Episode 2 – Alone, Not Lonely: 50 Years of Finding My Own Path

Welcome back to Out Here, where life is solo, simple, and rural. In this deeply personal episode, Tom reflects on the first 50 years of his life — the triumphs, betrayals, missteps, and meaningful choices that led him to live alone by the lake in Northern Ontario.

He opens up about being the odd one out from a young age, why conforming never worked for him, the painful but powerful lessons learned from broken trust, and the freedom of embracing a "sigma male" identity.

Tom also discusses the difference between being alone and being lonely, the importance of finding joy instead of chasing fleeting happiness, and how choosing solitude has brought him healing, clarity, and purpose.

🔸 Reflections on high school alienation and college camaraderie
🔸 A raw look at betrayal, forgiveness, and emotional survival
🔸 Plant medicine, personal healing, and future plans in psychology
🔸 Joy vs. happiness, solitude vs. loneliness
🔸 A powerful case for forging your own life — no permission needed

This isn’t a midlife crisis. This is a midlife awakening.

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Ep 1 -- Life is Precious | Solo Life After 50

In this first full-length episode of Out Here, Thomas Detert sits by a real lakeside fire and opens up about the quiet decision that changed everything — leaving behind the city, the noise, the pressure, and trading it for solitude, clarity, and self-reliance in the rural north.

This episode is part story, part reflection, and fully real. Thomas shares the struggles of solo living, the miracle of life itself, his personal journey with high-functioning depression, and the deep satisfaction that comes from living in alignment with who you really are — not what the world expects of you.

You’ll hear how nature, personal growth, and a dog named Lukas all play a role in life after 50 — and why living “out here” may be the very thing your soul has been craving.

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Website: https://tomsview.ca

What if life after 50 wasn't about slowing down — but about coming fully alive?

In this short introductory episode, host Thomas Detert shares the heart behind Out Here: Finding Freedom After 50 — a podcast for men navigating the single life beyond 50 who want something real, quiet, and meaningful outside the noise of the city.

You’ll hear what inspired the show, who it’s for, and what to expect each week — including listener Q&As in Campfire Questions, and deeper reflections in Campfire Wisdom.

If you're walking a different road and looking for clarity, strength, and purpose in this next chapter, you’re in the right place.

Subscribe now and join us out here — where life still has a lot to offer, and your story is far from over.

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