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This week on Worth The Weight, Sarah and I are covering everything from GLP-1 chaos to the emotional rollercoaster of being noticeably smaller and mildly uncomfortable about people noticing. We're navigating the weird headspace of validation vs. self-worth vs. “am I doing this for me or for other people to say something?”

Then we dive into the absolute circus that is dating while on GLP-1s — featuring stories of men who get weird when they find out you used to be fat, dudes who are terrified you might gain weight back, and the age-old question: why are men so fragile?

PLUS: Sarah introduces me to The Ugly Stepsister — a Norwegian Cinderella retelling where tapeworms, sewn-on eyelashes, and sheer desperation meet our collective obsession with being effortlessly beautiful. Spoiler: the tapeworm is basically a metaphor for the emotional hunger we’re all carrying.

And finally, we debate whether you owe your date an explanation for not drinking, whether being sober requires disclosure, and whether men actually care how women lose weight (spoiler: men barely understand how GLP-1s work at all).

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Enjoy a teaser of our And Just Like That... Season 3, Ep 1 Recap

From Carrie's bizarre acceptance of Aidan's request to put their relationship on pause for five years, to Seema's refusal to settle, to Miranda’s deflowering Sister Mary One Night Stand, and everything in between — we’ve got thoughts.

Pour yourself a glass of Chardonnay and join us as we kick off another season of recaps, hot takes, and plenty of side commentary.

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In this episode, Sarah and I dive into the internet backlash aimed at a dating coach who had the audacity to admit she married a “nice nerdy guy” without feeling an instant spark — and she’s happy. Naturally, the internet lost its damn mind.

We talk about why the obsession with “zsa zsa zu” is keeping women stuck in toxic patterns, and why the absence of anxiety doesn’t mean the absence of attraction. We also unpack the insidious nature of emotional manipulation, the reality of trauma bonds, and how chaos gets misread as chemistry.

And if that’s not enough? We read aloud a truly cursed “feminine energy” post that suggests sighing softly and smiling sadly to get a man’s attention — because nothing screams empowered like trying to out-manipulate someone who already doesn’t give a shit.

Highlights include:

• Why “no spark at first” doesn’t mean you settled — it might mean you finally chose peace.

• How unpredictability creates trauma bonds (and why some men count on it).

• Why calm confrontation > emotional gymnastics.

• And most importantly: you are not a dating strategy.

If you’ve ever been told to “give the nice guy a chance,” or if you’re rethinking what actual safety feels like in a relationship — this one’s for you. Chin up, tits out.

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Aging, ADHD, and the lie that weight loss fixes everything. Plus: Healing means circling back — this time with more clarity and fewer breakdowns.

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This week, Sarah and I dive into the latest on GLP-1s and why women seem to have a different experience with them than men (spoiler: hormones, age, and maybe how you jab yourself). We talk about what’s not being said — like how losing weight doesn’t always come with a confidence boost. Personally, I’ve become a little self-conscious about how much weight I’ve lost in my face. There’s this weird disconnect between how I feel and how I think I’m supposed to feel.

We also talk about healing — real healing. The kind that’s messy and nonlinear. I’ve had moments where I thought I was “over” something, only to revisit it and feel that intense reaction all over again. But that’s not regression; that’s revisiting the pain with more awareness. And sometimes that’s the most powerful kind of progress there is.

I also share how I’ve been getting my ADHD chaos under control — or at least trying to. I’m journaling more, using a planner (shocking, I know), and sticking to a to-do list that doesn’t instantly get buried under ten tabs and a pile of dog hair. These tools have helped me process some really tough emotions, especially after losing Sam. It’s been less about “getting back on track” and more about creating structure that actually supports me.

If you’ve ever felt emotionally scrambled while also trying to get your life together, this one’s for you.

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This week, we’re diving into dating patterns, gut instincts, and the uncomfortable truth that sometimes… it’s your trauma playing matchmaker. We break down a listener letter from someone who thought she finally found a unicorn — until he bailed out of nowhere. Was it anxiety? Or was her intuition picking up on something real?

We talk about the difference between anxiety and intuition, why emotionally available partners can feel “off,” and how repetition compulsion makes you chase familiar pain — not because you’re broken, but because your brain is trying to fix the past. Spoiler: it never works.

Plus: Fuck That Guy Summerfest continues with a sweaty mustache bro who’s out here raw-dogging the sidewalk with bad boundaries, peak audacity, and zero self-awareness.

We get into:

• Trauma as a matchmaker

• Repetition compulsion in dating

• Anxiety vs. intuition — how to tell the difference

• Ghosting, self-trust, and breaking the cycle

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This week on F*ck That Guy Palooza 🎉

We’re serving up a buffet of walking red flags and emotional immaturity—bring your appetite. First course: a man who’s clearly past his dating app expiration date but still insists he’s entitled to a woman “out of his league” (whatever that means). Next up, a guy who treats his date’s romantic past like it’s a crime scene and somehow thinks he deserves answers. And finally, a man drooling over the idea of a threesome—as long as it’s emotionally convenient and doesn’t threaten his fragile ego.

Then, we pivot to something that truly touched us: a beautiful message from a longtime listener who credits this podcast with helping her leave a toxic relationship and choose herself. Spoiler: it ends in love, green flags, and a baby. Yes, we cried. Yes, you might too.

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This week on Worth the Weight, I open up about an emotional moment with my sister that triggered my Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria and unearthed some deep-rooted feelings of being “too much” or “in the way.”

We also talk about how RSD messes with our body image and makes it hard to feel at home in our own bodies—because when you’re constantly bracing for rejection, self-trust goes out the window.

It’s vulnerable, it’s reflective, and yeah—it’s a little spicy.

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