Is it a date or two friends hanging out? Do you need to clarify? Is it wrong to confess by text? What about asking to hold hands? These are some of the questions we explore in the story of Lud and Mati.

🧝‍♂️ After meeting as part of a nerd group within their local Tolkien Association, Mati decided to take Lud on a date. But... she didn't know that it was a date! They spent months as friends, with him trying to know if she was interested, and her assuming that they were just friends.

🎲 With multiple critical fails in the middle, it took a common friend to bridge the gap between them.

🎧 Listen to this story and realize that, sometimes, even with many Natural 1s, you can still beat the game. 👾

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Timestamps for lazy nerds:

00:00:00 Game Start

00:01:43 Finding Nerd Friends

00:04:17 First Meet at a Tolkien Bar

00:06:42 Friends or date? Unclear!

00:08:47 Building Relationships

00:10:28 Critical Fail on a Physical Touch Check

00:11:53 Not a "Proper Date"

00:13:55 Second not-Date

00:15:57 Indirect Confession

00:18:54 Failed Confession via Text

00:22:01 Do you like your friend?

00:25:19 Asking to Hold Hands

00:26:43 Confessing vs. Escalating

00:31:38 Advice for Single Nerds

00:33:54 The Power of Friendship

Many have been rejected and friendzoned, but it's not often that we would do it to someone who did it to us. And yet, this is what happened to Vir.

In her story, they both rolled a Nat 1 on their perception and charisma checks: Their attraction didn't align, and they couldn't read the signs. So they had to be explicit and confess liking each other... Three times!

If you've wondered why someone doesn't realize that you like them, you think you're bad at "taking hints," or you think that the friendzone lasts forever (and that a rejection will bring your HP to 0), you should listen to this story!

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Timestamps for lazy nerds:

00:00:00 Intro

00:02:17 Meeting at work

00:04:47 Asking to hang out

00:07:20 Missing the Signals

00:11:36 Confessing

00:14:18 Getting Rejected and Friendzoned

00:20:14 Another Confession, Rejection, and Friend Zone

00:24:09 Confessing Verbally vs. Escalating Physically

00:27:57 Third Confession

00:31:52 Advice: Don't Expect Signals, and be Clear

How do nerds find love? Where do they meet people to date? Does it have to be at a bar or club? How do they avoid the friend zone? Do they go for the kiss or confess verbally? How do they deal with the fear of rejection? Do they approach people on the street? Or do they attract their perfect matches?

Level Up your Dating Skill with this podcast for introverted, shy, single geeks looking for a Player 2. I'm Alex Goldstein and I help shy nerds gain the Skills to find love.

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