Hey Lifers!
Welcome back to ask uncut where we answer your deep, dark and burning questions.

There's a woman who found out her partner was cheating on her, so she took the urn that had his grandmother's ashes in it! Is this the ultimate bargaining tool or kind of cruel?
We then asked you for some of the funny things you've taken during a break up.
Vibes for the week:
Keeshia Simple Interval Training app
Laura Mco Beauty Instant Contour Cream Bronzer
Britt Buy Now! The Shopping Conspiracy on Netflix

Then we jump into your questions!

PARENTS GAVE MORE MONEY TO MY SIBLING
A couple of years ago, my sibling got married and my parents gave them a substantial monetary gift for their wedding (I got a 1/3 of the amount for my wedding the year before, but was still so grateful for anything). A few months after their wedding, they wanted to buy a house and were loaned the entire deposit from my parents to pay back. A couple of years on, they have not paid a cent back and my parents haven’t asked for it either. I have received approximately 50k less than them over the past 3 years and now that there’s been no repayments or discussions about this, I’m starting to become bitter. They seem to be living a comfortable life and can certainly afford to do more than my parents can. I’m frustrated at both my sibling and parents but don’t want this to seem like I am only chasing money- I want there to be accountability. How would you handle this with your family members?

GETTING FEELINGS FOR SOMEONE ELSE WHILST ENGAGED
I am in a relationship of almost 9 years and we are engaged. He is the most amazing person ever and ticks all the boxes but the sexual attraction and lust has left for me. I’m starting to have feelings for someone else which is controlling a lot of my emotions at the moment and it’s clouding my judgement!! My fiance and I have just bought a house and have a 11 month old puppy. His parents have gone guarantors for our place too. I feel like I’m stuck in a rock and a hard place with which way to go about it. Do I stay with my current fiance because he is the sweetest guy who would do anything for me or follow my head and heart and take a chance on this other person or even just try it out being single for a while? I’m in my late 20s and just scared I might be stuck in the mentality that I have a lot to lose but also might not be in love anymore.

HOW TO RECONNECT AFTER HAVING A BABY
I am a first time mum, our baby is now 10 months old. I have been really struggling with connecting to my partner in the last 6 months or so. He's a great dad and I love seeing him with our son but it feels like we've just lost the spark. I don't feel special or 'wanted' anymore. It doesn't help that he injured himself pretty badly in July and hasn't been able to carry his weight around the house - this has left me doing all the cooking, cleaning, bath and bed with the baby, etc. We live in a small rural town away from family so I don't have any help around the house as well, which adds another layer of stress. Months ago Laura mentioned something about just 'getting through those early years' when you have a baby in terms of staying with your partner. She said it gets a lot better once babies grow up a bit. I would love to hear more about this and I suppose my question is, how can I try to reconnect with my partner

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We initially got to know Kate DeAraugo in 2005 when she won the crown of Australian Idol! She was just 18 years old. But her post Idol journey was anything but a fairytale; it spiralled into addiction and legal troubles. In 2017, Kate was convicted of drug possession, drug driving and weapons possession.

This conversation with Kate is a deeply honest recount of what it can be like when you live with addiction. Kate has what a lot of us would describe as an addictive personality, someone who took everything to the extreme. She says that when she drank, she drank too much. When she ate, she ate too much. When she loved, she loved too much. These behaviours took Kate to some fairly dark places.

Kate shares:

• After winning Idol, the only thing anyone spoke about was her body

• Record labels saying she needed to lose weight and having full body liposuction at age 19

• The narrative of addicts being from ‘broken homes’ isn’t realistic

• What led her to seeking out drugs in the first place and how that spiralled into more heavy substance abuse

• The toll it took on her family

• How families can help support an addict & what her family learnt that ‘worked’

• How addicts think and what happens inside their minds

• Addiction is a lifelong condition, but sobriety is a responsibility

You can find more from Kate at her website

You can listen to Kate’s podcast Why Do I Feel This Way

Laura mentioned a famous study about addiction that you can watch in Johann Hari’s Ted talk here

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Hey Lifers!

We had the Australian podcast awards but the real take away in the media is how unhinged Laura is and that she (and I quote) "leaves fans questioning her lifestyle habits".

Britt is having a bit of a mid wedding planning crisis. Actually a big mid wedding crisis.
If you've planned a wedding, did you chop and change your mind on things like your dress in the lead up to your wedding?
We discuss the paradox of choice and decision fatigue.

It's sledging season! A new term for how people are strung along over the Christmas/New Years period, delaying a break-up or continuing dating someone they know they're not interested in.
We chat about when "is" the right time to end a relationship around this time and the reasons why so many couples break up around this time of the year.
New Year, New Relationship!

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