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THE PERFORMANCE OF PAIN: Visual Vulnerability or Victim Mindset?

This one cuts deep.

What if the loudest cry isn’t from the person hurting most, but from the one holding the room hostage?

In this powerful and provocative episode of Uncharted, I, Lisa N Edwards, explore a truth many of us have felt but couldn’t quite name: not all vulnerability is real. Some of it is theatre. Some of it is control dressed as pain.

We dive into the subtle but life-changing difference between authentic vulnerability and performative pain — and how it plays out in relationships, friendships, and our own self-worth.

💥 I’ll unpack:

• A real-life moment when my friend walked into the gym in a cast… and suddenly, strangers saw him.
• Why do people respond more to visible pain than invisible strength?
• How covert narcissists weaponise victimhood.
• The Drama Triangle — and how we all unknowingly get pulled into roles like Victim, Rescuer, and Persecutor.
• Why fawning (the trauma response where we over-care and self-abandon) is one of the most dangerous patterns women fall into — and how to get out of it.
• How some people use stories of suffering to gain sympathy while avoiding any real accountability.
• What does it really mean to love someone who lives in emotional avoidance?
• The moment I realised I couldn’t carry two hearts through one healing process.

If you’ve ever felt like you were doing all the emotional work… if you’ve ever found yourself performing your pain just to be believed… if you’ve ever mistaken chaos for depth, or silence for peace — this one’s for you.

We talk real healing, nervous system responses, boundaries, and the gut-punching truth that some people don’t want to grow — they want to be rescued.

But you? You’re not here for the performance. You’re here for freedom.

This episode is your permission slip to:

• Stop explaining
• Stop defending
• Stop bleeding for stories that don’t deserve a sequel
  And start rising. Quietly. Clearly. Without apology.

We finish with a hard reset:
🔥 If someone from your past wants a seat at your table, they need to come healed, not holding the same pain that once cost you your peace.

This isn’t revenge. This is ra elease.

And if you want to see what I built from that clarity, check out CoinRunnersMovie.com. It’s not just a film, it’s a reclamation of my story.

This is not a soft episode. This is the mirror.

If it lands, tag me. Share it with someone in a cycle. Let’s stop calling pain connection when it’s actually control.

Because love isn’t meant to feel like survival.
And your worth isn’t something you prove.
It’s something you remember.

You are not too much. You are not broken. You are not alone. You are a woman rising, not in spite of your pain, but because of it.

I’m Lisa N Edwards, and this is Uncharted.
Until next time, keep choosing yourself. Always.

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UNCHARTED – EPISODE 11
IT’S HELL YES OR IT’S NO
The Power of Decisiveness in Love, Work, and Everything In Between

Welcome back to UNCHARTED, the podcast that rips the map from your hands and dares you to draw your own. I'm your host, Lisa N Edwards writer, crypto trader, filmmaker, and a woman who's rebuilt empires from intuition, grit, and gutsy decisions

In this episode, we’re calling out the biggest energy drain in your life: the MAYBE
The relationships that almost love you
The jobs that sort of excite you
The ex who sends a “hey” at midnight while you’re still waiting for real effort.
The deals that look good on paper, but your gut is screaming NO

This isn’t about being impulsive, it’s about being aligned

🔹 Segment 1: The Illusion of Maybe
We unpack why “maybe” feels safe but is secretly one of the most toxic places to live. It delays healing, drains energy, and keeps you stuck in limbo. If it’s not a HELL YES in your body, it’s a no

🔹 Segment 2: Why We Settle for Halfway
From love to career to self-worth, we explore why so many of us cling to the halfway point. Spoiler alert: it’s conditioning. We’ve been taught to be polite instead of powerful. But playing small helps no one, least of all you

🔹 Segment 3: The Energetic Cost of “Almost”
“Almost” is expensive — emotionally, spiritually, and creatively. We break down what it really costs to stay in almost-love, almost-success, and almost-opportunities. Think of it as a spiritual tax, and it’s time to stop paying it

🔹 Segment 4: Love, Business, and Boundaries
This is your wake-up call: Half-love isn’t love. Breadcrumbs aren’t effort. And if someone isn’t showing up with their full chest — in person, in presence, in action, it’s a NO. The same goes for business deals and collaborations. You are not available for lukewarm

🔹 Segment 5: The Sacred Power of Saying NO
We reframe NO as a sacred act of self-respect. Psychology, trauma response, and nervous system regulation all come into play here. If you’re a people pleaser, empath, or recovering self-abandoner, this segment will set you free

⚡ We also touch on:

• Why Cognitive Dissonance keeps you stuck
• The Fawn Response and how it hijacks your truth
• Emotional bankruptcy and “Almost Famous” as the ultimate metaphor for almost-living
• How to stop being the backup plan in your own life
• Why “No” is your nervous system’s best friend

🎧 Whether you’re ghosted, gaslit, in a situationship, sitting on a business deal that kinda feels wrong, or staring at a DM from someone who “just thought of you” — this is your moment

🔥 This episode is your call to clarity
To trust your gut
To walk away faster
To honour your alignment louder
To stop negotiating your worth for someone else's comfort

Because from now on?
It’s HELL YES — or it’s NO
There is no maybe

📲 Share this with someone stuck in limbo. This could be the moment that shifts everything for them. Tag me on socials, message me, and let me know what your “no more maybes” moment is. I see you. I read everything

You are the mapmaker
You are the standard
You don’t need permission to c

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🎙️ UNCHARTED – EPISODE 10
“Value, Ego & Covert Contracts: The Unspoken Deals That Define Us”

What if the biggest business lesson you ever learn doesn’t come from a boardroom, but from a breakup?

This episode is not just about value in the financial sense—it’s about the emotional currency we trade in relationships, especially when love and business collide. I’m pulling back the curtain on the kind of value clash that no contract can prepare you for: perceived worth vs. actual delivery, ego vs. execution, and the covert contracts we never signed—but lived by anyway.

I built businesses with people I loved. I’ve stood in boardrooms with broken hearts, funded visions with emotional debt, and stayed too long hoping support would be repaid in loyalty. It wasn’t. And the truth is—many of us are doing the same thing without realising it.

In this raw and deeply personal episode, I unpack:

• The myth of being irreplaceable in business and love
• The difference between perceived value and contracted value—and how ignoring it can sink your business
• The role of covert contracts in keeping you stuck, drained, and resentful
• Why many women (me included) equate giving more with being chosen
• The Scarface model of control: money first, love later—and how that plays out in real life
• How trauma, boundaries, and business decisions are more entwined than we want to admit

You’ll hear the real stories—building an empire with an ex, watching it unravel, and having to grieve not just a relationship, but a legacy. You’ll hear what happens when we try to be the structure, the softness, the investor, and the emotional anchor all at once.

And more than anything, you’ll hear how to finally reclaim your definition of value.

Because value is not how much you can give, absorb, or justify.
It’s not how many invoices you pay to avoid conflict.
It’s not in how much history you honour while ignoring what’s happening now.

Value is clarity.
Value is presence.
Value is knowing your worth—and refusing to negotiate with someone else’s ego.

This episode is a wake-up call for anyone building a business, navigating love, or trying to do both in a world that confuses emotional labour with commitment.

💥 If you’ve ever felt used, unseen, undervalued, or unsure whether it’s your trauma or your truth calling the shots—this one’s for you.

🎧 Listen in, reflect deeply, and if this hit home? Share it with someone who needs to hear it. Let’s stop trading emotional equity for partnerships that don’t deliver. Let’s get honest. Let’s get clear.

💻 All my links are below. Come say hi. I’m always building something.

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