Tera and Wes open up about going through an emotional disconnect and how they rebuilt their relationship using the Connection Codes method. They discuss their struggles with loneliness, guilt, and fear, and how these emotions impacted their marriage and family life. Tera and Wes also explore how learning to process emotions in the moment has helped them break old patterns of conflict, ultimately leading to a stronger, more connected partnership. This episode shows us how slowing down and creating emotional safety can transform a relationship.

Links and Resources:

• Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠⁠

• To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠

• To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠⁠

• Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach⁠

Chapters

• 00:00:00 - The Start of Our Connection Codes Journey

• 00:02:35 - How Our Journey Began During COVID

• 00:04:22 - The Core Emotion Wheel: A Life-Changing Tool

• 00:05:07 - Real-Time Emotion Wheel: An Unfiltered Demo

• 00:09:07 - Wes Opens Up: His Path to Emotional Awareness

• 00:12:08 - Tara’s Reflection on Connection and Communication

• 00:13:51 - The Tough Stuff: Breaking Through Emotional Barriers

• 00:19:34 - Parenting with Emotional Awareness: The Real Impact

• 00:25:23 - Emotional Anchoring: How to Stay Grounded in the Chaos

• 00:26:06 - Reflecting on Old Conflicts and New Growth

• 00:27:05 - Sticking with It: Committing to Emotional Growth

• 00:28:24 - Real-Life Transformation: What It Looks Like

• 00:30:42 - Processing Emotions in Real Time: No More Bottling It Up

• 00:37:04 - Creating a Safe Space: The Key to Emotional Healing

• 00:41:30 - The Challenges of Holding Space for Each Other

• 00:45:45 - Wrapping Up: Final Thoughts and Encouragement

In this episode, the team is diving into the challenges of dealing with difficult family dynamics, focusing on the difference between disassociation and stunt doubling. The hosts share stories about how overwhelming situations, especially with family, can lead to shutting down emotionally or "faking it" just to get through. They explain how disassociation can protect us in moments of stress but can also lead to deeper problems, while stunt doubling is a conscious choice to stay present without fully opening up. They are letting you in on ways to get through these tough moments, helping you find balance between staying true to yourselves and protecting their mental well-being.

Links and Resources:

Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠

To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠

To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠

Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach

Chapters 00:00:00 - When to Show Up or Fake It: Intro to Stunt Doubling vs. Disassociation 00:01:13 - Panic on the Road: How Family Stress Can Lead to Disassociation 00:02:42 - Disassociation: The Mind’s Escape Hatch We All Use 00:04:15 - Driving Blind: Personal Stories of Emotional Shut Down 00:07:59 - Stunt Doubling: Why Pretending Might Save Your Relationships 00:11:08 - The Battle Between Authenticity and Survival 00:15:16 - Culture and Disassociation: Are We All Just Numb? 00:18:18 - Stunt Doubling: A Strategy for Emotional Survival 00:21:42 - Finding Safety: A Client’s Journey Through Stunt Doubling 00:23:51 - How to Stunt Double Without Losing Yourself 00:26:34 - Navigating Life’s Stressful Moments: When to Stunt Double vs. Disassociate 00:31:18 - Core Emotion Wheel: The Tool That Keeps You Grounded 00:34:50 - Wrapping Up: Tools and Insights for Navigating Family Dynamics

In this episode, the Connection Codes team is discussing the impact of emotional and physical pain on our daily lives and relationships. They share personal stories about how unprocessed emotions can show up physically as chronic pain and stress, affecting our ability to experience joy and connection. They also give advice on how to recognize and address these emotions so we can break free from the cycle of pain and live a more fulfilled life.

Links and Resources:

• Book a discovery call for Overwhelm Overhaul: ⁠⁠⁠https://calendly.com/tera-wages/30min⁠⁠⁠
• To download the Core Emotion Wheel: ⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠
• To enroll in Foundations use the code PODCAST for 20% off: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://tinyurl.com/rnyne5jf⁠⁠⁠
• Learn more about becoming a Certified Connection Codes Coach: ⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠⁠https://www.connectioncodes.co/certified-coach

Chapters

• 00:00:00 - Joyful Reunion: Reconnecting and New Beginnings

• 00:00:36 - Diving Deep: The Reality of Pain and Chronic Pain

• 00:01:27 - Welcome: Exploring Human Connection on the Connection Codes Podcast

• 00:02:01 - A Fresh Start: New Studio and a Surprise Reveal

• 00:04:21 - Why Core Emotions Matter: Understanding the Foundation

• 00:05:18 - Choosing Favorites: The Core Emotions That Drive Us

• 00:08:36 - Productivity vs. Emotions: The Unseen Connection

• 00:13:17 - Core Emotion Wheel: A Practical Exercise for Daily Life

• 00:18:45 - Unpacking the Layers: Emotional Triggers and Responses

• 00:23:53 - The Power of Connection: Transforming Relationships and Lives

• 00:25:57 - Certified Coaching Program: Empowering Others to Spread the Word

• 00:26:32 - Living in Pain: The Interplay Between Emotional and Physical Suffering

• 00:28:00 - Unprocessed Emotions: The Hidden Impact on Your Well-Being

• 00:30:36 - Stories of Pain: Personal Accounts and Shared Experiences

• 00:35:01 - Processing Emotions: Why It’s Crucial for Health and Happiness

• 00:40:07 - Practical Tips: Strategies for Maintaining Emotional Health

• 00:48:53 - Final Thoughts and Resources: Tools for Your Journey