Summary

In this episode of Babe Philosophy, Meli and Liv explore the complex question of whether looks matter in society. They discuss individual perspectives on attractiveness, the role of energy and self-care in how we present ourselves, and the importance of authenticity versus external validation. The conversation delves into the journey of self-acceptance and the impact of self-love on attraction, while also addressing societal beauty standards and the dichotomy of beauty and intelligence. Ultimately, they emphasize that true beauty comes from making choices that align with one's authentic self and the power of self-care in enhancing attractiveness.

Keywords

looks, beauty, self-acceptance, authenticity, self-love, attraction, societal standards, personal experiences, body positivity, self-care

Takeaways

• Looks matter if that person says they matter.
• Self-perception influences how we present ourselves to the world.
• Energy and self-care significantly impact attractiveness.
• Authenticity is more important than conforming to societal standards.
• Self-love is essential for feeling beautiful and attracting others.
• The journey to self-acceptance is complex and personal.
• People can sense when someone is being authentic versus seeking validation.
• True beauty is an expression of one's authentic self.
• Making choices for oneself enhances attractiveness.
• The way we care for ourselves reflects in our physical appearance.

Sound Bites

• "Do looks actually matter?"
• "Looks matter if that person says they matter."
• "It's more of an energetic thing."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction

00:35 The Question of Whether Looks Matter

02:51 The Subjectivity of Attractiveness

04:06 Authenticity and Self-Care in Appearance

07:39 Dressing for Love vs Dressing from Love

28:15 The Power of Authenticity and Self-Expression in Looks

37:08 Choosing What Feels Right for You

40:27 The Complexities of the Body Positivity Movement

43:24 True Beauty Comes from Authentic Choices

48:34 Acceptance and Non-Judgment in Body Positivity

51:14 Outro

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Summary

In this mini-episode, Liv and Meli discuss their experiences with codependency and how they have chosen to navigate it. Meli is working through her codependency triggers within a partnership, while Liv is choosing to work on it outside of a partnership. They emphasize the importance of willingness and mutual agreement in a partnership, as well as the need for self-reflection and self-acceptance. They also discuss the concept of clean fuel versus dirty fuel in relationships and the importance of staying soft and open. The key takeaways include having grace for oneself and one's partner, letting things be ugly, and staying soft and open in the process.

Keywords

codependency, partnership, triggers, willingness, mutual agreement, self-reflection, self-acceptance, clean fuel, dirty fuel, grace, staying soft, staying open

Takeaways

• Willingness and mutual agreement are important in navigating codependency within a partnership.
• Self-reflection and self-acceptance are crucial in working through codependency.
• The concept of clean fuel versus dirty fuel in relationships is important to consider.
• Staying soft and open is essential in the process of healing codependency.

Sound Bites

• "Let it be ugly."
• "I am the partner I seek"

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Background

00:49 Choosing Different Paths: Inside vs Outside a Partnership

02:19 The Importance of Willingness and Mutual Agreement in Partnership

04:11 Recognizing and Setting Boundaries for Well-being

08:17 Clean Fuel vs Dirty Fuel: Offering Acts of Service without Expectations

09:31 Staying Soft and Having Grace for Oneself and Their Partner

31:20 Outro

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Summary

In this episode, Liv and Meli discuss the concept of the ego and its role in our lives. They explore the idea that the ego is not inherently bad, but rather a necessary part of being human. They emphasize the importance of understanding and integrating the ego, rather than trying to eradicate it. They also discuss the need for external validation and how it relates to the ego. Overall, they encourage listeners to have a healthy relationship with their ego and recognize its role in shaping their identity and experiences. The conversation explores the importance of recognizing and integrating the ego rather than trying to eradicate it. It emphasizes the need to give ourselves permission to have needs and ask for help. Making a mess and taking risks is encouraged as a way to break patterns and learn. The key takeaway is that it's okay to be imperfect and make mistakes, as long as we have the courage to clean up and learn from them.

