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It never fails: you make plans, and unexpected obstacles wreck them. But what if that’s LIFE? How can you stop making challenges mean anything is wrong and start embracing the truth that life is happening for (not to) you?

In this episode, I open up about the mind drama I recently had over a huge unforeseen dilemma. I not only normalize the default negative response your brain offers you in those moments, but guide you through three key things to remember and an overarching skill to develop whenever life “lifes”.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• The unpredicted challenge that recently popped up for me
• Why it’s so hard to manage your mind in the midst of stress and perceived threat
• Three key steps to actually doing so
• How to avoid spiraling out of control and making hard times mean more than they actually do
• The number one life skill every mom needs to develop in the midst of uncertainty

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Ready to take radical responsibility for your own happiness so your kids see you living your best life and know that’s possible for them, too? The Happy Mom ProtocolTM will fundamentally change your perspective on prioritizing your happiness above all else and equips you with six simple “Happiness Habits” that are scientifically PROVEN to help you be significantly happier in just seven days!

Join the Moms Making TimeTM Society to get the structure, resources, motivation, accountability, and SUPPORT you need to reclaim your time, rediscover yourself, and reignite your joy so your whole family can flourish. Every month you’ll be guided through a new personal development theme based on the life-changing principles of seasonal living.

HOMEWORK:

Your homework for this episode is to reach out to DM me on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity or email me to let me know some big, unexpected situation that has come up for you and what your real, true immediate thoughts are about it.

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Join me back next episode to keep learning more about the root causes of stress and overwhelm so you can take back your time for who and what matter most.

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Do you struggle to follow through with what you want to do? Do you commit to doing something different or better, only to end up doing the opposite of what you know you should? You are NOT alone. Every woman I know and work with wrestles with self-sabotage.

In this episode, I delve into what's really going on when you self-sabotage and, most importantly, how to finally stop sabotaging yourself for good.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• Why self-sabotage becomes a vicious, never-ending cycle if you’re not careful
• What makes self-sabotage a problem and why willpower, motivation, and even desire aren’t enough to prevent it
• The real, root causes of self-sabotage (they’re so much deeper than you know!)
• The most common ways women tend to self-sabotage (and what’s really happening in your subconscious brain in those moments)
• Eight practical tips to overcome self-sabotage

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

Ready to take radical responsibility for your own happiness so your kids see you living your best life and know that’s possible for them, too? The Happy Mom ProtocolTM will fundamentally change your perspective on prioritizing your happiness above all else and equips you with six simple “Happiness Habits” that are scientifically PROVEN to help you be significantly happier in just seven days!

Join the Moms Making TimeTM Society to get the structure, resources, motivation, accountability, and SUPPORT you need to reclaim your time, rediscover yourself, and reignite your joy so your whole family can flourish. Every month you’ll be guided through a new personal development theme based on the life-changing principles of seasonal living.

HOMEWORK:

Your homework for this episode is to identify one area where you tend to sabotage yourself. Journal on what you think might really be going on based on all we covered, then commit to one or more of the techniques mentioned for NOT succumbing to self-sabotage in the future. Share your answers with me via email or DM me on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity.

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next episode to learn about attachment styles and how childhood experiences shape your—and your kids’—degree and kind of connection to others.

The Moms Making Time Society™ is an online membership that equips you with EVERYTHING you need to prioritize yourself and your passions so you (and your family!) can flourish. Lock in the founding-member rate while you can!

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How do you know if you're winning or losing at parenting? As a mom, you want to get it RIGHT: to know you're doing a good job, that all the hardship and self-sacrifice you're enduring is paying off. The stakes feel so high—maybe higher than any other area of your life—because this is your kids we're talking about! Getting it “wrong” can have big implications for their future life.

