In this episode I explain how we have advanced past our ability to update our myths and stories and that religion needs a fundamental makeover to be updated for the modern times. I also explore what compatibility actually looks like, which I think is actually some really valuable stuff not just for those seeking partnership, but those in committed relationships.

00:28 - Where does being needed/counted on fall short of bringing meaning?

• Voluntarily wanting to be counted on
• Room for growth
• Some inherent meaning to the task

5:40 - What would a modern created religion look like? Is our development as humans outpacing our ability to alter our myths and stories? What was the state of humanity when religion came to be and how is that different than the way things are now.

• Society today is drastically different than it was when religion developed.
• It developed over a period of tens of thousands of years, the time our modern culture has had to touch it has been miniscule in comparison
• Cognitive needs: help people understand existence
• Emotional needs: hold pain, not escape it
• Social needs: reciprocal witness toward mutual attempts at living well
• Identity needs:meaning without dogma
• Temporal needs: rites of passage and rituals for real modern day events.

29:45 What model of compatibility can actually encapsulate the roots of relationships?

• Presence, affection, respect, meaning, commitment, closeness all show how if these foundations are off, compatibility is compromised
• You can’t change people. How someone is without editing is what you need to be compatible with
• Things like religious differences or goals differences really just boil down to these things under the hood

In this episode, I break open some raw, complex, and sometimes-unspoken questions about what it means to live coherently and based on reality amongst the complexities of being a human. I’m sure at least one or two of the below topics will pique your interest. See below for the topics list and timestamps ⬇️

0:00 – Intro

2:10 – How much change do we have to endure?

• Change won’t stop—but your ability to hold it evolves.
• The story of Sisyphus and how we can either be crushed by the boulder or push it more.

7:50 – Vagueness: Why do most people survive using fuzzy language—and why you can’t?

• Vague words → vague thought → vague outcomes.
• Vagueness collapses under existential weight.

13:46 – Children & Meaning: Do children inherently bring meaning? Why does being needed make life feel real?

• Children are a demand that can’t be ignored
• Meaning could just be having a life demand you have to live up to even if it is not inherently meaningful itself
• Work and accountability echo this: someone is counting on you.

16:54 – What invisible immaturities and unworked fears, emotional scars, etc, do parents pass down to their kids?

• Children absorb atmospheres, not just words. Your unprocessed fears become their default environment.
• It creates a cycle from child to future parent
• The job of a parent isn’t to "be yourself"—it’s to guide through their terrain, not broadcast yours.

24:52 – Romance & Media: where is love an emergent thing or more of a performance?

• We mistake cinematic rhythms for real intimacy.
• Intensity is not the same as depth. Performance is not the same as presence.
• Most people aren't building relationships—they're roleplaying what they’ve seen relationships are supposed to look like.

31:31– If people truly believed and internalized some of the axioms of their belief system, how would their behavior be different?

• Belief in unconditional love should kill shame—not intensify it.
• Truth becomes dangerous when institutions mistake loyalty for devotion.
• All being children of god should mean you would treat every person—homeless, trans, atheist, criminal—as kin. But people outside the covenant path are often viewed with pity or suspicion

38:25 – The devil, carnal human nature are just shields to protect us from the fact that humans are the root of evil and bad.

• We outsource this to feel good, to fit in, etc.
• We can be cruel, indifferent, manipulative, passive, selfish, and still call ourselves a good person.
• We are the cause and that also means we are also the solution

42:38 – When do we fall trap to moral obligations that actually don’t make much sense in the real world?

• Sometimes, what saves you becomes your undoing.
• In Les Miserable, did Valjean truly make an intentional decision or was he still imprisoned to moral debts?
• Is sacrifice without sovereignty just inherited guilt.

47:13 – What actually bottlenecks humanity’s growth and long term progression

• It’s not just battery tech—it’s our inability to think long-term.
• Cultural immaturity + godlike tools = existential risk.
• Progress isn’t just about tools. It’s about the collective soul that wields them.

53:06 – Outro

Document with notes/quotes from episode (some may be out of context or in different point of view) ➡️ Some damn real observations about the current state of humans (reference doc)

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