What happens when the person you vowed to spend your life with turns out to be living a double life — not in secret affairs, but in hidden abuse?

In this eye-opening episode of Surviving Toxic Relationships, we’re joined by Mia Hanks — a brave survivor who spent 29 years married to a covert narcissist. Behind closed doors, Mia endured years of emotional manipulation and financial control, slowly losing her sense of identity, security, and voice. But today, she’s no longer surviving — she’s thriving.

Mia takes us through her powerful journey of recognizing the red flags, reclaiming her independence, and transforming her pain into purpose through her memoir "Bride Maid."

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If you’ve ever questioned the subtle signs of narcissistic abuse or wondered how to support someone trapped in a toxic relationship, this conversation is a must-listen. Get ready for a raw, honest, and empowering discussion that could change the way you see emotional abuse — and maybe even help you or someone you love break free.

What you’ll learn in this episode:

• The subtle but dangerous emotional red flags of narcissistic abuse
• Why financial independence is a lifeline for survivors
• How Mia reclaimed her voice—and how you can too
• The healing power of storytelling and purpose
• How to recognize covert narcissism in your own life or help others who may be trapped

💬 Whether you're in a toxic relationship, recovering from one, or supporting someone who is, this conversation is a must-listen.

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What happens when pain meets purpose?
Join us for an unforgettable conversation with Samia Young, a powerhouse of resilience, faith, and redemption. Once a foster youth who endured unspeakable abuse, a toxic marriage, and time in jail, Samia’s life seemed destined for tragedy. But her story didn't end there.

In this raw and inspiring episode, Samia opens up about the moment she encountered the gospel, how it transformed her life, and the incredible journey that followed — from rock bottom to becoming an attorney, mentor, and advocate for at-risk youth.

Now the author of "Samia Come Forth: Trading Grave Clothes for Purpose", she’s using her past to light the way for others who feel broken, forgotten, or stuck in darkness.

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🎙️ Topics We Cover:

• Surviving abuse and broken systems
• Narcissistic marriage and breaking free
• Jail, shame, and finding the light of Christ
• Becoming an attorney against all odds
• Mentoring youth and building legacy through purpose

👉 Whether you're in the pit or on your way out, Samia’s story will remind you: your past doesn’t disqualify your purpose.

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In this candid and powerful episode of Surviving Toxic Relationships with The Matadoras, Lizzie and Deana are joined by therapist and author Dr. Becky Whetstone to unpack the real dynamics behind relationship breakdowns, nagging, resentment, and emotional maturity. Together, they explore the five stages of a deteriorating marriage, the misunderstood "nagging wife" stereotype, and how poor responsiveness can lead to deep emotional wounds.

They also dive into critical conversations around:
Blended family challenges

Setting healthy boundaries without guilt

What it means to “adult” in a relationship

Why your nervous system holds the key to better communication

How unresolved resentment poisons love

Whether you're in a struggling marriage, healing from a toxic one, or navigating stepfamily dynamics, this episode offers wisdom, humor, and tools you can start using today.

This video offers insights on *relationship advice**, highlighting the importance of understanding **communication in marriage**. It emphasizes the need for **healthy relationships**, especially when facing **money problems in marriage**. Remember, seeking **marriage counseling* is a sign of strength.

Key Topics:

The five stages of a deteriorating marriage Understanding and addressing the "nag" stereotype The importance of responsiveness in relationships Strategies for successful blended families The role of communication and setting boundaries

Guest: Dr. Becky Whetstone, author of "I Think I Want Out: What to Do When One of You Wants Your Marriage"

Listen now to gain valuable insights and practical advice for navigating complex family dynamics.

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In this powerful Talk It Out Tuesday episode, Lizzie and Deana talk openly about the emotional toll of public betrayal, using the viral Andy Byron affair as a lens to explore the very personal pain of infidelity. Together, they unpack their own experiences, share practical advice for those feeling triggered, and challenge harmful myths about why people cheat.
Whether you've been betrayed, re-traumatized by recent headlines, or are walking with someone through this pain—you are not alone.

🔍 We cover:
The humiliation of public betrayal


The gaslighting survivors often face


Why cheating is never the victim’s fault


How social media can retraumatize survivors


Practical steps to protect your peace and process grief


Why this isn’t just “tea”—it’s trauma

This is more than a reaction episode. It’s truth-telling, myth-breaking, and soul-healing.

You are seen. You are not alone. You are worth healing.

This video explores the ripple effects of *betrayal* in relationships, focusing on the *emotions* and real-life struggles individuals face when *cheating* scandals go viral. It emphasizes the importance of *mental health awareness* and offers *relationship advice* during times of emotional turmoil.

