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Have you been trying to fit your grief journey into the famous five stages model, wondering if you're grieving "correctly"? It's time to set the record straight about one of the most misunderstood frameworks in grief support.

The five stages of grief—denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance—have been deeply misinterpreted by mainstream culture. As a grief therapist with nearly 30 years of experience, I'm pulling back the curtain on this model's origins, limitations, and how it's often misused. Dr. Kübler-Ross originally observed these emotional responses in dying patients, not in those grieving a loved one's death. Though later adapted for the bereaved, these stages were never meant to be followed sequentially or treated as required milestones.

Will this be the summer that changes everything for you? You’ve done the grief support groups. You’ve thought about therapy. You’ve tried so hard to figure this out. Yet, nothing seems to be bringing you inner peace, emotional stability, or a sense of purpose.

A lot of us get stuck here.

The good news: This summer I’ve opened my calendar to guide a small number of you 1:1.

You’ll learn the most potent yet gentle coping strategies. You’ll get j

Book a Call to learn more about working with me 1:1 this Summer https://link.crmdonebetter.com/widget/bookings/discovery-call-with-diane

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This podcast is not medical advice, psychotherapy or counseling. It is for educational and entertainment purposes only. If you or someone you know is in crisis dial or text 988 for the suicide crisis lifeline.

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Do you remember your first?

Hello everyone. Today we are going to take a fresh look at our earliest memorable loss and use it to shed some light on how we navigate grief now.

How we navigated our earliest loss, can actually tell us some things. The emotions we felt, the beliefs we had, how we responded to the loss, and the support we may or may not have received are all stored in our memory files.

The body remembers and the unconscious mind remembers.

Our unconscious mind tends to repeat what it knows. It turns to the familiar, even if it isn’t what’s best for us.

Looking back can actually serve us quite well.

Listen to find out why!

Here's to your beautiful resilience!

~Diane

Will this be the summer that changes everything for you? You’ve done the grief support groups. You’ve thought about therapy. You’ve tried so hard to figure this out. Yet, nothing seems to be bringing you inner peace, emotional stability, or a sense of purpose.

A lot of us get stuck here.

The good news: This summer I’ve opened my calendar to guide a small number of you 1:1.

You’ll learn the most potent yet gentle coping strategies. You’ll get j

Book a Call to learn more about working with me 1:1 this Summer https://link.crmdonebetter.com/widget/bookings/discovery-call-with-diane

Follow me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/diane.debobesbonilla

Follow me on Instagram @dianebonillacoaching

This podcast is not medical advice, psychotherapy or counseling. It is for educational and entertainment purposes only. If you or someone you know is in crisis dial or text 988 for the suicide crisis lifeline.

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In today's episode I talk about a specific type of grief that tends to be ignored, dismissed, and underestimated. It's grief that commonly surfaces during major life events like graduation.

Beginnings, endings, and changes are big opportunities for this type of grief to drop in unexpectedly. You'll gain clarity about what this grief is and why this grief can be confusing and underappreciated. You'll also learn 3 impactful strategies to respond to it, so you're more confident and prepared.

We are just now entering the May, June graduation season. College, high school and maybe even preschool students will be walking across stages everywhere and flipping their tassels. Let’s throw some weddings in there, job changes and location moves. We are in a season of milestones and change.

I have 3 family members graduating this year, 2 from high school and 1 from college... a niece and 2 nephews. But it was only 2 years ago my youngest was flipping her tassel and walking across the stage at Mount Holyoke. I remember the grief amidst the excitement and joy of that time.

Grief comes in many shapes and sizes, but it’s not always directly associated with death. Today I’m focusing more on graduation, but this information applies to many different kinds of beginnings, endings, and changes:

Weddings, promotions, job changes, divorce, separation, moving to a new area, kids moving out, and the college launch.…just to name a few.

In any of these life events, grief can remain just under the surface, at an almost undetectable level, or it can present itself with intensity.

Let's dive in and explore this together! Here's to your beautiful resilience!

Will this be the summer that changes everything for you? You’ve done the grief support groups. You’ve thought about therapy. You’ve tried so hard to figure this out. Yet, nothing seems to be bringing you inner peace, emotional stability, or a sense of purpose.

A lot of us get stuck here.

The good news: This summer I’ve opened my calendar to guide a small number of you 1:1.

You’ll learn the most potent yet gentle coping strategies. You’ll get j

Book a Call to learn more about working with me 1:1 this Summer https://link.crmdonebetter.com/widget/bookings/discovery-call-with-diane

Follow me on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/diane.debobesbonilla

Follow me on Instagram @dianebonillacoaching

This podcast is not medical advice, psychotherapy or counseling. It is for educational and entertainment purposes only. If you or someone you know is in crisis dial or text 988 for the suicide crisis lifeline.