In this episode, I chat with Nicole Middendorf, wealth advisor and certified divorced financial analyst, CEO of Prosperwell Financial in Minnetonka Minnesota, public speaker, coach, author of five books, mother of two children, and domestic abuse survivor.

Nicole and I share discussions on the impact of doing scary things, navigating life changing events, and how absolutely amazing solo travel for women can be.

Nicole talks about her "Live It List" and how it has shaped her philosophy on life and her ability to go from simply surviving life to thriving. "Every time you do something new, big or small, it gives you more resilience, more confidence." Nicole also reminds us that it is okay to want - and live the life you desire.

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In this episode, I reflect on the constant cycles of change that life brings and how those shifts have been showing up in my own world lately. Between moving, parenting, building a new life, and saying goodbye to the old one, I’ve been riding the waves of transition—sometimes feeling grounded, and sometimes completely overwhelmed.

One thing I’ve learned is how powerful the quiet moments are. They’re often the only time emotions we’ve tucked away finally surface—grief, fear, uncertainty—but also clarity, creativity, and hope. A short drive or a slow walk in the park can suddenly become the space where big realizations happen. That’s where healing begins. That’s where new visions start to take shape.

This episode is about letting yourself feel it all—honoring the grief that comes with change, but also welcoming the optimism of new beginnings. It’s about being present, building a life of intention, and demonstrating what resilience really looks like. Because healing doesn’t happen in the chaos. It happens in the quiet.

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In this episode of Heal That Shit, I speak with healer Wendy Benning-Swanson about her journey through grief and loss, the importance of self-discovery, and the path to empowerment. Wendy shares her experiences with grief after losing her husband and how it led her to explore spirituality and healing practices.

The conversation delves into the significance of joy, the role of fear in personal growth, and the necessity of self-reflection and forgiveness in the healing process. Wendy emphasizes that healing is a personal journey that requires willingness and effort, and that understanding one's purpose can lead to a more fulfilling life.
Wendy's company is called Innerpowerment. If you are interested in working with her you can learn more at wendybenningswanson.com or on Facebook, Instagram, or LinkedIn.
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This week Facebook memories shared a couple of videos I posted this time last year about my experience dating in my 40s, all of the trauma most of us are sifting through in our lives in an attempt to be happy and possibly find someone to share that happiness with, and the realization that trying to date at this point in life is filled with challenges that did not exist in our 20s.

The truth is most of us who have found ourselves unexpectedly single in our 40s are recovering from trauma from past relationships, just now digging into issues that have shaped us from our childhood, and learning not only how to understand ourselves, but how to navigate that awareness while simultaneously trying to navigate someone else's experiences that have shaped their thoughts, beliefs, feeling and fears.

Its ugly. It's messy. But it's also a great opportunity for practice in becoming the best version of ourselves as each interaction can bring awareness to places where healing is needed and provide an opportunity to choose differently this time.

Because that is how you break patterns...by making a new choice when faced with familiar circumstances.

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How the fuck did I get here?

That question has been on repeat in my head since I landed in Great Falls, Montana. A year ago, I lost my job, and what felt like a crisis quickly became a lesson in surrender. I spent months trying to trust the process, but as my bank account drained, so did my patience. Out of over 100 job applications in 11 states, only Montana called back. And just like that, I packed up my life and moved to a city I’d never even visited before my interview.

Looking back, I realize this didn’t happen overnight. It started with a terrible second date in September 2023 that led me to swipe on someone from Montana, which planted the seed that maybe Minnesota wasn’t where I was meant to be. From there, a series of small but significant moments including random connections, impulsive trips, and unexpected friendships all pushed me further down a path I wasn’t even aware I was on. When I finally let go of trying to control everything, the universe made the decision for me.

Now, I’m here, alone in a one-bedroom apartment, my kids still in Minnesota, our home filled with the people I love, but without me. That house was more than just walls. It was the center of my world, sheltering my family in ways I never fully appreciated until now. And yet, I know I can’t go back. Every time I’ve tried to recreate something from my past, it’s only led to a distorted version of what once was.