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In this conversation, Lizzie and Deana speak with Lisa Johnson, a high conflict divorce strategist and advocate, about the complexities of navigating high conflict divorces and legal abuse. Lisa shares her personal journey from being a victim to becoming an advocate for others, emphasizing the importance of courtroom etiquette, emotional support, and strategic oversight in legal battles. The discussion also covers the role of fathers, the impact of parental alienation, and identifying red flags in high conflict divorces. Lisa provides valuable insights and practical advice for those facing similar challenges.

Takeaways


-Lisa Johnson is a high conflict divorce strategist and advocate.
-She emphasizes the importance of courtroom etiquette and being persuasive.
-Emotional support is crucial for clients facing legal battles.
-Both men and women can be victims of high conflict divorces.
-Parental alienation is a significant issue affecting many families.
-Identifying red flags early can help in managing high conflict divorces.
-Strategic oversight of one's case is essential for success in court.
-Clients should actively participate in their legal processes.
-Understanding the dynamics of the other parent can provide leverage.
-Doom scrolling can negatively impact mental health during legal battles.

Learn more about Lisa Johnson and her work at:
https://beentheregotout.com


Lisa Johnson shares her journey of triumphing over a difficult custody battle and economic abuse. She achieved a legal victory that changed state law and now supports others facing high conflict divorce. This episode contains valuable divorce strategies to help protect yourself during family law cases.

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In this episode, Lizzie and Deana delve into the complexities of manipulation, focusing on gaslighting, blame shifting, and minimizing. They share personal stories and insights on how these tactics can distort reality and erode emotional safety. The conversation emphasizes the importance of recognizing red flags in relationships and offers practical tips for recovery and healthy communication.

Takeaways

• Gaslighting is a manipulative tactic that makes you doubt your memory and perception.
• Blame shifting is a common tactic used to avoid responsibility for one's actions.
• Minimizing someone's feelings can erode their emotional safety.
• Recognizing red flags in conversations is crucial for emotional well-being.
• Healthy communication involves feeling safe to express oneself without fear of backlash.
• Keeping a journal can help validate your experiences and memories.
• Seeking support from trusted individuals is essential during confusing times.
• Scripture can provide validation and strength in difficult situations.
• It's important to affirm your own truth in the face of manipulation.
• Healing from toxic relationships is possible with the right support and resources.

Sound Bites

• "He drained all of her retirement."
• "Minimizing erodes emotional safety."
• "Confusion is not from God."

Chapters
00:00
Understanding Manipulation in Relationships

07:12
Blame Shifting: A Personal Story

15:20
Red Flags: Learning from the Past

20:04
Tools for Recovery and Healing

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On the first episode of "Talk It Out Tuesdays", Lizzie and Deana discuss the phenomenon of "gray divorce", particularly focusing on the emotional and financial impacts of divorce for individuals over 50. They share personal experiences of navigating divorce in midlife, the challenges of dating, and the importance of personal growth and healing. The conversation emphasizes the need for women to reclaim their identities and find hope after divorce, encouraging listeners to embrace their journeys and seek support.

Takeaways

• Gray divorce is increasingly common among those over 50.
• Women initiate the majority of divorces, especially in midlife.
• Divorce can significantly impact financial stability, particularly for women.
• The experience of divorce varies greatly between those in their 30s and 50s.
• Survival mode during divorce can differ based on life stage and responsibilities.
• Dating in midlife presents unique challenges, including blending families.
• Being single can offer peace and an opportunity for personal growth.
• Reframing one's story after divorce is crucial for healing.
• It's important to recognize and address red flags in new relationships.
• Perseverance and faith can guide individuals through the healing process.

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In this conversation, Lizzie and Deana explore the complexities of manipulation within faith-based relationships, particularly focusing on how women of faith may be more susceptible to manipulative behaviors. They discuss various manipulation tactics, including passive-aggressive humor, emotional guilt, and triangulation, while emphasizing the importance of self-awareness and healthy communication. The conversation concludes with practical tools for recognizing manipulation and affirmations for those feeling confused or overwhelmed in their relationships.

Takeaways

• Women of faith are often taught to be people-centric, making them vulnerable to manipulation.
• Toxic empathy is not reflected in the Bible; we must be wise as serpents.
• Gut feelings can be a form of guidance, often overlooked in faith contexts.
• Manipulation can manifest through passive-aggressive humor and emotional guilt.
• Triangulation involves bringing in a third party to avoid accountability.
• Recognizing patterns in relationships is crucial for understanding manipulation.
• Healthy communication requires mutual respect and acknowledgment of feelings.
• Confusion in conversations often indicates unhealthy dynamics.
• Self-awareness tools can help identify manipulation signs.
• You are not alone in your experiences; validation is important.

Chapters

00:00
The Vulnerability of Women of Faith

02:35
Recognizing Manipulation Tactics

04:48
Understanding Emotional Guilt and Obligation

07:22
The Impact of Triangulation

10:02
Healthy Communication Strategies

12:37
Discernment and Self-Check Techniques

15:17
Conclusion and Affirmation

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