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Is your child ready for kindergarten from an emotional perspective?

In this episode, Cindy discusses the emotional aspects of kindergarten readiness, emphasizing the importance of emotional intelligence and self-awareness in children. She introduces the tripartite model of parental socialization, which highlights how parents' emotional coping, parenting styles, and conflict resolution impact children's emotional development. The conversation also covers practical strategies for parents to support their children's emotional growth and prepare them for school.

Takeaways

• Kindergarten readiness involves emotional preparation, not just academic skills.
• Self-awareness is crucial for coping with emotions.
• Parents should model emotional regulation for their children.
• Understanding triggers helps children manage their emotions better.
• Emotional intelligence is built through conversations about feelings.
• Expecting children to be emotionally perfect is unrealistic.
• Parental emotional coping styles influence children's behavior.
• Setting boundaries while being sensitive is key in parenting.
• Conflict resolution in the home teaches children about emotions.
• Curiosity and relationship-building are essential for school readiness.

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In this episode, we explore the idea of “shifting your lens” — a powerful metaphor grounded in science that helps parents understand how their interpretation of a situation shapes their emotional response. Drawing on the work of psychologist James Gross and his research on cognitive reappraisal, we break down how the lens you’re wearing (like blame, control, or shame) can fuel conflict and dysregulation, especially in moments of parenting stress.

You’ll learn how to identify the lens you’re in, how to shift your lens to something more helpful (like curiosity or compassion), and how this shift not only supports your own regulation but also helps you model emotional intelligence for your child. Real-life parenting examples, practical tips, and reflection prompts will help you bring this tool into everyday moments even when things get messy.

Read our blog post here:

https://curiousneuron.com/2025/08/03/how-to-shift-your-lens-and-stay-calm-in-parenting-conflicts/

Read a science article:

For Whom and What Does Cognitive Reappraisal Help? A Prospective

Study

Watch it on YouTube:

https://youtu.be/TOURlBqtmIc

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Are you following positive parenting but your partner is more authoritarian?

This is a common question I receive from parents and so in today's episode, I share a study that was fascinating to me.

In this solo episode, I talk about how you can address parenting differences with your partner without making them feel bad, I chat about the different parenting style and I answer the question of what the long-term impacts are to having different parenting styles.

Source: Differences in perceived parenting style between mothers and fathers: Implications for child outcomes and marital conflict.

Read a blog post about this study on our website:

https://curiousneuron.com/2025/07/28/can-parenting-style-differences-hurt-your-child-heres-what-the-science-says/

Watch on YouTube:

https://youtu.be/wpl1LkhK4B4?si=AfrHaOtasFd2529q

Listen to this podcast to learn more about parenting styles:

Nurturing a secure attachment with reflection skills

The Science of Modern Parenting

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Have you ever asked yourself this question?

In today's episode, I give you a different perspective on your child's behaviour....understanding how they respond to conflict. This is important because it impacts their behaviour in conflict (which is what we see when they "misbehave"). I hope you enjoy this solo episode!

SOURCES:

I look back at my conversation with Dr. Marc Brackett as well. You can listen to this episode below in case you missed it:

https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/reflective-parenting-by-curious-neuron/id1440533170?i=1000640865943

Below is the article I mention "RSA reactivity to parent-child conflict as a predictor of dysregulated emotion and behavior in daily life"

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC7908813/pdf/nihms-1668983.pdf

The blog post related to this podcast:

https://curiousneuron.com/2025/07/20/child-conflict-stress-response-behaviour/

Watch it on YouTube:

https://youtu.be/NwH988IDIi4

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In this episode of the Reflective Parenting Podcast, host Cindy Hovington delves into the transformative power of playfulness in parenting. Drawing from personal experiences and expert insights, Cindy explores how embracing play can enhance parent-child connections and support emotional development.

Discover practical tips to integrate play into daily routines, even when it feels challenging, and learn why joining your child's world can be a game-changer. Tune in for a heartfelt discussion that encourages parents to let go of guilt and embrace the joy of play.