In this episode, I offer my definition of what it really means to be winning at parenting, sharing three of my own recent wins and two very painful “losses” as examples.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• Why you can’t judge your success as a mother by external factors like your kids’ behavior, performance, or happiness…let alone anyone else’s opinion
• What “winning” at parenting actually looks (and feels) like
• How unbelievably HARD it is to parent in a winning way when it’s the complete opposite of how your parents parented you
• Why it’s so important to keep a record of your parenting wins
• What your parenting “losses” have the opportunity to teach you

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

Ready to take radical responsibility for your own happiness so your kids see you living your best life and know that’s possible for them, too? The Happy Mom ProtocolTM will fundamentally change your perspective on prioritizing your happiness above all else and equips you with six simple “Happiness Habits” that are scientifically PROVEN to help you be significantly happier in just seven days!

Join the Moms Making TimeTM Society to get the structure, resources, motivation, accountability, and SUPPORT you need to reclaim your time, rediscover yourself, and reignite your joy so your whole family can flourish. Every month you’ll be guided through a new personal development theme based on the life-changing principles of seasonal living.

HOMEWORK:

Your homework for today is reflect on the last time you “won” at parenting. Why? Start keeping a record of your winning at parenting moments to document that you are a good mom. I’d be honored if you shared your answers with me via email or DM me on Instagram @solutionsforsimplicity.

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next episode to learn about attachment styles and how childhood experiences shape your—and your kids’—degree and kind of connection to others.

The Moms Making Time Society™ is an online membership that equips you with EVERYTHING you need to prioritize yourself and your passions so you (and your family!) can flourish. Lock in the founding-member rate while you can!

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Every mom wants to give their kids the world: to spare them from hardship, set them up for success, & see them be happy. Yet that’s NOT what your kids need from you the most!

The greatest gift a mom can give her kids isn’t stuff. It’s not even time & attention. What your kids need most is to see you take ownership of your OWN happiness! To model healthy emotional regulation & self-empowerment so they don’t fall victim to four harmful outcomes: parentification, insecure attachment, risky behavior, or the belief that happiness is out of reach for them, too.

I underscore all the reasons why moms’ mental health & happiness are absolutely ESSENTIAL for your kids’ wellbeing, both now & in the future. I share two personal examples along with a client’s experience wrestling with unhappiness to convey the impact that your (un)happiness has on your kids & why it’s so, SO crucial you prioritize your own joy.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• All the things moms think their kids need but really don’t matter that much
• What can happen when moms ignore themselves & their own happiness
• How you taking radical responsibility for your own happiness helps your kids see what’s possible for them (& vice versa: when you’re unhappy, it models for your kids that their happiness shouldn’t matter either)
• That kids’ nervous systems are incredibly intuitive & perceptive, meaning they sense how (un)happy you are whether you explicitly let on or not.
• The most “insidious” form of child neglect, according to experts

FOR SO MUCH MORE:

Ready to take radical responsibility for your own happiness so your kids know a great life is possible for them, too? The Happy Mom ProtocolTM equips you with six simple “Happiness Habits” that are scientifically PROVEN to help you be significantly happier in just seven days!

Join the Moms Making TimeTM Society to reclaim your time, rediscover yourself, & reignite your joy so your whole family can flourish.

HOMEWORK:

Your homework for today is to reflect on what was modeled for you regarding happiness. To whom or what have you delegated your happiness? What do you think will make you happier? Share your answers with me via email or DM me on Instagram.

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me next episode to talk about what it means to be “winning” or “losing” at parenting. I'll share some of my recent wins & losses as examples to help you put your own struggles in new perspective

The Moms Making Time Society™ is an online membership that equips you with EVERYTHING you need to prioritize yourself and your passions so you (and your family!) can flourish. Lock in the founding-member rate while you can!

