Kristen and Mike break down Marshall Goldsmith's influential book "What Got You Here Won't Get You There." While they praise the practical advice and behavioral frameworks in the book, they also challenge some of its core assumptions and discuss how leadership development has evolved since its 2007 publication. Through their analysis, they reveal how seemingly small behavioral habits can make or break a leader's effectiveness - and why changing these habits requires more than just willpower. The episode offers both practical tips for behavior change and a thoughtful critique of traditional executive coaching approaches, making it valuable for anyone looking to grow as a leader.

Highlights:

• The 20 workplace habits that can derail successful leaders and why "winning too much" tends to be the most common and destructive behavior
• How successful leaders typically exhibit 6-8 of these habits, and why identifying your one or two biggest problem areas is crucial for development
• The surprising reason why stopping negative behaviors can be more effective than trying to develop new positive ones
• A detailed breakdown of Goldsmith's seven-step change process, including how to gather feedback, apologize effectively, and follow through consistently
• Why traditional approaches to leadership development might oversimplify complex psychological factors like imposter syndrome and internal motivation
• The concept of "feedforward" and how this future-focused alternative to traditional feedback can create more openness to change
• How the simple act of saying "thank you" can transform the way you receive feedback and criticism
• An analysis of whether the book's somewhat rigid approach and lack of nuance still serves modern leaders effectively

Links & Resources Mentioned:

• What Got You Here Won't Get You There by Marshall Goldsmith
• Extreme Ownership by Jocko Willink
• How to Win Friends & Influence People by Dale Carnegie
• Dare to Lead by Brené Brown
• It's Your Ship by Michael Abrashoff
• Good to Great by Jim Collins
• The First 90 Days by Michael D. Watkins

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What's the real difference between a manager and a leader? While technical skills and industry knowledge matter, emotional intelligence often makes or breaks leadership effectiveness. In this episode, Kristen breaks down the Genos six key competencies of emotional intelligence and how they show up in leadership, while Mike adds his perspective (using an enlightening feelings wheel). Through practical examples and even a few Star Trek references, they explore how emotional intelligence impacts everything from decision-making to team performance. Whether you've heard of EI before or this is all new territory, you'll walk away understanding exactly what emotional intelligence looks like in action and how to start improving yours today.

Download your free PDF companion to this episode, featuring the Genos emotional intelligence model and 18 tips for boosting your EI: https://llpod.link/ei

Highlights:

• The history of emotional intelligence and how it became such an important leadership skill
• Why emotional intelligence can be learned (with the right approach)
• The research-backed benefits of emotional intelligence for leadership effectiveness
• A breakdown of the six Genos emotional intelligence competencies: self-awareness, awareness of others, authenticity, emotional reasoning, self-management, and inspiring performance
• How to actually improve your emotional intelligence through reflection, feedback, and intentional habit formation
• The balance between showing authenticity and managing emotions as a leader
• The critical importance of understanding both emotional and logical information in decision-making

Links & Resources Mentioned

• Free PDF: 18 Ways to Boost Your Emotional Intelligence
• Emotional Intelligence by Daniel Goleman
• Harvard Business Review: What Makes a Leader by Daniel Goleman
• Genos International
• Iron Sharpened Leadership by John Gronski
• Never Split the Difference by Chris Voss
• Feelings Wheel 2 Pack (from Amazon)

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In part two of their deep dive into Brené Brown's Dare to Lead, Kristen and Mike explore shame, empathy, and trust through both personal and professional lenses. Through vulnerable stories - including Mike's nerve-wracking experience of saying "I love you" first and Kristen's college final exam mishap - they break down how shame shows up in leadership and what to do about it. The episode unpacks practical frameworks for building trust, developing emotional literacy, and becoming more resilient. For leaders looking to create psychologically safe environments where their teams can take risks and bounce back from failure, this episode offers concrete tools and relatable examples of putting Brown's research into practice.

You can listen to part one here: https://www.loveandleadershippod.com/12

Highlights:

• The difference between shame ("I am bad") and guilt ("I did something bad"), and why this distinction matters for leadership
• How shame can permeate organizational culture through perfectionism, favoritism, and tying self-worth to productivity
• The BRAVING framework for building trust: Boundaries, Reliability, Accountability, Vault, Integrity, Non-judgment, and Generosity
• Understanding emotional literacy and why leaders need to be able to identify and name at least 30 different emotions
• Six common ways people offload emotions onto others, including "chandeliering" (sudden emotional outbursts from those in power)
• The importance of identifying personal and organizational values, and how to actually put them into practice
• Why "the story I'm telling myself" is a powerful tool for managing emotional reactions
• The three-step Learning to Rise process for building resilience: The Reckoning, The Rumble, and The Revolution

Links & Resources:

• Dare to Lead by Brené Brown
• Dare to Lead Hub - Free downloadable workbook and resources
• The Thin Book of Trust by Charles Feltman
• The Gifts of Imperfection by Brené Brown
• The Gap and The Gain by Dan Sullivan
• Good to Great by Jim Collins
• Extreme Ownership by Jocko Wilink
• Boundaries for Leaders by Dr. Henry Cloud

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Podcast Website: www.loveandleadershippod.com
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Learn more about Kristen's leadership coaching and facilitation services: http://www.emboldify.com