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Do you struggle to follow through with what you want to do? Do you commit to doing something different or better, only to end up doing the opposite of what you know you should? You are NOT alone. Every woman I know and work with wrestles with self-sabotage.

In this episode, I delve into what's really going on when you self-sabotage and, most importantly, how to finally stop sabotaging yourself for good.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• Why self-sabotage becomes a vicious, never-ending cycle if you’re not careful
• What makes self-sabotage a problem and why willpower, motivation, and even desire aren’t enough to prevent it
• The real, root causes of self-sabotage (they’re so much deeper than you know!)
• The most common ways women tend to self-sabotage (and what’s really happening in your subconscious brain in those moments)
• Eight practical tips to overcome self-sabotage

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

Ready to take radical responsibility for your own happiness so your kids see you living your best life and know that’s possible for them, too? The Happy Mom ProtocolTM will fundamentally change your perspective on prioritizing your happiness above all else and equips you with six simple “Happiness Habits” that are scientifically PROVEN to help you be significantly happier in just seven days!

Join the Moms Making TimeTM Society to get the structure, resources, motivation, accountability, and SUPPORT you need to reclaim your time, rediscover yourself, and reignite your joy so your whole family can flourish. Every month you’ll be guided through a new personal development theme based on the life-changing principles of seasonal living.

HOMEWORK:

Your homework for this episode is to identify one area where you tend to sabotage yourself. Journal on what you think might really be going on based on all we covered, then commit to one or more of the techniques mentioned for NOT succumbing to self-sabotage in the future. Share your answers with me via email or DM me on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity.

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next episode to learn about attachment styles and how childhood experiences shape your—and your kids’—degree and kind of connection to others.

The Moms Making Time Society™ is an online membership that equips you with EVERYTHING you need to prioritize yourself and your passions so you (and your family!) can flourish. Lock in the founding-member rate while you can!

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Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

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How do you know if you're winning or losing at parenting? As a mom, you want to get it RIGHT: to know you're doing a good job, that all the hardship and self-sacrifice you're enduring is paying off. The stakes feel so high—maybe higher than any other area of your life—because this is your kids we're talking about! Getting it “wrong” can have big implications for their future life.

In this episode, I offer my definition of what it really means to be winning at parenting, sharing three of my own recent wins and two very painful “losses” as examples.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• Why you can’t judge your success as a mother by external factors like your kids’ behavior, performance, or happiness…let alone anyone else’s opinion
• What “winning” at parenting actually looks (and feels) like
• How unbelievably HARD it is to parent in a winning way when it’s the complete opposite of how your parents parented you
• Why it’s so important to keep a record of your parenting wins
• What your parenting “losses” have the opportunity to teach you

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

Ready to take radical responsibility for your own happiness so your kids see you living your best life and know that’s possible for them, too? The Happy Mom ProtocolTM will fundamentally change your perspective on prioritizing your happiness above all else and equips you with six simple “Happiness Habits” that are scientifically PROVEN to help you be significantly happier in just seven days!

Join the Moms Making TimeTM Society to get the structure, resources, motivation, accountability, and SUPPORT you need to reclaim your time, rediscover yourself, and reignite your joy so your whole family can flourish. Every month you’ll be guided through a new personal development theme based on the life-changing principles of seasonal living.

HOMEWORK:

Your homework for today is reflect on the last time you “won” at parenting. Why? Start keeping a record of your winning at parenting moments to document that you are a good mom. I’d be honored if you shared your answers with me via email or DM me on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity.

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next episode to learn about attachment styles and how childhood experiences shape your—and your kids’—degree and kind of connection to others.

The Moms Making Time Society™ is an online membership that equips you with EVERYTHING you need to prioritize yourself and your passions so you (and your family!) can flourish. Lock in the founding-member rate while you can!

CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn

Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.

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Every mom wants to give their kids the world: to spare them from hardship, set them up for success, & see them be happy. Yet that’s NOT what your kids need from you the most!

The greatest gift a mom can give her kids isn’t stuff. It’s not even time & attention. What your kids need most is to see you take ownership of your OWN happiness! To model healthy emotional regulation & self-empowerment so they don’t fall victim to four harmful outcomes: parentification, insecure attachment, risky behavior, or the belief that happiness is out of reach for them, too.

I underscore all the reasons why moms’ mental health & happiness are absolutely ESSENTIAL for your kids’ wellbeing, both now & in the future. I share two personal examples along with a client’s experience wrestling with unhappiness to convey the impact that your (un)happiness has on your kids & why it’s so, SO crucial you prioritize your own joy.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• All the things moms think their kids need but really don’t matter that much
• What can happen when moms ignore themselves & their own happiness
• How you taking radical responsibility for your own happiness helps your kids see what’s possible for them (& vice versa: when you’re unhappy, it models for your kids that their happiness shouldn’t matter either)
• That kids’ nervous systems are incredibly intuitive & perceptive, meaning they sense how (un)happy you are whether you explicitly let on or not.
• The most “insidious” form of child neglect, according to experts

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

Ready to take radical responsibility for your own happiness so your kids know a great life is possible for them, too? The Happy Mom ProtocolTM equips you with six simple “Happiness Habits” that are scientifically PROVEN to help you be significantly happier in just seven days!

Join the Moms Making TimeTM Society to reclaim your time, rediscover yourself, & reignite your joy so your whole family can flourish.

HOMEWORK:

Your homework for today is to reflect on what was modeled for you regarding happiness. To whom or what have you delegated your happiness? What do you think will make you happier? Share your answers with me via email or DM me on Instagram.

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me next episode to talk about what it means to be “winning” or “losing” at parenting. I'll share some of my recent wins & losses as examples to help you put your own struggles in new perspective

The Moms Making Time Society™ is an online membership that equips you with EVERYTHING you need to prioritize yourself and your passions so you (and your family!) can flourish. Lock in the founding-member rate while you can!

CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn

Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.