I was a guest on the podcast Adoption: The Long View, hosted by Lori Holden. In this episode I am interviewed by Lori who asks the vital question "How can adoptees be the hero of their own stories?" Because that is what I believe we should be. Lori is one of the co-writers for the book, "Adoption Unfiltered: Revelations by Adoptees, Birth parents, and Adoptive parents." The following is what we talk about. Disclaimer: This listen is for adults only.

00:00 Intro
00:47 Video greeting from Lanise
11: 01 Interview with Lori Holden begins
11:59 Lanise starts her adoption story
16:20 Lanise's coming out of the FOG story
18:29 How Lanise's grief manifested
19:42 Lanise's suicide ideations
22:49 Coming to terms with our own story
23:30 Chapter 18 of Adoption Unfiltered "Saviorism)
26:35 The movie Origin & Caste system in adoption
28:22 Global supremacy of whiteness
28:30 Article from The Conversation about whiteness in adoption
30:50 Barbara Kinsolver Poisonwood Bible
31:00 Consequences of saviorism
32:18 Lanise's definition of a better life
34:08 What's behind saviourism and AP's controlling the narrative
34:58 Altruism vs saviorism

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ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.

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JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":

HISTORY of the word “Colored”:
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Today we talk about the science of attachment styles inspired by the book "Attached" by Amir Levine and Rachel S.F. Heller. This book has revolutionized how I approach all of my relationships. These are my reasons why you should read this book and how I now use it to healthfully allow people to be as they are.

REFERENCES:
Attached written by Amir Levine and Rachel S.F. Heller
Disordered Attachment Article

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Isaac Etter's IDENTITY (Equipping parents, Empowering Children)
Black Hair Care
Guide to Transracial Adoption

ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.

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JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":

HISTORY of the word “Colored”:
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Today our guest is Shelby Redfield Kilgore who is a two time Emmy award-winning filmmaker and author of the blog, “Behind the Lens” and also co-writer of the book “Rooted in Adoption: A Collection of Adoptee Reflections”.

Today's topics:

• Her filmmaking and how she found her artistic voice
• How the stories she collects have informed her own adoption journey
• The societal pressures of single mothers in Korea and The resentment that surfaced toward her culture because of what happened to her mother.
• The imperative of adoptive parent’s get thorough education before adopting
• And her courage through her Breast cancer journey

GUEST: Shelby Redfield Kilgore
https://www.wearemirrorlight.com/

Support the show

CONNECT WITH HOST:
@youngadoptee
@lantoines
www.laniseantoineshelley.com

SPONSORSHIPS:
BetterHelp Show Link HERE!

DISCOUNT on WeUNIK Cosmetic Hair products
15% off Code: WTWY

Link: https://weunikworld.com/discount/WTWY

DISCOUNT FOR 15% GUIDE BOOKS:
Isaac Etter's IDENTITY (Equipping parents, Empowering Children)
Black Hair Care
Guide to Transracial Adoption

ADOPTEE CONVERSATIONS WITH PARENTS:
14 through18, and episode 28, and 29.

WATCH PANELS: Here!

JAMES BALDWIN'S ESSAY ON "WHITENESS":

HISTORY of the word “Colored”:
...