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As a busy mom, there’s so much you dream of doing for yourself and yet every time you think you’re finally going to get to it, something else gets in the way. In this episode, I share a recent struggle I had that exemplifies the challenge EVERY mom faces anytime you wants to steal away and do something for you. Through it all, there are six ultimate truths that you should expect to encounter so they don’t throw you off when (not if) they arise.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• How common it is as a mom to feel like you never have time for everything you need (let alone WANT) to do
• The many ways your brain offers unhelpful thoughts that just make hard situations worse
• How to talk back to your inner critic so you don’t spiral into harmful mind drama
• Why it’s so important to uphold your values and priorities, even when that conflicts with what you desire to do—and how to stay in integrity with the identity of the person you aspire to be
• How moms’ emotional stability and regulation affects everyone else’s in the family

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Curious to learn more about your body’s four natural energy rhythms? Listen to Episode 10 (“Why Everything Always Feels SO Hard: 2 Culprits You Can’t Ignore”)

Join the Moms Making TimeTM Society to get the structure, resources, motivation, accountability, and SUPPORT you need to reclaim your time, rediscover yourself, and reignite your joy so your whole family can flourish. Every month you’ll be guided through a new personal development theme based on the life-changing principles of seasonal living.

HOMEWORK:

Your homework is to think of the last time you wanted to do something and just couldn't make it happen. Why? Who or what did you blame? How did you feel? Did you let yourself spin out in unhelpful mind drama. What impact did that have on your family? And most importantly, what did you learn from that experience? How can you find that elusive balance between prioritizing yourself & what you love with maintaining your sleep & wellbeing and being the wife & mom you want to be for those you love?

COMING UP NEXT:

Join me back next episode to talk about the greatest gift you can give your kids and why it is sooooo important that you do.

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How would you describe your current life: awful, okay, or amazing? In this episode, I break down the three distinct stages of personal growth ALL moms go through (what I call Triage, Transformation, and Triumph) so you can identify where you’re at in your own self-development journey and get the tools you need to advance to the next level, regardless of where you’re starting from.

After six+ years of working with overwhelmed women (not to mention my own hard experience dealing with stress & grief), I’ve identified three clear phases of personal development that we ALL go through. Today I want to break those down for you so you know what they are, what their signs and symptoms are, the root problem in each phase, and of course a host of solutions to help you progress OUT of that phase as quickly as possible. Along the way, I’ll also share a bit of my own journey to give you concrete examples and NORMALIZE the kinds of challenges you face in each one.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• How normal it is to go through hard times—and how to actually get out of them faster
• Actionable steps to progress from triage to transformation to triumph
• The problem with the standard productivity and personal development advice out there (i.e., why getting a new planner or adopting a new time management system won’t help)
• Why you’re never fully “arrived” and a new way to conceive of setbacks that keeps you focused on moving upwards, even if you technically “go back” a phase or two (which you inevitably will—multiple times, in fact!)
• Why being in the Triumph phase is actually the most dangerous and limiting of them all

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Don’t EVER be afraid to ask for help! If you’re in a dark place, call the Suicide Hotline at 988 or chat free with a mental health volunteer.

Snag my FREE “Everyday Essentials” checklist of 18 simple, proven things to boost mental health & wellbeing.

Curious to learn more about your body’s four natural energy rhythms? Listen to Episode 10 (“Why Everything Always Feels SO Hard: 2 Culprits You Can’t Ignore”)

Join the Moms Making TimeTM Society to get the structure, resources, motivation, accountability, and SUPPORT you need to reclaim your time, rediscover yourself, and reignite your joy so your whole family can flourish. Every month you’ll be guided through a new personal development theme based on the life-changing principles of seasonal living.

The Moms Making Time Society™ is an online membership that equips you with EVERYTHING you need to prioritize yourself and your passions so you (and your family!) can flourish. Lock in the founding-member rate while you can!

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What if you’ve been planning your life all wrong? What if things didn’t have to feel so dang hard all the time?

In this episode, you’ll learn all about the forgotten wisdom of seasonal living: that is, aligning your activities and expectations with what’s feasible for that specific time of YEAR.

The hidden truth is that planning the same way all year long only sets you up for hardship because no two months are the same.

After reviewing what past societies knew and honored yet our modern one ignores, I break down four different seasons based on moms’ ever-shifting needs and schedules.

