What if the secret to living your best life... is remembering that it won’t last forever?

In this episode of Love, Happiness, and Success, I’m joined by author and mindset coach Karen Salmansohn to explore how the ancient principle of memento mori—remembering that you will die—can radically transform the way you live right now.

Together, we unpack how mortality awareness isn’t morbid at all—it’s deeply motivational. When you get clear on what truly matters, you can stop spinning your wheels and start living for meaning with clarity, courage, and joy.

We’ll explore identity-based habits, reverse-engineering your values, and how writing your own eulogy (yep, really!) can actually help you build a life you’re proud to live. This isn’t about bucket lists or productivity hacks—it’s about being intentional and making sure your time, energy, and love are going exactly where you want them to.

Timestamps:
0:00 – The Problem With To-Do Lists
3:12 – Facing the Funeral Test: What Will They Say About You?
6:38 – Memento Mori: Mortality as a Motivator
15:05 – Identity-Based Habits and Core Values
20:44 – Who Do You Need to Become?
24:18 – A Ripple Effect That Lasts Generations
27:35 – Aristotle’s Happiness Formula
32:10 – The Near-Life Experience We Must Escape
36:42 – Your “To-Die” List vs Your To-Do List
40:55 – Creating Daily Habits That Reflect Who You Want to Be
44:00 – What Happens When You Align With Your Core Values
47:26 – The Marble Ritual: Measuring Time With Intention
53:18 – Monthly Reflections and Making This Summer Count
58:01 – Why Fun and Gratitude Are Core Values Too
1:02:20 – It’s Not About Death—It’s About Life
1:07:08 – How to Start Living for Meaning Now

Don’t wait for a crisis to wake you up. Choose to wake up now. Live for meaning. Be intentional. Remember that life is short, and that’s what makes it beautiful.

And if you’re feeling stuck or overwhelmed by where to begin, I’d love to help. My Clarity and Confidence Coaching was made for moments just like this one. In this powerful work, you’ll reconnect with your deepest values, rediscover your purpose, and learn how to make intentional choices that move you toward the life you truly want.

Whether you’re navigating a big life transition or simply ready to stop running on autopilot, coaching gives you tools, insight, and support to create lasting, meaningful change.

Curious if it’s right for you? You can schedule a free consultation with our team. We’ll talk about where you are, where you want to go, and how clarity and confidence coaching can help you bridge the gap.

Also, come hang out with me on Instagram or YouTube — I’m always sharing tips, inspiration, and behind-the-scenes real talk to help you stay connected to what really matters.

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. If this message resonated with you, think of someone in your life who might need to hear it too. Forward this article to them. Let’s keep the ripple going. That’s living for meaning, too.

Ever looked around and thought, “I hate my life… I don’t want to do this anymore”?

If that’s where you are right now—first of all, I’m giving you a big virtual hug.

Second of all, you’re not broken, you’re not failing, and you’re on the right track. This moment could be the best thing that’s happened to you in a long time. Why? Because that awful, burn-it-all-down energy can also be your launchpad to something way, way better.

In this episode of the Love, Happiness and Success podcast, I’ll walk you through my step-by-step process to help you stop spiraling, get clear, and create a life you’re genuinely excited to wake up to.

It’s time to harness the power of that personal meltdown and turn it into the catalyst for a total life upgrade.

Timestamps:
0:00 – The “I Hate My Life” Moment: Why It’s Actually a Gift
2:36 – Your Inner Flare Gun: Pain as Your Wake-Up Call
5:20 – Step 1: Get Honest About What’s Not Working
8:12 – Step 2: Define What You Do Want (With Real Specifics)
12:47 – Step 3: The Real Reason You’re Stuck—Obstacles and Skills Gaps
17:09 – Step 4: Ask the Power Question That Changes Everything
21:42 – Step 5: Build Your Action Plan (One Small Step at a Time)
25:33 – When It’s More Than Frustration: Signs of Depression & What To Do
30:55 – What Comes Next: From Stuck to Strategy

If you’re sitting there thinking, "Yes. This is exactly where I am and I’m ready to change," I want you to know: you don’t have to figure this out alone.

My Clarity and Confidence Coaching is designed for moments just like this. We’ll help you get unstuck, gain clarity on what you really want, identify obstacles (including sneaky internal ones), and create a plan that actually works.

The best part? You can book a free consultation call right now to get matched with the right coach for you. You’ll get to work with one of our expert therapists trained in coaching psychology at a fraction of the normal cost. Because money should never be the thing that keeps you stuck.

Oh! And don’t forget to follow me on Instagram or subscribe on YouTube. I share interviews with experts, motivational tips, and evidence-based strategies to create love, happiness, and success in your life. I’d love to see you there.

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. Know someone else who's silently thinking “I hate my life”? Be their light today. Share this video with them. You might just change everything. 💫

Let’s be honest: if overthinking were an Olympic sport, I would’ve medaled by age ten. And attempts to stop overthinking often never work or they unintentionally make it worse. You too? Then friend, you’re in the right place.

As a therapist and coach, I’ve worked with thousands of thoughtful, high-achieving, big-hearted humans who are amazing at thinking things through—but sometimes that superpower turns into a mental trap. The good news? You can absolutely re-train your brain to work for you instead of against you.

In this episode, we’ll talk about what overthinking really is, how it’s different from anxiety, and the science-backed skills you can start using today to stop overthinking so you can finally find peace, trust yourself, and move forward with clarity and confidence.

Timestamps:
00:00 – Understanding Overthinking: The Basics
01:23 – When Caring Becomes Overthinking: Personality Traits That Fuel It
03:06 – Is It Anxiety or Just Overthinking? Here’s How to Tell
06:11 – 3 Steps to Stop Overthinking and Rewire Your Brain
09:52 – Overthinking in Relationships: How to Stop the Spiral
14:53 – Mastering Emotional Intelligence to Calm Your Mind
16:43 – When to Get Help: Coaching, Therapy, and Real Solution

If you're not totally sure why you're stuck in your head all the time, my free quiz What’s Holding You Back? is the perfect next step. It’ll help you uncover the mental and emotional patterns that might be fueling your overthinking—and give you personalized insight to start shifting out of it. Think of it like a flashlight for your inner world.

And if you’re ready for real change, you don’t have to figure this out alone. At Growing Self, our team of expert therapists and coaches offers support that’s actually effective. Whether you need therapy to tackle deeper anxiety or evidence-based coaching to build confidence and emotional intelligence, schedule a free consultation with us to get matched with someone who’s a great fit for you. No pressure. Just help.

Lastly, let’s stay connected! I’m always sharing new tools, insights, and behind-the-scenes goodies on Instagram and YouTube. Follow me there for weekly insights and support on your growth journey.

Xoxo

Dr. Lisa Marie Bobby

www.growingself.com

P.S. Know someone whose brain just won’t shhh lately? Be a good friend and share this episode with them. It might be exactly what they need today. 💛