Episode 055 – That Moment the Light Comes On

The Influence Every Day Show with Dr. Ed Tori

There’s a reason people run back to their comfort zone. The darkness is familiar. Safe. Predictable.

But what if the pain you feel when the light comes on isn’t a signal to retreat—but an invitation to awaken?

This episode is about that precise moment: when you get a glimpse of a better version of your life, your work, your relationships… and you flinch.

You’ll be challenged to examine the things you keep running back to:

• A toxic relationship.

• An outdated self-image.

• The excuse that keeps you stuck.

• The “almost ready” project collecting dust.

And you’ll be asked to do one brave thing: sit with the discomfort just long enough to see the world clearly.

This is your sign.

The light is already on.

Will you look?

If this spoke to you, send it to someone who needs to hear it.

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Episode 054 - Influence Every Day with Dr. Ed Tori

“No amount of guilt can change the past. No amount of worry can change the future.” So why do we keep living in both?

In this episode, Dr. Ed Tori unpacks a 1400-year-old quote from Umar ibn al-Khattab - a timeless framework for navigating regret, anxiety, self-compassion, and trust in the midst of responsibility.

You’ll explore:

• Why guilt is powerless to rewrite what’s already been written.

• How worry masquerades as preparation while robbing you of peace.

• What it actually means to “go easy on yourself” - and why it’s not about giving up.

• The difference between outcomes and obligations - and how that distinction fuels purposeful action.

• What to do when you feel like something should have been yours… but wasn’t.

This episode is more than reflection - it’s a reset.

For your thoughts.

For your effort.

For your peace of mind.

Whether you’re haunted by a past moment or bracing yourself for a future one, this conversation brings you back to the only place you have any power: right now.

Resources Mentioned:

• Hypnotic Gifts - Free Book: Learn how to transform someone’s life in a single conversation.

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If this episode resonated with you:

• Share it with someone who’s carrying guilt or worry.

• Leave a review so others can discover the show.

• And remember: You’re responsible for your effort - not the outcome.

Go forth. And influence for good. Every day.

There’s a massive difference between the people you spend time with and the time you spend with people.

One shapes who you’re becoming.

The other shapes how others become after encountering you.

In this episode, Dr. Ed Tori breaks down two deceptively similar phrases that hold the keys to your influence, your relationships, and your legacy. You’ll learn why being intentional about your proximity—and your presence—is one of the most powerful things you can do.

• Why “ambient influence” is silently shaping you every day

• The Jim Rohn quote you’ve heard—but redefined

• How to stop being the echo of your environment and start becoming the architect of your impact

• Why 10 seconds of intentional presence can outweigh an hour of surface-level interaction

• The single question to ask before every conversation: Who walks into the room when I walk into the room?

“It’s not about the duration of time—it’s about the depth of presence.”

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• Influence for good. Every day.

What shows up when you show up?

In today’s reflective and practical episode, Dr. Ed Tori breaks down a principle that quietly governs every great interaction, relationship, and result:

👉 It starts before it begins.

Whether you’re leading a meeting, pitching a client, parenting your kids, or changing your life—success hinges on what happens long before the moment itself. From managing your state… to prepping your message… to building skills… to shaping your character… influence begins long before you speak a single word.

• Why managing your state is not the deepest layer of preparation

• The four layers that influence outcomes—before you even enter the room

• How character isn’t just what you have, it’s what shows up

• A practical reframe that connects emotional regulation, preparation, skill, and identity

• What makes a powerful first impression in a world full of authenticity detectors

If you’ve ever wondered why some people seem to radiate influence the moment they arrive… this episode gives you the roadmap.

• 💡 HypnoticGiftsBook.com — Transform someone’s life in a single conversation.

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The Influence Every Day Show with Dr. Ed Tori

In this unscripted, heartfelt episode, Dr. Ed Tori reflects on how we experience time—not just in fleeting moments, but in beads, strings, chapters, and eras. Inspired by a wedding anniversary, the coloring of a weekly life box, and meaningful family conversations, Ed invites you to pause… and see time differently.

Through the lens of influence and gratitude, this short episode will challenge you to:

• Rethink how your life is unfolding

• Reconnect with people who matter

• Reframe your past—not to rewrite it, but to reclaim it

• Reach out before the moment slips away

This is more than a reflection. It’s a quiet call to action.