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Resources:

Study: Quality and Quantity: A Study of Father–Toddler Rough-and-Tumble Play

Listen to my interview with Dr. Tina Payne Bryson and Amy Chiu:

Supporting Emotional Development Through Play with Tina

What happens when we let kids be kids with Amy

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In this podcast episode, I delve into invalidation and its significant impact on romantic relationships. I highlight common invalidating statements such as "Why are you upset?", "You're overreacting," or "Calm down," explaining that these make a partner feel their emotions are wrong, unjustified, or excessive. This can lead to increased frustration, shame, and a sense of being alone in their struggle, mirroring the hurt children feel when invalidated.

I emphasize the importance of using validating alternatives, such as "I see that you're feeling upset. Can you tell me what's making you feel this way?" or "It sounds like you're feeling anxious right now. That must be really uncomfortable. How can I support you?". These phrases aim to make the partner feel seen and heard, fostering connection and reducing conflict.

I then introduce a study on marital conflict behaviors, categorizing them into three styles:

•Destructive: Includes actions like yelling, insults, criticism, or bringing up past issues.

•Constructive: Involves calm discussion, active listening, saying nice things, or trying to make a spouse laugh.

•Withdrawal: Entails disengaging, such as becoming quiet or leaving the situation.

The study found that, as expected, husbands and wives who reported using more destructive behaviors had a higher rate of divorce. A particularly fascinating and counter-intuitive finding was that greater constructive behaviors among wives predicted greater divorce rates. Learn more in this episode!

Listen to my conversation with author of Validation, Dr. Caroline Fleck:

https://podcasts.apple.com/ca/podcast/reflective-parenting-by-curious-neuron/id1440533170?i=1000715100953

Read the full study:

https://pmc.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/articles/PMC3777640/pdf/nihms494814.pdf

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Do you ever wonder why your child’s big emotions feel so overwhelming—or why small conflicts with your partner can spiral? In this episode, I sit down with psychologist Dr. Caroline Fleck to unpack the skill of validation—what it is, why it matters, and how it can radically change the way you connect with yourself, your kids, and everyone you love.

We explore what invalidation really sounds like (it’s often subtle) and why even well-meaning parents can accidentally shut down their child’s emotions. Dr. Fleck shares simple, powerful scripts for validating feelings without condoning hurtful behaviors, and we discuss research showing how invalidation increases the risk of mental health struggles and gets passed across generations.

Whether you’re parenting a toddler or a teen—or just want more connected relationships—this episode will give you tools to break cycles of invalidation and build deeper trust through emotional clarity.

Don’t miss this conversation—because learning to “validate the valid” might be the most important parenting skill you ever master.

Sources:

Science Sources:

Parental Validation and Invalidation Predict Adolescent Self- Harm

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with Amy Chiu

In today’s fast-paced world, it can be tough to slow down and truly let kids be kids. We often get caught up in schedules, expectations, and the pressure to “make learning happen.” But what if the most powerful learning happens when we pause, play, and simply show up with presence?

In this episode, Dr. Cindy Hovington speaks with early childhood expert Amy Chiu about the magic of free play and the importance of slowing down. Amy explains how play isn’t just fun—it’s a key tool for building curiosity, emotional regulation, and problem-solving. She shares why giving kids space to lead their play fosters deeper learning than worksheets ever could.

Whether you're a parent, caregiver, or educator, you'll find science-backed insights and simple, practical ways to support your child—by doing less.

🔑 What You’ll Hear:

• Why slowing down and free play matter for real learning
• How presence and pause transform connection
• The power of observing rather than directing kids’ play
• Simple ways to bring downtime and emotional check-ins into daily life

Related Podcast Episode:

Over-parenting (helicopter parenting)

Mentioned in This Episode:
📖 The Work of Play→ Amy Chiu’s website and resource hub for parents and educators reimagining early childhood learning.

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https://www.linkedin.com/in/amy-chiu-msed-a09a1a27b/

Scientific Article: Learning Through Play at School – A Framework for Policy and Practice

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