Why do we keep secrets? Especially those that have to do with our sexuality or sexual expression? This is our first episode that may not be friendly for the car ride with your kids. We see it so often in our therapy offices, that one or both partners struggle with sexual secrets. We often justify the secret because it protects our partner, but are we really protecting ourselves from expected rejection. A difficult topic to be curious about for sure, and one that you may need the help of a therapist to flush out.

Show Hosts:

Chris Wells: chris@aohcc.com

Carolyn Wenner: carolynwenner3@gmail.com

Workshops Hosted by Carolyn and Chris:

Created for Connection: https://www.carolynwenner.com/created-for-connection

Hold Me Tight: https://www.carolynwenner.com/hmt-workshop

EFT Resources:

Sue Johnson: https://drsuejohnson.com/

Books by Sue Johnson: https://drsuejohnson.com/books/

International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT): https://iceeft.com/

In this episode, Carolyn and Chris address the common myth of “I need to work on myself” before I can do couples counseling. We hear this so often! While it is true that we all have our own issues that likely need to be worked out in therapy. Does that exclude us in benefiting from couples counseling before that happens? Chris and Carolyn try to bring some light to this and maybe bring some curiosity to this being a block for you to pursue couples therapy.

Show Hosts:

Chris Wells: chris@aohcc.com

Carolyn Wenner: carolynwenner3@gmail.com

Workshops Hosted by Carolyn and Chris:

Created for Connection: https://www.carolynwenner.com/created-for-connection

Hold Me Tight: https://www.carolynwenner.com/hmt-workshop

EFT Resources:

Sue Johnson: https://drsuejohnson.com/

Books by Sue Johnson: https://drsuejohnson.com/books/

International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT): https://iceeft.com/

In this episode, Carolyn and Chris return from a summer break to talk about what they do as therapists. Listen to learn more about what process they use for couples therapy in their offices as well as the workshops they offer and the opportunity to do an intensive with Carolyn. The many options for working on your relationship can sometimes be overwhelming or intimidating. Chris and Carolyn aim to demystify some of that and hopefully create curiosity about improving your relationship.

Show Hosts:

Chris Wells: chris@aohcc.com

Carolyn Wenner: carolynwenner3@gmail.com

Workshops Hosted by Carolyn and Chris:

Created for Connection: https://www.carolynwenner.com/created-for-connection

Hold Me Tight: https://www.carolynwenner.com/hmt-workshop

EFT Resources:

Sue Johnson: https://drsuejohnson.com/

Books by Sue Johnson: https://drsuejohnson.com/books/

International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT): https://iceeft.com/

In this episode Carolyn and Chris look at some blocks that we may not overcome. There are sometimes things that happen where the injury is too great, or trying to overcome the block may not be safe.

Show Hosts:

Chris Wells: chris@aohcc.com

Carolyn Wenner: carolynwenner3@gmail.com

Workshops Hosted by Carolyn and Chris:

Created for Connection: https://www.carolynwenner.com/created-for-connection

Hold Me Tight: https://www.carolynwenner.com/hmt-workshop

EFT Resources:

Sue Johnson: https://drsuejohnson.com/

Books by Sue Johnson: https://drsuejohnson.com/books/

International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT): https://iceeft.com/

In this episode Carolyn and Chris look at how validation as a block to connection. Validation is great and most people thrive on having their experience seen and heard. Sometimes giving validation can be difficult, especially when you don’t share the same experience of a situation. Can we be curious about validation and how we can validate another’s experience without invalidating our own?

Show Hosts:

Chris Wells: chris@aohcc.com

Carolyn Wenner: carolynwenner3@gmail.com

Workshops Hosted by Carolyn and Chris:

Created for Connection: https://www.carolynwenner.com/created-for-connection

Hold Me Tight: https://www.carolynwenner.com/hmt-workshop

EFT Resources:

Sue Johnson: https://drsuejohnson.com/

Books by Sue Johnson: https://drsuejohnson.com/books/

International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT): https://iceeft.com/

In this episode Carolyn and Chris pay tribute to Sue Johnson, creator of Emotionally Focused Therapy. Sue passed away at the age of 76 on April 23rd, 2024. Sue left an incredible legacy by impacting countless relationships and shaping couples therapy as we know it today. Rest in Peace Sue.

Show Hosts:

Chris Wells: chris@aohcc.com

Carolyn Wenner: carolynwenner3@gmail.com

Workshops Hosted by Carolyn and Chris:

Created for Connection: https://www.carolynwenner.com/created-for-connection

Hold Me Tight: https://www.carolynwenner.com/hmt-workshop

EFT Resources:

Sue Johnson: https://drsuejohnson.com/

Books by Sue Johnson: https://drsuejohnson.com/books/

International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT): https://iceeft.com/

In this episode Carolyn and Chris discuss what it means to be curious. You hear us talk about being curious about yourself and your partner all the time. What does that actually look like? Curiosity should be a good thing in relationship, but the way we approach it can sometimes send the wrong message. Are you being curious in your relationship? Has your own curiosity seemed to block connection? Listen as our hosts explore curiosity as a block and how it can be genuinely connecting.

Show Hosts:

Chris Wells: chris@aohcc.com

Carolyn Wenner: carolynwenner3@gmail.com

Workshops Hosted by Carolyn and Chris:

Created for Connection: https://www.carolynwenner.com/created-for-connection

Hold Me Tight: https://www.carolynwenner.com/hmt-workshop

EFT Resources:

Sue Johnson: https://drsuejohnson.com/

Books by Sue Johnson: https://drsuejohnson.com/books/

International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT): https://iceeft.com/

In this episode, Carolyn and Chris continue to explore the blocks to connection that show up in parenting. In addition to exploring our own triggers and understanding our past’s affect on our current relationships, this episode focuses on how we had parenting modeled for us and how we can model it for our own children.

Show Hosts:

Chris Wells: chris@aohcc.com

Carolyn Wenner: carolynwenner3@gmail.com

Workshops Hosted by Carolyn and Chris:

Created for Connection: https://www.carolynwenner.com/created-for-connection

Hold Me Tight: https://www.carolynwenner.com/hmt-workshop

EFT Resources:

Sue Johnson: https://drsuejohnson.com/

Books by Sue Johnson: https://drsuejohnson.com/books/

International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT): https://iceeft.com/