Today, John and Shaun get real about control, creative burnout, and what it means to walk away - maybe just for now. From family patterns to personality frameworks, they explore the subtle ways we try to mold the people closest to us, and how that effort can quietly extinguish our own inner spark.

They reflect on how responsibility, relationships, and the pace of adult life can dim our fire - and how human design might offer clues to getting it back. Shaun shares what it means to live life as a Generator, while John questions his Manifestor impulses and tendency to burn out fast.

Also on the table: tattoos, tenderness, and a lot of laughter - plus a quiet, honest wondering: is this the end of the podcast… or just a pause?

It’s grounded, intimate, and full of the kind of clarity that only comes when you stop trying to make something happen - and just let it be.

Mentioned in this episode:

Karen Scholle – Integrative Wellness Coach and Human Design guide. Karen offers a unique approach by integrating Human Design with nervous system regulation, helping individuals align with their true selves. Learn more about her work at karenscholle.com

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Today, John and Shaun get real about trust, control, and what it means to shape a life that doesn’t always follow the plan. From confessions about the past to reflections on what we can and can’t control - careers, relationships, even timing - they navigate what it means to let go and still show up.

Shaun opens up about missing his father, while John shares what it’s like to not miss his. Compliments make things awkward, cheaters raise big questions, and somewhere in the middle, there's a gentle acknowledgment that we’re all just figuring it out.

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CW: There is some talk about violence towards women in this episode, specifically about cases of Uber drivers drugging female passengers.

Today, John and Shaun get real about attraction, ambiguity, and the old wounds that shape how we love. From body talk and gym-floor preferences to the deeper imprints left by early heartbreak, they explore what drives desire - and what quietly drives us away.

They reflect on confusing signals, self-worth, and how our inner kids still shape our adult relationships - often in ways we don’t notice until it’s too late. It’s funny, honest, and filled with the kind of conversations men don’t usually have out loud.

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Today, John and Shaun get real about celibacy, the unexpected wisdom of edging and what it means to hold space for change. As they dive into how we show up for friends, and navigate endings with grace (or not), they explore what it means to sit with discomfort and desire.

Also on the table: sex in senior living homes, prostate surprises, and the enduring mystery of midnight erections.

And then comes the twist: a conversation that starts with podcast logistics quickly turns into something deeper—a surprising reveal that could shift the future of the show. It’s heartfelt, awkward, and unmistakably human.

Resources Mentioned:

The multi orgasmic male book HERE

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Today, John and Shaun get real about what it means to let go - with grace, awkwardness, and a few unexpected laughs. As the podcast edges toward its final episodes, they reflect on the shifting dynamics of friendship, the tension between presence and performance, and the quiet courage it takes to speak the truth out loud.

From lighthearted debates about minivans and shower preferences to deeper moments of emotional honesty, this conversation holds space for both the silly and the sincere - and leaves room for what comes next.

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The Costa Rica reel that got John in hot water HERE

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Today, John and Shaun get real about psychedelic revelations, aging skin, and why they’re rethinking what makes their podcast worth doing. From John’s guided MDMA session and a “my mom never hugged me” breakthrough, to Shaun’s retinol skincare journey and anti-aging the natural way, this episode rides the line between hilarity and healing.

They dive into the tension of overcommitting, how time and money shape creative work, and whether Burning Man is really a sex fest (spoiler: not exactly, but there is a Foamy Homies shower rave). Also on the table: the wisdom of the cock, erectile dysfunction in your 50s, and how your penis might actually be trying to tell you something.

It’s introspective, a little chaotic, and full of naked honesty—both literally and emotionally. Plus: Reese’s Peanut Butter Cup debates, perimenopause shoutouts, and Shaun’s upcoming Love Camp at Kripalu.

Resources & Mentions:

Frownies - The Original Wrinkle Patch

Dr. Bronner's: The Original All-One Magic Soap and More!

Shaun’s Love Camp : The Power of Connection and Play in Relationships

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Today, John and Shaun open up about emotional honesty, the fear of being too much, and the art of letting others take care of you. From cock ring experiments and therapist breakthroughs to growing up without unconditional love, they explore the tangled roots of worthiness and connection. Also: the Love Drive podcast is making a comeback, and the house cleaner found the cock rings.

They dive into what it means to feel safe in romantic vulnerability, Shaun’s fear of scaring people away with his sadness, and how early family dynamics shape our adult intimacy patterns. Shaun gets real about doubting his long-term relationship potential and shares his top five non-negotiables for a lasting partnership—including space to be silly, emotional resilience, and yes, vanilla sex.

Dr. MC McDonald joins the conversation with reflections on The Joy Reset, her new book about why joy isn't a luxury - it's a vital part of healing. They talk about survivor's guilt, the duty of joy, and how to support friends in messy relationships without playing savior. There’s also a candid take on how porn misleads us, why advocating for your desires matters, and what happens when your therapist tells you,"there’s a little me inside of you." It's tender, funny, and full of unexpected wisdom.

Resources Mentioned:

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Pre-order or grab a copy of her new book → The Joy Reset

Also check out her first book → Unbroken: The Trauma Response Is Never Wrong

Curious about exploring your desires? Try the Yes, No, Maybe list by Autostraddle

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Today, John and Shaun get real about singlehood, morning moods, and what it means to wake up feeling alone. From retirement fund fears and post-fire perspective shifts to questioning whether AI can truly touch hearts, they explore how life—and money—quietly reshapes us. Also on the table: LA as the land of opportunity and the timeless wisdom of Winnie the Pooh.

They dive into why we’re drawn to emotionally unavailable partners, the love we grew up with, and what it means to truly be seen. Shaun opens up about feeling like the one who always reaches out, while John reflects on letting go of career attachments. It’s intimate, a little raw, and full of moments that stay with you long after the episode ends.

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