Keywords

ego, human experience, survival mechanism, external validation, integration, needs, connection, love, ego, integration, needs, asking for help, making a mess, courage, imperfection, learning

Takeaways

• The ego is a survival mechanism that helps us navigate the human world.
• Trying to eradicate the ego is impossible and would mean eradicating our humanity.
• The ego is not inherently bad, but it can lead us astray when we become too attached to its demands.
• It's important to have a healthy relationship with the ego and recognize its role in shaping our identity and experiences.
• External validation is a basic human need, and it's okay to seek it.
• Understanding and integrating the ego is key to living a balanced and fulfilling life. Recognize and integrate the ego instead of trying to eradicate it
• Give yourself permission to have needs and ask for help
• Making a mess and taking risks is essential for growth and breaking patterns
• Embrace imperfection and have the courage to learn and clean up

Sound Bites

• "A more adaptive way of considering the ego is to look at it as a child."
• "We find the middle point where we can say, okay, if I look at my ego as a child, that doesn't quite understand how to approach life holistically yet because they haven't had enough experience."
• "Meditation is this beautiful place for the soul and the ego to meet and have a conversation."
• "I could start to hear the seven-year-old girl that really just wanted her mom to tell her that she's so proud of her."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Weird Mood

06:02 Viewing the Ego as a Child

07:55 Finding the Middle Point with the Ego

11:15 The Fallacy of Eradicating the Ego

15:31 Making an Ally of the Ego

18:54 The Dance Between Ego and External Validation

23:24 The Need for External Validation

27:28 Ego and Needs: Synonymous

32:08 Navigating Ego-Driven Needs

40:30 The Dance of Ego and Soul: Meeting Your Needs

42:47 Permission to Have Needs and Ask for Help

44:32 Breaking Patterns: Doing Something Different

48:17 The Beauty of Making a Mess and Being Incompetent

53:17 Self-Acceptance and Self-Compassion

55:57 Courage to Explore and Embrace All Aspects of Yourself

57:08 Outro

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Summary

The conversation explores the concept of conscious coping and the distinction between healthy and unhealthy coping strategies. The hosts share their personal experiences and discuss the importance of being conscious and intentional in our coping mechanisms. They emphasize that there is no coping mechanism that is inherently bad, but it's the intention and the relationship we have with it that determines its impact on our well-being. They also touch on the slippery slope of coping strategies and the need to stay aware of when a coping mechanism becomes maladaptive. Overall, the conversation encourages conscious coping and self-awareness in navigating challenging situations. Conscious coping involves being aware of our coping mechanisms and building consciousness around them. It's about understanding our relationship with substances and activities and making aligned choices based on our context and intentions. It's important to recognize that the energy behind our coping strategies is what matters, not the substances themselves. We can choose to engage in certain behaviors out of love for ourselves or out of a sense of lack, and it's crucial to be mindful of our intentions. It's okay to have human moments and indulge in coping strategies, as long as we maintain awareness and don't let them become the sole source of our well-being.

Keywords

conscious coping, healthy coping, unhealthy coping, intention, self-awareness, coping mechanisms, relationship with substances, aligned choices, intentions, energy, love for oneself, sense of lack, mindfulness, human moments

Takeaways

• Coping strategies can be both healthy and unhealthy, depending on our intention and relationship with them.
• There is no coping mechanism that is inherently bad; it's about how we use it and the impact it has on our well-being.
• Being conscious and intentional in our coping strategies can help us avoid maladaptive patterns and maintain a healthy balance.
• Self-awareness is key in determining whether a coping mechanism is serving us or causing harm. Conscious coping involves being aware of our coping mechanisms and making aligned choices based on our intentions and context.
• The energy behind our coping strategies is what matters, not the substances themselves.
• It's important to be mindful of our intentions and whether we are engaging in certain behaviors out of love for ourselves or out of a sense of lack.
• It's okay to have human moments and indulge in coping strategies, as long as we maintain awareness and don't let them become the sole source of our well-being.

