Is reading smut mental cheating? Or is it the secret weapon to a more empowered, pleasure-filled life?
In this juicy, no-holds-barred episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah sits down with erotica author and podcaster Ruan Willow to explore the world of erotic romance, female desire, and why stories that turn women on are about so much more than sex.

From reclaiming "dirty" words to using fiction as foreplay, Ruan breaks down how smut, sensual stories, and sex-positive conversations can actually heal shame, unlock confidence, and transform relationships.

Whether you're new to erotic lit or a longtime lover of open-door romance, this episode is a spicy invitation to rethink what turns you on—and why that’s more powerful than you’ve been told.

💥 If you've ever felt guilty for what you like, or wondered if you're "too much"—this one is for you.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

• Why reading smut isn’t mental cheating—and might actually save your sex life

• The difference between porn and erotic romance (and why women crave the latter)

• How erotica helps women reclaim pleasure, power, and their own damn fantasies

• The healing power of fiction for trauma, shame, and even religious conditioning

• What most men misunderstand about women’s desires

• Why sexual empowerment is mental health, period

• Consent, kink, and the truth about ethical non-monogamy

• Ruan’s top writing tips—and how her characters lead the story (and the sex)
  
  

We get into:

• 00:00 Introduction

• 00:50 Ruan Willow's Journey into Erotic Romance

• 01:55 Debunking Myths About Erotic Romance

• 04:32 Writing Explicit Content: Challenges and Creativity

• 16:01 The Healing Power of Erotic Literature

• 21:51 Exploring Pseudo Incest in Literature

• 23:40 Family Reactions to Writing Romance

• 24:19 Diving into the 'Oh Fuck Yeah' Podcast

• 27:48 Impact of Podcasting on Writing

• 28:54 Writing About Non-Monogamous Relationships

• 32:54 Upcoming Erotic Romance Projects

• 35:06 Normalizing Sexual Conversations

• 39:21 Connecting with Fans and Final Thoughts

Connect with Ruan

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ruanwillowauthor/

• X: https://x.com/ruanwillow?lang=en

• Podcast: https://www.podchaser.com/podcasts/oh-fck-yeah-with-ruan-willow-1592675

• Books: https://books.ruanwillowauthor.com/

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com

Most men think they’ve got sex all figured out… but what if that confidence is exactly what’s keeping them from mind-blowing connection?

In this candid and wildly eye-opening episode of the Sex and Bacon podcast, Sarah is joined by Dallas Bluth, founder of Black Box Dating, to explore why so many men misunderstand what truly turns women on—and how they can flip the script for good.

From porn culture and rushed foreplay to emotional unavailability and outdated masculinity myths, this convo dives into the core of male sexuality, desire, and how to create actual intimacy (that leads to the hottest sex of your life).

💥 If you’ve ever thought “I’m doing everything right… so why isn’t it working?” — this one’s for you.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

• The biggest mistakes men make in bed

• Why slowing down changes everything

• What women actually mean when they say they need to feel safe

• The #1 mindset shift that makes sex hotter

• How porn rewires expectations and performance

• The real role of emotional intimacy in physical pleasure

• Tangible ways men can step into secure, grounded masculinity
  
  

We get into:

• 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast

• 00:58 Defining Really Hot Sex

• 02:14 Male vs. Female Perspectives on Sex

• 02:40 Understanding Male Sexuality

• 06:07 The Importance of Emotional Connection

• 16:27 Foreplay in Relationships

• 20:38 Acts of Service and Masculinity

• 34:19 Setting Standards in Relationships

• 46:20 The Impact of Pornography on Relationships

• 48:18 Desensitization and Addiction

• 49:47 Emotional and Sexual Escalation

• 50:42 The Importance of Non-Sexual Intimacy

• 55:06 Communication and Vulnerability in Relationships

• 58:18 Challenges in Married Life

• 01:01:32 Reigniting Passion in Long-Term Relationships

• 01:04:40 The Role of Masculine Energy

• 01:16:25 Creating Lighthearted and Carefree Experiences

• 01:26:59 Conclusion and Contact Information

Connect with Dallas

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dallas.bluth/

• Website: https://dallasbluth.com/

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com

In this episode of Sex & Bacon, I sit down with the always unfiltered Darby for a rollercoaster ride through dating disasters, sexual awakenings, and the spiritual side of swearing off men—temporarily.

We talk throuples, field apps, hat-fishing, giant dicks (that miss the G-spot), and the kind of kissing that makes you question if you even like the person. And then—curveball—Sarah shares her very real journey of trying celibacy… for six months. Kind of. Maybe. We’ll check back in 30 days.

Get ready for big laughs, bigger truths, and the kind of late-night convo you’d only have with your best friend and a half-empty glass of wine.

🔑 Key Themes & Takeaways:

Too Much Dick, Not Enough Spark
Why bigger isn’t always better and why chemistry matters more than checkboxes (even if the checkbox is “deep radio voice”).

Sensuality > Shits & Giggles
Sarah shares her first real experience with a couple—and what it taught her about connection, boundaries, and how much is too much pleasure in one night.

When Your Gut Says “No,” but Your Hormones Say “Let’s Go”
Why we sometimes ignore our instincts when someone checks all the right boxes—except the emotional availability one.

Six Months of Celibacy (Allegedly)
Sarah swears off dating and sex for six months to heal, set boundaries, and get clear… but can she make it past day 30 without sexting someone in a cowboy hat?

Red Flags & Witches
From “build-a-boy” fantasies to sending money to witches (yep, that happened), we go there—and back again. Plus, what dating app culture really says about where we are emotionally.

Sisterhood Over Situationships
Through the mess and the magic, Sarah proves one thing: real friendship is what holds you when the bed’s cold and the heart’s hurting.

We get into:

• 00:00 Intro

• 00:25 Dating Woes and Celibacy Challenge

• 01:14 The Cowboy Chronicles

• 02:29 Exploring Throuples and New Dating Adventures

• 04:17 The Throuple Experience

• 08:49 New Connections and Insecurities

• 14:05 Navigating Relationship Red Flags

• 20:04 Warnings and Red Flags

• 21:04 Realization and Self-Reflection

• 23:32 Intimacy and Relationship Benchmarks

• 27:22 Commitment to a Dating Hiatus

• 31:51 Challenges and Support

• 40:36 Final Thoughts and Cheers

Connect with me

• Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/ownyourerotic

• YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@sexandbacon1065

• Email us: sexandbacon1@yahoo.com