Dating in your 20s can feel like one long experiment in emotional exposure. In this episode, Amelia and Lilly dive into the vulnerable (and sometimes deeply uncomfortable) act of putting yourself out there—whether that’s through dating apps, awkward singles events, or blind dates arranged by your parents (yes, really).

We talk about:

• The shame spiral of wearing a name tag at a singles event
• When a backhanded compliment sticks with you for way too long
• Why your nervous system might be louder than your gut sometimes
• How dating apps mess with our need to be both authentic and “appealing”
• And what it means to show up as yourself without a safety net

We’re not promising dating hacks, but we are breaking down the psychology behind what makes it all feel so high-stakes—and how to stay connected to yourself through the mess of it.

Therapy-Informed Takeaways:

• Vulnerability is necessary for connection—but it can feel like danger if rejection has been part of your story.
• Singles events can be surprisingly helpful for practicing presence in low-stakes environments.
• Dating apps ask us to curate and perform. Real connection asks for something entirely different.
• Rejection—especially ghosting—activates the same pain centers as physical injury. You’re not overreacting.
• Your body tells you a lot: tension, fatigue, or even a clenched jaw are signals worth listening to.
• Building self-trust means getting good at hearing your “no” and honoring your “yes.”

Related Episodes:

• Dating in Your 20s - Self-Growth Through Dating Reflection
• Dating in Your 20s - Attachment Styles with Hilary Rosenberg

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This week, Lilly and Amelia break down Materialists, the buzzy new film from Celine Song, through a therapeutic and cultural lens. From transactional love to the myth of the “perfect partner,” they explore how the movie reflects real dating struggles in your 20s—especially when ambition, wealth, and emotional intimacy collide.

In this episode, we discuss:

• The blurred line between love and transaction
• Emotional intimacy vs. financial stability
• The myth of the ideal partner (and the math behind it)
• What materialism says about modern dating culture
• How attachment styles and trauma histories influence who we’re drawn to
• Tools for reflecting on your own dating patterns

Listener Reflection Prompts:

• Have you ever dated someone for comfort or security?
• What do you value most in a partner—emotional connection, financial stability, adventure, or something else?
• What has your 20s taught you about the real cost of love?

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Lilly Wehman: Millennium | LinkedIn
Amelia Abernathy: Millennium | Linkedin

This podcast is powered by Millennium Counseling Center in Chicago, IL. To learn more visit: millenniumhope.com

It’s not just ghosting anymore. From breadcrumbing and benching to orbiting and love bombing, today’s dating landscape has a whole new vocabulary—and it’s not just about decoding the terms. In this episode, Lilly and Amelia go beyond definitions to unpack the why: Why are these behaviors so common? What psychological needs are they meeting? And most importantly, what emotional impact do they leave behind?

In this episode, we discuss:

• What breadcrumbing, benching, ghosting, and love bombing actually mean
• The psychological and emotional motivations behind these behaviors
• The impact these patterns have on self-worth, trust, and relationship expectations
• Why we sometimes tolerate these dynamics longer than we should

Therapist Insights:

• Tools for protecting your emotional energy and responding with intention
• Reflection questions for understanding your own patterns and boundaries in dating

Reflection Prompts:

• Have you ever felt strung along or “kept on the bench”?
• What stories do you tell yourself when someone gives you just enough attention to stay?
• How do you want to feel in your relationships, and what needs to shift for that to happen?

Closing Thoughts:

Dating trends might be constantly evolving, but emotional accountability still matters. This episode is about calling out the bullsh*t—not just to complain, but to better understand ourselves and advocate for healthier connections.

Dating In Your 20s Anonymous Corner

We'd love to hear from you! Check out the anonymous DIY20s Form. It's a safe, judgment-free space to share what’s going on in your love life.

Connect with the hosts:

Lilly Wehman: Millennium | LinkedIn
Amelia Abernathy: Millennium | Linkedin

This podcast is powered by Millennium Counseling Center in Chicago, IL. To learn more visit: millenniumhope.com