD. She details an eating disorder, perfectionism, trauma, and the endless quest for approval. Lisa’s credentials are impressive—PhD in social psychology, researcher, author—but they masked a painful, chaotic double life. And yet, this is not a story of defeat. It’s one of grace and how Jesus meets us in our darkest moments.

We talk about family dynamics, childhood trauma, substance abuse, forgiveness, and the unique intersection of female addiction and sexual approval. Most importantly, we talk about Jesus—and what happens when the head finally surrenders to the heart.

Don't miss this one. And be sure to come back next week for part two, where we explore Lisa’s practical tools for recovery and the lessons that changed her life.

We explore:

—Growing up with perfectionism and emotional bypassing
—Her first drink: 12 ounces of whiskey measured in a Pyrex cup
—Blackout Lisa vs. perfect Lisa: a life of hidden chaos
—The trauma of sexual approval and body image issues
—Academic achievement as a mask for addiction
—The power of accountability and confession
—The five-day binge that led to a spiritual breaking point
—How Jesus used a crucifix in a Catholic church to meet her
—Why sobriety alone isn’t enough—and what true healing takes

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Get her book: 52 Life Lessons I Learned in Recovery

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Order the new book, Confessions of a Christian Alcoholic: www.christianalcoholic.com.

Watch this episode and get daily motivation: www.theveritasdaily.com.

Support the Show: https://www.jonseidl.com/

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