In this episode, I delve into the concept of sex positivity, exploring what it truly means to embrace authenticity in our sexuality, gender expression, and intimate relationships. Drawing from Silva Neves, I define sex positivity as being true to oneself and making conscious, informed choices rooted in self-awareness. It’s about knowing who we are, what we want, and being unafraid to express that in ways that feel right for us.

I also highlight the importance of gender fluidity, sharing my own experiences of navigating the spectrum of masculinity and femininity. Understanding that these aspects of our identity are not fixed but rather fluid and evolving is crucial in fostering a healthy and fulfilling relationship with ourselves and others.

Sex isn’t just about physical intercourse—it’s about emotional intimacy and consent. I strongly believe that these elements are often overlooked, yet they are foundational to a positive sexual experience. That’s why I advocate for the concept of "cringe cafés"—safe spaces where we can discuss uncomfortable topics, challenge societal norms, and improve our communication around sex and relationships.

I also touch on the shortcomings of sexual education and the pervasive influence of pornography, which can distort our perceptions of sex and intimacy. It’s essential that we seek out better, more holistic sources of information to guide our sexual journeys.
Book Reference:
Silva Neves, Sexology - The Basics, Routledge

About Janet:
Janet is a Relationship Therapist and Coach based in the UK. She operates an online private therapy practice dedicated to helping couples of any gender identity or sexual orientation overcome relationship challenges and achieve deeper intimacy.
Janet trains healthcare professionals with her Sex Talk Education curriculum to manage Harmful Sexualised Behaviour. As a former teacher, she believes education is crucial for the development of relationships and personal protection for both adults and children.
Janet's work is influenced by her experiences as an adoptee & being an unexpected partner of a sex & porn addict (compulsive user).
Janet has worked as a Child Counsellor in primary schools, adult counsellor at Alder Hey Hospital (Staff Clients and child bereaved parents) and a School Safeguarding Supervisor.
Janet Simpson MBACP (Accred.), PGCE, BSc. (Hons) Counselling Adults & Couples, Child Counselling (Cert), Psychosexual (Cert)

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