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The Pain of Exclusion and the Fragility of Social Identity
- 2024/04/04
- 再生時間： 51 分
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In this deeply personal episode, Chris and Jake explore how even small moments of exclusion can leave lasting scars by threatening our sense of belonging and social identity. They connect a story from Chris' past to the recent Republican response to the State of the Union, showing how identities can be built up but also quickly torn down by social groups.The Power and Peril of Social IdentityOur identities are significantly based on and empowered by the groups we belong to, according to social identity theory. We derive self-esteem from our group memberships and the status of those groups. "Prototypical leaders" who embody a group's norms are seen as representatives, gaining influence. But this also makes identity precarious - the group can withdraw their endorsement at any time.Senator Katie Britt carefully followed the playbook of how she was supposed to present herself as a young female conservative leader. But Republicans immediately mocked and criticized her speech, undermining her identity as a rising star. As Chris puts it, "I can go from prototypical leader, hey, we're gonna do this. We're gonna make this happen. Everybody rally around to 'Yeah, but you're not invited to the pool party.' And it's just it's a it's a it's a weird human dynamic that we have."A Formative Moment of ExclusionOver 20 years ago, Chris was excited to continue hanging out with a volunteer group in Halifax and attend a pool party. But then he was told "Oh, not you Chris. You're not invited." This moment still sticks with Chris today. It tapped into deep fears of not belonging."Somehow I got 'Oh, not you, Chris. Not your this. You're not invited.' I felt really like that made sense. Like I could see it made sense. But it still affected me and I have thought about that often on for years about why I wasn't invited and why I cared one way or the other. Like why did that bother me?"Chris was in his early 30s at the time, married with kids, while the others were in their early 20s. They saw Chris as more of a "fun boss" than a close friend to invite along. The age and life stage difference, while not huge, was enough to classify Chris as outside the in-group.Missed Opportunities for Bridging DividesJake found himself caught in the middle, between his friendship with Chris and this younger friend group. He saw it as a chance to vouch for Chris and bring him into the in-group. "I could have protest I could have I did nothing. Yeah. Let it Yeah. Okay. I guess, because I wasn't it wasn't my house. It wasn't my pool. I was tagging along."But Jake went along with it and didn't speak up, something he later regretted. It was a missed opportunity for what the two call "social bridging" - building connections across boundaries. Jake admits he was afraid of losing his tenuous status in the group if he challenged them.Reflecting on Exclusion, Identity and InclusionThe pain of exclusion, even in small doses, comes from it threatening our social identity and sense of belonging. Our identities feel solid but are actually quite fragile, since they depend on recognition from groups. "Ingroups" and "outgroups" form easily and can lead to:Favoritism toward one's ingroupsStereotyping and denigration of outgroupsExclusion of those seen as outsidersLeaders and influencers can use their social capital to build bridges between groups. But it requires bravery to stick your neck out and bring others in, risking your own status. Ultimately, fostering inclusion means expanding our circles of who we see as part of "us."By reflecting on past hurts and missed opportunities, we can gain insight into how to do better moving forward. Recognizing our own experiences of exclusion can motivate us to ensure others feel embraced. And when we witness someone being left out, we have a chance to be the one to invite them in.Key ConceptsSocial identity theory - Developed by Henri Tajfel and John Turner, it says our sense of self significantly comes from our group memberships, or social identities. This drives group comparison and competition for self-esteem.Ingroup vs outgroup - Ingroups are social groups we identify with, while outgroups are ones we see as outside our circles. This classification often leads to ingroup favoritism and discrimination against outgroups. Ingroup bias is likely a hardwired human tendency.Prototypical leader - A group member who best embodies the group's attributes, goals and identity. Due to being seen as extremely representative of the group, they gain influence to determine group norms and membership.Social bridging - The act of building connections and relationships across different social circles or groups. Social bridges allow for improved intergroup contact, empathy, resource sharing and conflict reduction.Additional Resources to UseSocial Identity Theory - Simply Psychology - This resource from Simply Psychology explains the concept of Social Identity Theory. It discusses how our sense of self is influenced by our group memberships ...