Sound Bites

• "I hope that this lands with one, at least one person who's like, oh my God, I don't have to feel like a fucking psychopath for going through a similar experience."
• "Coping strategies may start out as a coping strategy and then transition into a lifestyle choice."
• "Having is evidence of wanting. If you consistently have an experience in your life where you feel like a piece of shit, you clearly want to feel like a piece of shit."
• "Is going to buy a giant boxed wine and chug that going to create that thing for me? Or, I can go get one glass of wine and have that experience."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Personal Experiences

06:12 Defining Coping and its Purpose

10:36 The Spectrum of Healthy and Unhealthy Coping

19:18 The Role of Internal Conflict in Coping

23:52 Conscious Coping and Evaluating Impact

30:07 Understanding Conscious Coping

33:42 The Impact of Substance Use

36:50 Identifying Unhealthy Coping Patterns

41:28 Finding Healthier Coping Strategies

53:48 Outro

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Summary

In this episode, Liv and Meli discuss codependency and their personal experiences with it. They define codependency as feeling dependent on someone else or something outside of oneself for one's well-being. They explore different manifestations of codependency, such as clinginess and neediness, as well as being the 'cool girl' or the 'mother' figure. They also discuss the fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses that can occur in codependent relationships. Liv and Meli share their own experiences of codependency in romantic partnerships and how it has affected their sense of self-worth and abandonment fears. They emphasize the importance of recognizing and addressing codependency in relationships and offer strategies for navigating codependent behaviors. Codependency is a common human tendency that can manifest in various ways. It is not something to be eradicated but rather managed and navigated with grace. Recognizing and acknowledging codependent behaviors is the first step towards creating healthier relationships. Practicing equanimity and being true to oneself while considering the needs of others is key. Shifting agreements rather than breaking them is important for maintaining trust and creating interdependence. Being your word to yourself and showing up for yourself is crucial in breaking the cycle of codependency.

Keywords

codependency, clinginess, neediness, survival instinct, fight, flight, freeze, fawn, abandonment, self-worth, attachment styles, people-pleasing, defensiveness, communication, codependent relationships, equanimity, interdependence, shifting agreements, trust, self-love

Takeaways

• Codependency is feeling dependent on someone else or something outside of oneself for one's well-being.
• Codependency can manifest as clinginess, neediness, or the 'cool girl' persona.
• The fight, flight, freeze, and fawn responses are common in codependent relationships.
• Codependency often stems from childhood wounds and can lead to feelings of abandonment and low self-worth.
• Recognizing and addressing codependency is crucial for healthy relationships.
• Open communication and addressing the underlying energetics of codependent behaviors can help navigate them. Codependency is a common human tendency that can be managed and navigated with grace.
• Recognizing and acknowledging codependent behaviors is the first step towards creating healthier relationships.
• Practicing equanimity and being true to oneself while considering the needs of others is key.
• Shifting agreements rather than breaking them is important for maintaining trust and creating interdependence.
• Being your word to yourself and showing up for yourself is crucial in breaking the cycle of codependency.

Sound Bites

• "Codependency is when you feel dependent on somebody else, or something outside of yourself for your state of well-being."
• "Codependency results in people pleasing of some form or other."
• "Codependency is a maladaptive way to respond to this stimulus."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Welcome

01:42 Chapter 1: Understanding Codependency

03:10 Chapter 2: Manifestations of Codependency

09:49 Chapter 3: The Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn Responses

18:01 Chapter 4: Codependency and People-Pleasing

26:52 Chapter 5: Addressing Codependency

35:24 Understanding Codependency

45:18 Managing Codependency

48:26 Self-Love and Interdependence

54:16 Honesty and Vulnerability in Relationships

01:01:27 Effective Communication in Codependent Dynamics

01:04:38 Cleaning Up Codependent Patterns

01:08:14 Codependency as a Path to Freedom

01:08:42 Outro

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Summary

In this conversation, Meli and Liv discuss the concept of trauma and what it really means. They explore how the term 'trauma' is often thrown around without a clear understanding of its true definition. They emphasize the importance of making distinctions within the broad category of trauma and not diminishing or overemphasizing one's own experiences. They also discuss the impact of trauma on the body and the need for validation and empathy in healing. The conversation highlights the prevalence of trauma in everyone's lives and the need for a practical and compassionate approach to addressing it. In this conversation, Meli and Liv discuss trauma and its impact on individuals and relationships. They emphasize the importance of understanding trauma on a deeper level, especially when it comes to children. They highlight the need for parents to do their own inner child work in order to effectively support their children. The conversation also explores the concept of generational trauma and how it gets passed down through families. They discuss the significance of recognizing and addressing collective traumas that affect the feminine, such as societal beauty standards. The conversation concludes with practical tools for managing and healing trauma, including offering sight, practicing inquiry, and cultivating self-compassion.

