“Should I give them another chance, or should I ‘just know’ if they’re right?”

Hot take: The whole slow burn vs. spark debate might be keeping you from finding a meaningful connection. This episode challenges the idea that a romantic connection needs to fit neatly into a “slow burn” or “spark” to be worth pursuing.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

✨ The pros and cons of Slow Burn vs. Spark—and why binaries rarely help in dating.

✨ Why curiosity is your best guide—offering a healthy middle ground that brings clarity without overthinking.

✨ When you’re just not feeling romantic interest? Bless and release without guilt!

✨ How to know what you want, trust your instincts, and choose curiosity over stressing about instant chemistry.

Get ready to reframe your approach to dating, focus on what matters, and let go of the pressure to decide if it’s a slow burn or a spark from the start. Let’s make dating feel lighter, more fun, and aligned with you!

Links:
Pick up your copy of Thank You, More Please where all books are sold!

Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/slowburn-vs-spark

How do you date with intention and authenticity during an election season? You’re in luck! Lily is back with a special episode all about dating during the election. She explores how to navigate the heightened political climate with a boundaried, agency-filled plan to attract people who truly align with your values.

Lily also shares tips on crafting a profile that reflects your values, managing tough discussions on dates, and knowing when to "bless and release." Get ready to learn how to vet dates based on political beliefs, set firm boundaries, and confidently steer conversations.

You’ll learn:

• Understanding your boundaries and using essence-based preferences to define how you want to feel in a relationship
• How to incorporate your political values into your essence-based framework
• Best practices for bringing up politics in dating, including a reminder that “You cannot say the wrong thing to the right person.”
• Guidelines for dating during an election year, focusing on asking questions and prioritizing your emotional well-being
• Tips for including your political preferences in your dating profile
• Navigating heated political discussions during a date with grace

Links:

Pick up your copy of Thank You, More Please where all books are sold!

121. Dating Apps, AMA

135. How to create your essence-based preferences

162. The complete dating detox guide

Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/dating-during-an-election

Playing the sidekick in your own life? Not it. Step into your power, claim your main character identity and start making bold moves today. Why not you? Lily is dishing all about main character energy—what it is, what happens when you're not living in it, and how to level up and claim your spotlight.

We’ve all been there—shrinking our desires because we fear being "too much" or worried about rejection. Or maybe you’re in that “good enough” life rut: a good job, good friends, good vacations... but deep down, you know you’re ready for great. This episode is all about ditching the people-pleasing and stepping into your main character era.

You’ll learn:

• What it really means to not be in main character energy
• The three essential main character skills: permission, self-trust, and massive messy action
• How to stop sidelining your needs and start taking up space
• Practical tips on how to use 10 seconds of courage to build that main character muscle

It’s not about being perfect. Even main characters make mistakes—but they’ve got the tools to get back up. So, give yourself permission to be a little messy and start owning your story today.

Links:
Applications are open for the Main Character Life Mastermind!
140. My bless and release strategy for letting go
216. Stop overthinking your love life decisions (and how to actually trust yourself)

Show notes:
http://datebrazen.com/blog/how-to-build-main-character-identity