So, I have to move forward, even if I don’t know what that looks like yet. The blank slate in front of me is both terrifying and full of possibility. I don’t have the answers, and I don’t feel ready. But maybe that’s the point.

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In this episode, I chat with Brent Woodman, public speaker and coach from Your Limitless Coach. In this conversation we talk about finding your purpose, identifying what drives you, and aligning your why and your values in order to create an intentional life.

We chat about our childhood experiences and how the examples we received from our parents and how they raised us impacted our beliefs and mindsets around success, money, and what a good life is supposed to look like.

The truth is the road to success is bumpy, messy, and filled with setbacks and detours. But those bumps, failures, and experiences along the way are all part of the process designed to show us what we don't want, discover what we do, and provide opportunities to grow into the person we we're meant to be.

If you're interested in working with Brent, you can find him on LinkedIn: www.linkedin.com/in/brentwidman/ or contact him at 507-382-7641.

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Over the past few weeks, I've been reflecting on a common theme that’s been popping up for me, and I think it’s something we can all relate to. As we move through different chapters of our lives, we’re faced with the tough task of deciding what we want to take with us. This could be physical things, mental baggage, or even relationships. What’s truly worth holding onto, and what’s time to let go of? I’ve had some personal experiences that really brought this idea home for me, and I hope by sharing them, it gives you something to think about as you step into this new year.

One thing that really stuck with me was an interview I watched with Spencer Pratt and Heidi Montag about losing their home in the California wildfires. The way Heidi described the moment when they realized the fire was getting too close, when Spencer asked her, “What do you want to take?” and she was too overwhelmed to even answer. That moment stuck with me because, while I can’t imagine losing everything so suddenly, I know we all have attachments to our things. Whether it’s sentimental value or a sense of security, our possessions feel like part of who we are. But what really inspired me was their story of resilience and community. Instead of asking for money, Spencer simply asked people to stream Heidi’s music. And within hours, her album went to number one on iTunes. It reminded me how powerful it can be to ask for help when we need it, even in the most unexpected ways.

This theme of letting go really hit home for me as I’m in the middle of preparing for a big move. I’m relocating across the country for a new job, and I had to make some tough choices about what I can actually take with me. The hard truth is that I can only fit so much into the back of my minivan. I had to let go of a lot of things, but I also chose to bring things that would offer me comfort and a sense of stability, like my favorite chipped coffee mug, the recliner I rocked both of my babies to sleep in, and even my dad’s ashes. It’s painful to leave things behind, especially when you can’t bring everything you want, but it’s also part of the process. Change is hard, but it’s necessary for growth.

So, as you look ahead to 2025, I want to challenge you: What are you choosing to take with you as you move forward? What’s essential for your journey, and what no longer fits? Let go of what’s weighing you down, and make space for what truly aligns with the next phase of your life.

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In this episode, I had the opportunity to chat with Joey Grasso of Relatable Reflections and Pure Love Vibes. Joey shared his story as we explored the idea that, despite differences in age (Gen X vs Gen Z), gender, and where we grew up, many of us go through similar struggles in life.
During our conversation, we delved into the importance of community in overcoming obstacles and finding strength. Joey and I agreed that having people to lean on at different points in life can make all the difference. It is essential to build communities that uplift and support one another, especially when life feels overwhelming or uncertain. This theme of connection and support really resonated throughout our discussion, reminding us that no one should have to face their struggles alone.
An inspiring takeaway from the conversation is the reminder that everyone, regardless of where they are in their own journey, has the ability to make a difference. The only requirement for making an impact is being a few steps ahead of someone else and using the knowledge and experiences we've gathered to help others. The message is clear: we all have a role to play in empowering those around us, and every step forward is an opportunity to lift someone else up. Come see the work he is doing to uplift others here:

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