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Episode 35: The Overfunctioning Woman & Underfunctioning Man in Love: A Conversation with Ashley Southard
- 2025/01/17
- 再生時間: 58 分
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あらすじ・解説
Renee & Ashley are GenX women who have worked with women for decades wrestling with the challenge of being an Overfunctioning Woman in love with an Underfunctioning Man.
GenX women received the message, “you can have it all” yet the GenX men were NOT taught how to level up their skillset to be in equal partnership.
There is an EPIDEMIC of women carrying the MENTAL LOAD & leading the planning, coordination, & execution of managing family & the home while working, caregiving for children & other family, AND not having enough resourcing.
The Overfunctioning Woman in relationship with an Underfunctioning Man will attempt to:
• Partner
• Problem Solve
• Plan
• Make Bids for Connection.
And she will meet the defensive shield of the Underfunctioning Man, who does not have the skillset or capacity to feel his own feelings. And therefore, he is not available to meet hers either.
His response will likely include:
• Denial
• Dismissal
• Defense
• Projection (turn the tables or “off load”)
Leaving her stuck with overwhelm, unmet needs, self-doubt, anger, resentment, & hurt.
This cycle will “rinse & repeat” until she loses hope & her love is destroyed.
She has experienced “death by a thousand papercuts” & when she is DONE, he feels blindsided.
Women in midlife are being called to RESTORE their personal power & plug energy leaks.
It is NOT selfish; it is self-preservation.
You are worthy. You are NOT crazy. This is textbook.
Emotional safety is a prerequisite for healthy relationships.
To learn more about Dr. Ashley Southard & her work: http://www.drashleysouthard.com/
To learn more about Renee & her work: www.resetwithrenee.com
To join the Reset Collective available for free on Might Networks: https://reset-gathering.mn.co/share/Z2B41TXYimz0wgrm?utm_source=manual