Keywords

trauma, impact, body, validation, empathy, healing, prevalence, practical, compassionate, trauma, children, inner child work, generational trauma, collective trauma, self-compassion, inquiry

Takeaways

• Trauma is often used without a clear understanding of its true definition, leading to a lack of distinction and precision in discussions.
• It is important to make distinctions within the broad category of trauma and not diminish or overemphasize one's own experiences.
• Trauma has a physical impact on the body, whether it is emotional, physical, or mental trauma.
• Validation and empathy are crucial in the healing process, as they allow individuals to feel seen and heard.
• Trauma is a universal experience, and it is important to recognize its prevalence in everyone's lives.
• A practical and compassionate approach is needed to address trauma and support healing.
• Understanding trauma on a deeper level is crucial, especially when it comes to children who may not be able to articulate their experiences.
• Parents need to do their own inner child work in order to effectively support their children through trauma.
• Generational trauma is passed down through families and can have a significant impact on individuals.
• Collective traumas, such as societal beauty standards, affect the feminine and persist through generations.
• Practical tools for managing and healing trauma include offering sight, practicing inquiry, and cultivating self-compassion.

Sound Bites

• "How you relate to the thing is where all the juice is."
• "Trauma is essentially unresolved conflict."
• "Children are just feeling rough and raw, and they're just in the experience."
• "As within, so without, as above, so below."
• "Because of her trauma, my mom might see my emotions, even when I'm a child, as manipulative."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction: What is Trauma?

02:20 Understanding the True Definition of Trauma

05:18 Making Distinctions Within the Broad Category of Trauma

09:12 The Impact of Trauma on the Body

11:08 The Importance of Validation and Empathy in Healing

19:25 Recognizing the Prevalence of Trauma

25:04 Taking a Practical and Compassionate Approach to Trauma

34:29 Understanding and Supporting Children's Trauma

37:36 The Impact of Generational Trauma

49:20 Collective Traumas and the Feminine

01:02:56 Practical Tools for Managing and Healing Trauma

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Summary

In this conversation, Meli and Liv discuss the topic of signs from the universe. They define a sign as something outside of oneself that catches attention and feels meaningful, even if there is no clear causal effect. They emphasize the importance of being open to receiving and interpreting signs, while also being grounded in one's own reality. They caution against attaching too much significance to a single sign and highlight the need for self-awareness and knowing oneself. They also discuss the role of emotions in interpreting signs and the importance of making choices based on one's own truth rather than solely relying on signs. Overall, they suggest that signs can be real, but their interpretation should be approached with discernment and self-awareness. In this conversation, Liv and Meli discuss the concept of signs from the universe. They explore the idea that signs are not external messages, but rather reflections of one's own thoughts and beliefs. They emphasize the importance of knowing oneself and taking responsibility for one's own choices. They also discuss the need for a filtration system to interpret signs and the role of trusted individuals in providing feedback. The conversation highlights the magic of being open to signs and the excitement of exploring different interpretations.

Keywords

signs, universe, meaning, interpretation, openness, reality, emotions, self-awareness, choices, signs, universe, reflection, self, responsibility, interpretation, filtration system, trusted individuals, magic

Takeaways

• Signs from the universe are external events or occurrences that feel meaningful and catch one's attention.
• Being open to receiving and interpreting signs is important, but it is also crucial to be grounded in one's own reality and self-awareness.
• Interpreting signs based solely on emotions can be misleading, and it is important to make choices based on one's own truth and self-awareness.
• Signs can be real, but their interpretation should be approached with discernment and an understanding of one's own reality. Signs from the universe are not external messages, but reflections of one's own thoughts and beliefs.
• Knowing oneself and taking responsibility for one's choices is crucial in interpreting signs.
• A filtration system, including self-reflection and feedback from trusted individuals, helps in interpreting signs.
• Being open to signs and exploring different interpretations can bring excitement and magic to life.