• Why moments can pivot an entire life

• How beads of time create meaningful experiences

• The concept of strings—the threads that quietly weave our story

• Defining chapters and seasons of life with deeper clarity

• A gratitude practice that bridges past, present, and possibility

• Hypnotic Gifts – How to change someone’s life in a single conversation

• Influence Book Club – Join the club, build the skill, live the impact

Before your next meeting, message, or moment—pause and reflect:

• What thread are you in right now?

• Who from your past made a mark on you?

• What chapter are you grateful for—even if it hurt?

Then, go create a moment worth remembering.

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“When we change the way we see things, the things we see change.” — Max Planck

In this episode, Dr. Ed Tori explores a surprising truth: there are moments when we actually see better without directly focusing on what’s in front of us. From stargazing and puzzle-solving to elite-level sports and high-stakes conversations, the way we use our eyes says a lot about how we move through the world—and how we influence others in it.

You’ll learn:

• 🌓 Why looking slightly off to the side can help you see in the dark.
• 👀 How squinting can sharpen your perception by blurring the details.
• 🌐 What “soft eyes” are—and why they’re a secret weapon for leaders, athletes, artists, and everyday communicators.
• 🔄 How shifting your perception (literally and metaphorically) can transform your relationships and your influence.

This isn’t just about vision—it’s about vision. Seeing others differently. Seeing challenges differently. Seeing yourself differently.

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• 📅 Book a Strategy Call – Get help with your toughest communication challenge.
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If today’s episode helped you see something differently, share it with someone who needs that shift.

You never know who you might influence—just by passing it on.

What if the treasure you’ve been searching for… is already under your feet?

In this episode, Dr. Ed Tori shares one of the most enduring—and surprisingly unknown—stories in personal development: Acres of Diamonds, made famous by Russell Conwell. But this isn’t just a history lesson. It’s a powerful metaphor for modern life, influence, leadership, and connection.

You’ll discover:

• The surprising origin of Temple University—and how a single story helped build it.
• Why we often miss the diamonds in our own lives, careers, and relationships.
• How “scroll culture” and comparison trap us in the illusion of greener grass.
• What conversational hypnosis and hypnotic gifts have to do with uncovering buried potential—in yourself and others.
• How to help others mine the diamonds within their own story, team, or skillset—one conversation at a time.

This episode isn’t just insight. It’s a call to mine what’s already yours—and to help others do the same.

🔑 Featured Book

Hypnotic Gifts: How to Change Someone’s Life in a Single Conversation

Learn how to uncover diamonds in everyday dialogue—visit: HypnoticGiftsBook.com

💬 Mentioned Links

• Book a strategy call: InfluenceConsult.com
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Share it with a leader, parent, coach, or friend you know is sitting on acres of diamonds that they, for some reason, do not see.

🎙️ Episode 048 – The Influence Every Day Show with Dr. Ed Tori

Have you ever wondered why some ideas stick while others fade? Or why a simple phrase or object can instantly bring a thought to mind? In this episode, Dr. Ed Tori explores the science of triggers—powerful cues that influence our thoughts, behaviors, and decisions.

Drawing insights from Jonah Berger’s Contagious: Why Things Catch On, Dr. Tori reveals how everyday items can be used to shape perception, drive conversations, and even influence behavior on a subconscious level.

In This Episode, You’ll Learn:

✅ Why top of mind equals tip of tongue—and how you can use this to your advantage

✅ How a simple book title and a face mask helped Dr. Tori secure an empty seat on a packed flight

✅ The surprising connection between a NASA Pathfinder mission and a surge in Mars Bar sales

✅ How Dr. Tori tried to get the hospital marketing department to use triggers from sports and everyday signs

✅ Why Kit Kat’s “Give Me a Break” jingle is a masterclass in branding and influence

This episode is packed with real-world examples of how triggers shape human behavior—whether in marketing, communication, or daily interactions. If you want to make your message more memorable, this is an episode you won’t want to miss!

Resources & Links Mentioned:

• 📖 Contagious: Why Things Catch On by Jonah Berger
• 📖 Made to Stick by Chip Heath & Dan Heath

Continue the Conversation & Level Up Your Influence:

• Join the Influence Book Club: InfluenceBookClub.com
• Get early access to Dr. Tori’s upcoming book Hypnotic Gifts: HypnoticGiftsBook.com
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