You’ll learn why intentionally recalibrating your goals, tasks, and commitments according to the changing rhythm of nature is key for productivity, happiness, and success.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• How the 24/7/365 pressure to be productive sabotages your success
• The many internal and external factors that affect how many usable hours you have in any given week
• What pre-modern cultures knew and honored that our modern consumer one has forgotten: the importance of working in harmony and cooperation with nature and society
• The four different seasons of personal development based on what’s realistic and necessary at different times of the year
• How not living seasonally adds extra stress to your body that not only causes significant emotional and psychological discomfort, but disrupts your natural hormone function resulting in insulin resistance, weight gain, moodiness, fatigue, and depression

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Join the Moms Making TimeTM Society to get the structure, resources, motivation, accountability, and SUPPORT you need to reclaim your time, rediscover yourself, and reignite your joy so your whole family can flourish. Every month you’ll be guided through a new personal development theme based on the life-changing principles of seasonal living.

HOMEWORK:

Your homework for today is to reflect on the extent to which you’ve ever experienced misalignment or extra stress from attempting the certain things at the “wrong” time of year. Moving forward, how do you want to feel this summer and beyond? What does your personal and family life look like right now? Is it a season for working hard and achieving, or for gently pulling back and relaxing? When do you think that will flip and why? Share your thoughts with me via email or DM if you'd like personalized feedback!

COMING UP NEXT:

Don’t miss next episode where I’m going to walk you through the three stages of personal growth to help you identify which stage you’re in and which specific tools and resources are best suited for where you’re at in your journey. Spoiler alert: these aren’t necessarily linear and it’s certainly not a one-way path where once you arrive at a certain point you stay there so it’s crucial to get these tips and be prepared for life’s next curveball.

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When you’re stressed and overwhelmed, people naturally offer well-intentioned advice but there’s one thing that inevitably just makes you feel WORSE.

In this episode, we’re breaking down what that is, why it’s so triggering, and what a stressed out mom really needs in that moment instead.

Whether you’re the stressed out mom in this scenario OR the one trying to offer “help”, you can’t afford to miss this deep-dive into how moms’ stress is rooted in a deep, even subconscious, belief you have to earn your self-worth and thus any insinuation you should do less just sends your body into a threat response.

BY THE TIME YOU FINISH LISTENING, YOU'LL DISCOVER:

• The WORST thing you can say to a stressed-out mom
• What her stressed-out brain really hears when you say that
• Where her sense of perceived threat really comes from
• Exactly what to do and say instead to help a stressed-out mom actually feel safe
• Why it’s imperative that stressed-out moms learn the roots of their subconscious triggers so they don’t pass on generational trauma to their own kids

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Join the Moms Making Time™ Society to get the structure, resources, motivation, accountability, and SUPPORT you need to reclaim your time and rediscover yourself so your whole family can flourish.

Must read: The Five Love Languages

HOMEWORK:

Consider the extent to which all this applies to you. Notice how you feel, both emotionally and physically in your body, when someone comments on how much you’re doing or insinuates either that you should do less or aren’t doing enough. Then next time that situation arises, simply pause and remind yourself in that moment that you are safe, you DON’T ever have to earn love & belonging, and no matter what anyone else thinks you know you’re coming from the best of intentions. Share your thoughts with me via email or DM if you'd like personalized feedback!

COMING UP NEXT:

Don’t miss next episode where we’ll delve into the science-backed art of seasonal living: what it is, why it’s so beneficial, how to do it right, and more. This is a complete game changer for busy mamas striving to live a more purposeful and productive life!

The Moms Making Time Society™ is an online membership that equips you with EVERYTHING you need to prioritize yourself and your passions so you (and your family!) can flourish. Lock in the founding-member rate while you can!

CONNECT WITH AMBER: Website | Instagram | YouTube | LinkedIn

Ready to finally get to the root of your problems and change your life FOR GOOD? Book your free 60-minute consult to learn more about working 1:1 with Dr. Amber.