Welcome to the LYS Podcast. Have you heard of the “Yes…and” concept? It’s routed in improvisational theater, but for our purposes we are using it as a valuable approach to life. A life navigation tool.

“Yes….and” does two primary things.

The “Yes” creates acceptance. The “and” pulls us into the present moment - where we decide what to do next. Stay tuned for this quick chat that helps us move through hard things

“Yes… and” is a building block. What is does is acknowledge the reality before you with the YES. Then the “and” is the jumping off point for what you’ll do about it. How you’ll build on what is.

In the realm of improvisation, actors employ “Yes, and” to foster collaboration and creativity. When one actor introduces and idea or action their scene partner accepts it with a “yes and then they add on new information. The scene builds this way, one block - or one “yes, and” at a time.

The alternative is to fight what is…. the first actor just introduced an embarrassing idea that I don’t want to engage with. In the scene, I can’t stop and demand they change their contribution, I just get to keep the momentum building and decide what to do with it, how to build my way out of it…

For example - You’re in an improv scene where the first actor just admits to a crowd of people that you caught an STD in a salacious way, now it’s your turn to figure out how to turn this scene around. What do you do with this twist in the plot? In improv you simply have to make a choice what to do next. You can’t stomp off, you can’t demand they come up with something less personal, you don’t stop the show….you figure out how to play out the scene.

Ok. So let’s apply this simple concept to real life.

I have a sticky note on my desk that says “Yes, and…” in big letters. It reminds me that when something happens, when I’m struggling with something going on in my life, that sitting and wishing it was different, or letting it cause continued anxiety in me while I wallow in what is, are both completely in effective. They are the equivalent of being stuck in a mud bog. Here’s the hero of the story, stuck up to her thighs in a slimy mud bog.

Let’s just take today: I’m recording this in July. My lawn is dying in spots and it’s frustrating. I acknowledge every day that the crisp yellow grass shouldn’t be there, I’m watering it. But it is. So, I can keep feeling the frustration and knowing it shouldn’t be this way, day after day, or I can say Yes - this is happening, my lawn is struggling. Accept it, whether it “should” be that way or not. Now comes the “and.” What will I do differently about this thing? I will water it more, and/or I will change fertilizer. A decision has been made. I’ve accepted what is and I’ve moved on to action.

Next example: I’m working with a new group of women doing the 21 LIFE Connection Challenges. We started out with almost 10 people and after the first week only 4 are checking in regularly. Now, I have a number of feelings about this. 1. I know this is how it goes. Every time. It takes a modicum of dedication to stick with the challenges and most of the time less than half of the groups make it through. Not because the challenges are terribly hard, but they lose focus, get busy, put it off. So, I know this is going to happen but I still feel bad for all the great women who are missing out on what they could have gotten out of it. 2. I feel frustration that discipline is so hard for so many. So the first thing that I need to do to stop resentment from building is to accept that it’s happening and then decide how I want to deal with it. The “and” for me on this one is that I want to give all my best attention to those who stick with

Welcome to the Love Your Story podcast! Today we’re here for a dose of inner peace. Isn’t that what we’re all searching for? Some days we may have a taste, some days it’s a million miles away.

Today Sohale Sizar, the founder of Soul, with the mission to illuminate the daily practice of gratitude for his rapidly growing online community, - which I”m a part of - is here and we’re talking about the practice of spiritual alchemy, knowing ourselves, and finding that illusive inner peace and joy. Stay tuned. We have something for you.

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Sohale Sizar has been an entrepreneur since the age of nine with fifteen years of dedicated practice in meditation and gratitude. Sohale translated his experiences into earning a Stanford MBA and building ventures spanning non-profit charities, education, and consumer technology. Sohale is now an entrepreneur on a mission to facilitate access to one's inner light. - Let’s find that inner light.

Sohale, thank you for being here today.

Join us on the audio program to hear our discussion about thing like this:

1. Tell us your story - usually we all have something happen in our lives that helps us learn or understand a thing better, and then we often want to share it. First - How did you get to this place, Second - what is your mission, and Third - how do you do it?
2. What is spiritual alchemy?
3. What do you think creates inner peace?
4. What is an “inner light”?
5. What sorts of ways do you suggest we “get to know ourselves?”

Thanks for being here today. I know your time is precious and we honor the time you spend with us.

Join us in two weeks for a Quick Chat - One Inspirational Idea in 15 minutes or less. And please, share this episode - it’s super easy to do - just send a link to someone you know. It’s a great way to share the love and make the world better.

The Love Your Story podcast will be taking a break toward the end of 2024. Thanks for being a part of our audience. I'd love to hear from you about your favorite episode or what you've enjoyed about the show. lorijlee@msn.com

Have a great week living your life on purpose.

Finding Sohale Sizar:

Website: https://www.bringsoul.life/ , https://www.sohale.org/about

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Welcome to the LYS Podcast. Let’s talk about road maps! Ever wished you had a road map to help life go a little smoother?

How many every-day situations do we just barge our way through? For most of us - that would be almost all of them. We head to a family party only to leave having gotten in a fight with a sibling because we got caught up in a reactive situation. We go on a walk with a friend and feel frustrated that the conversation was so focused on their bad relationship. We head into a client meeting and come out feeling like that could have gone better and we should have gotten more accomplished.

It’s a simple question: How could this experience have gone better if I’d clarified ahead of time what I wanted out of this interaction. Stay tuned because this tool changes everything.

This simple idea today is about checking in with yourself before you head into any situation, to see what you really hope it holds for you. This is SOOO simple, but so powerful. #LIFEHACK

Setting a clear intention before entering in to an interaction is a tool that shapes the dynamics of human interaction. It shapes your stress levels. It shapes what you allow to bother you and what you let slide. It shapes what you talk about and what you don’t talk about. It shapes what you focus on. It shapes your energy. In summary - it provides a simple road map for you, for the interaction, guiding your thoughts, words and actions.

This proactive approach fosters first - clarity for you and second, greater success in getting what you want from the situation.

When you are clear with yourself, about what you want to get out of an interaction you are much more likely to get that outcome-

Let me show you what I mean: I’m taking my boys skiing. If I identify before hand that my purpose with this outing is to build relationships with them, then I can clarify ahead of time that it’s not about doing the hardest runs I can find, it’s not about penny pinching by heading to the car at lunch to eat PB & Js. It’s about relationship building. Once I know that I can forgo my own desire to hit the hardest trails, if they don’t want to go on those same trails and it’s not a big deal. There is no struggle on the hill and I’ve already decided I’m not going to go shooting off to do my own runs. I already know that it’s about spending time with them and enjoying the runs they want to do. I can also choose to splurge on a lunch because they are young men who love a big juicy burger - I’ve identified before hand that t’s not about the money, it’s about the time with them. We can sit around the table and talk and enjoy ski lodge burgers.

Example #2 - Before a client meeting I might identify with myself that despite a huge list of things I need to cover with my clients, that this meeting is all about helping them understand the process involved in buying a home so they are clear on what to expect. It’s not about getting paperwork signed, or overwhelming them with all the dotted i’s and crossed t’s - even though those things are in my mind. When I stop and pin point what I really want from this meeting I can direct it, stay on point, not get discouraged that everything doesn’t get done, not force too much on them. Again, this pre determination allows me to proceed smoothly and unemotionally through the process of what I want to accomplish in this interaction and let all the other factors fall away for now.

One of the things I personally love about this is how much peace it brings to me in my interactions. It’s a great tool to help manage emotions. Interactions with family, friends, bosses, clients, etc. can all be very complex.. I have hot buttons and money issues. I have expectations