Sound Bites

• "There's something outside of you that catches your attention that you feel like cannot be a coincidence."
• "If you have one interpretation of a sign, you're not reading it correctly."
• "Reality is the space in between the intensity of your emotions and the craziness of your fairy tales."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Technical Difficulties

02:15 Defining Signs from the Universe

05:22 The Importance of Openness and Groundedness

09:11 Interpreting Signs Based on Self-Awareness

13:22 Exploring the Nature of Reality

22:29 Making Choices Based on Personal Truth

25:00 Approaching Signs with Discernment and Self-Awareness

28:49 Understanding Signs from the Universe

30:25 Knowing Oneself and Taking Responsibility

31:58 The Importance of a Filtration System

33:35 The Magic of Being Open to Signs

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Summary

In this episode of Babe Philosophy, Liv and Meli discuss intuition and how to recognize it. They describe intuition as a voice of clarity that guides and speaks to us, similar to a fairy godmother or guardian angel. They explore the challenge of distinguishing intuition from other voices within ourselves, such as the internal family system. Meli shares her experience of intuition as a discerning voice that speaks without emotion or urgency, while Liv emphasizes the importance of stillness and the absence of rush in intuitive messages. They also discuss the role of fear as a compass and how fear can indicate areas for growth and expansion. The conversation highlights the need to strengthen the intuition muscle through consistent practice and intentional focus. The conversation explores the topic of staying connected to intuition and trusting it, even when it seems like everything is falling apart. It emphasizes the importance of not rushing and not being fueled by fear. The speakers discuss the misconception that intuition will make you lazy and argue that intuition actually clears the path for what is meant for you. They share personal experiences and highlight the need to shift our relationship with fear and see it in a different light. The conversation concludes with the reminder to trust ourselves and build a strong relationship with our intuition.

Takeaways

• Intuition is a voice of clarity that guides and speaks to us, similar to a fairy godmother or guardian angel.
• Distinguishing intuition from other voices within ourselves, such as the internal family system, can be challenging.
• Intuition often speaks without emotion or urgency, and it is not driven by excitement or attachment.
• Fear can serve as a compass, indicating areas for growth and expansion.
• Strengthening the intuition muscle requires consistent practice and intentional focus. Intuition is not urgent and does not require rushing. Urgency often comes from fear-based decision-making.
• Fear can be seen as fuel, but it is more beneficial to move from a place of trust and clarity.
• Intuition does not make you lazy or complacent. It clears the path for what is meant for you.
• When following intuition, things may fall apart before they get better. This is a purging period to release what is not aligned.
• Trusting yourself and your intuition is key, even when the external world seems chaotic.
• The liminal space between receiving an intuitive hit and its manifestation is an opportunity for growth and self-discovery.
• Building a strong relationship with your intuition and practicing listening to it is the magic that leads to alignment and authenticity.

Sound Bites

• "Intuition is a voice that speaks not from a place of emotion ever."
• "Fear is my compass."
• "How do we stay connected to our intuition and trust it when it literally looks like everything you're doing is burning your world down?"
• "Fear is an invitation to move into trust and to move towards dissolving the belief of what's going to happen if I don't whatever ⁓"
• "You might move the same pace as you would if you were being fueled by, I'm afraid I'll fail, but it's gonna be infinitely more successful."

Chapters

00:00 Introduction and Crochet Knit Earrings

02:08 Exploring the Concept of Intuition

03:21 Differentiating Intuition from Other Voices

07:39 The Role of the Internal Family System

13:05 Connecting with Intuition and Overcoming Fear

19:16 The Origin of Meli's Tattoo: Fear as a Compass

28:15 Building Intuition as a Muscle

37:08 The Role of Fear and Urgency in Intuition

37:29 Moving from Fear to Trust

50:44 The Slow Way is the Fast Way

55:39 Trusting Intuition in Relationships

01:04:17 The Liminal Space Between Intuition and Manifestation

01:07:43 The Magic of Building a Relationship with Intuition

01:09:25 Outro

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