Welcome to Episode 438 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Dr. Glenn and Phyllis Hill, who speak to me about emotional regulation, co-regulation, and their transformative journey in creating a stronger sexual connection through emotional attunement.

In this heartfelt episode, Glenn and Phyllis share their personal story of early sexual struggles and emotional disconnect in their marriage, which eventually led them on a lifelong quest for answers. Married since 1982, they recount decades of feeling lost and misunderstood, highlighting how a lack of emotional education contributed to sexual dissatisfaction and relational distance.

Dr Glenn & Phyllis Hill spent the first 30 years of their marriage living in disconnect. Their first sexual experience sent them into years of avoidance and pain. Dr Glenn was so determined to find out what went wrong that he went back to school & became a Marriage & Family Therapist and a Clinical Sexologist. But, it wasn't until he dug deep into emotional regulation that he discovered the source of all of their disconnect. From there, Dr Glenn & Phyllis created The Connection Codes- a framework to help couples connect emotionally and physically using their 4-minute exercise.

In this episode, you will hear:

· The Hills’ Personal Journey

· Why Emotional Education is Critical for a Healthy Sex Life

· The Impact of Emotional Wounding on Physical Intimacy

· How Emotional Dysregulation Disrupts Sexual Desire and Connection

· The “Four-Minute Tool” for Tuning Into Core Emotions

· Co-Regulation and Building Emotional Safety With Your Partner

· The Power of Naming Emotions Like Sadness, Hurt, and Joy

· How Sexual Banter Can Foster Intimacy Outside the Bedroom

· Practical Advice for Communicating Emotional Overwhelm

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Welcome to Episode 437 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Brittany Steffen, LMFT, who speaks to me about how couples can navigate and deepen their sexual communication.

In this episode, Brittany and I discuss the kinds of conversations couples should be having but often aren’t, especially when it comes to sex. We talk about the importance of discussing how and when to initiate sex, redefining what “counts” as sex, and how understanding each other’s intentions can greatly enhance intimacy.

Brittany Steffen is the owner and founder of Steffen Counseling Services. She earned her graduate degree in marriage and family therapy from Seattle Pacific University in 2012 and has worked as a therapist in the Seattle area for over a decade. In 2018, she began the process of becoming an AASECT Certified Sex Therapist to meet the growing demand for specialized sex therapy services.

In this episode, you will hear:

· Top Three Conversations Every Couple Should Have About Sex

· How To Navigate Desire Discrepancy Without Blame

· Shifting From Yes/No Sex to a Menu of Possibilities

· Why Defining “Sex” Broadly Can Improve Intimacy

· Understanding the Emotional Weight of Sexual Rejection

· How To Talk About Fantasies Without Pressure or Shame

· Requests vs. Demands: A Key Distinction in Sexual Communication

· Common Traps That Lead to Sexual Conflict in Long-Term Relationships

· How Self-Reflection Can Improve Your Sex Life

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Welcome to Episode 436 of the Sexology Podcast! Today I'm excited to be joined by Danielle Harel and Celeste Hirschman, co-founders of the Somatica Institute, who speak to me about sex parties. In this episode, we discuss the evolving landscape of sexual exploration, intentional relationship structures, and how sex parties can be transformative when approached with clear communication, consent, and a sense of curiosity.

Danielle and Celeste share their personal journey of entering the world of sex parties, offering valuable insight into how these experiences can deepen intimacy, spark erotic creativity, and provide healing opportunities for individuals and couples alike.

Danielle Harel, Ph.D., and Celeste Hirschman, M.A., are pioneers in intimacy, sexuality, and relationship coaching. Co-founders of the Somatica® Institute, they’ve transformed how love and connection are taught through their experiential, science-based Somatica Method. Together, they’ve trained over 1,000 coaches and helped countless individuals and couples embrace vulnerability, rediscover desire, and create deeply fulfilling relationships.

In this episode, you will hear:

· Understanding the Modern Role of Sex Parties

· Exploration of Monogamy, Polyamory Relationships

· The Importance of Clear Communication and Consent

· How Sex Parties Can Strengthen Emotional Intimacy

· Navigating Jealousy, Compersion, and Erotic Curiosity

· Preparation Tips for First-Time Attendees

· How to Host a Consent-Centered and Inclusive Event

· The Emotional Core Behind Erotic Desires

· Addressing Relationship Misconceptions Around Opening Up

· Resources for Finding and Learning About Sex-Positive Communities

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