Renee’s mentor, Tanner Wallace, visits for a follow up discussion to their conversation in November 2024.

See Episode: https://open.spotify.com/episode/14OIRSzS0KfCJ7cceOn020?si=hWsntv0iTDWqGzxB627yag

Tanner Wallace, a former academician, is a survivor of childhood trauma & has been on an active healing journey for the past five years. Tanner is a Level 3 Internal Family Systems (IFS) trained practitioner. She has integrated various modalities into a cohesive healing protocol.

Success in Resolution: Persistence & Conviction

Tanner shared a personal story about a mentor who emphasized the importance of persistence in the face of rejections, suggesting that the key to success lies in not giving up. Tanner emphasized that everyone has their own timeline for healing & that setbacks are a natural part of the process. Different trauma responses were discussed & Tanner noted that those with a more collapsed, helpless response may face a harder starting point.

Breaking Cycles of Disempowerment

• Everyone starts from different places & has different resources, which can affect their journey
• The importance of recognizing one's own signals & habits to overcome the freeze response
• Moving from disempowerment to personal power can involve both big leaps & small steps

Exploring Dark Energy & Trauma

Dark energy is characterized by a destructive, dehumanizing energy that can manifest as rage & a desire to destroy. This trauma energy is often a result of unresolved trauma from generations past & can lead to cycles of shame & oppression. Lineage work & ancestral medicine are helpful paths to understand & address these issues.

Expanding Trauma Work & Community

The importance of creating a global community of shared stories & experiences was highlighted for the future of trauma healing. Tanner guides humans focused on cycle-breaking & seeking practical guidance on managing relationships with family members who may not be fully supportive of the healing process. The unique position of Gen X in facilitating this work as a bridge between generations was highlighted.

Personal Power & Self-Trust in Healing

Personal power, self-belief, & self-trust are needed to heal trauma & overcome challenges.

• Take action & not rely solely on passive information
• Take the first step towards healing & to be truthful with themselves about their current state

Our Guest: Tanner Wallace

https://cptsdmedicine.com

@cptsdmedicine

Our Host: Renee Fleming

www.resetwithrenee.com

@resetwithrenee

#resetwithrenee #ifsforcptsd #genx #cyclebreakers #generationalhealers #recovery #traumahealing #lineage #personalpower #unshame #survivors #traumaenergy #householders #conviction

Join Renee & Maggie as they discuss the therapeutic aspects of astrology & the importance of reconnecting with oneself after experiencing significant trauma.

Astrology as Tool for Self-Discovery

• the grounding of astrology in nature & potential as a mirror for personal growth

• a language that transcends the physical world

• hold astrological interpretations lightly - individuals make their own decisions about what resonates with them

Astrology's Prescriptive Nature and Evolution

Maggie discussed the concept of astrology, specifically evolutionary astrology, focusing on its prescriptive nature rather than just descriptive. Maggie explained that astrology can provide insights into the possibilities & experiences an individual may encounter in their lifetime, moving beyond mere personality descriptions, which can be helpful during life transitions & changes.

Exploring Archetypes and Personal Purpose

• Understanding these energies can help make practical life decisions

• A litmus test for personal health as well as helps identify one's soul's purpose & journey

Astrology's Role in Life's Challenges

• Provides a bigger picture of one's life, helping to understand the deeper meaning & purpose behind challenging experiences.

• Helpful for deep thinkers & those who are highly sensitive, as it offers a framework for understanding & processing difficult emotions & experiences.

Radical Acceptance and Astrological Healing

• Astrology can provide a broader perspective on life experiences, helping individuals understand that their wounds may have originated before their current life & that they have the power to heal them

• A perspective can empower individuals to move forward & find meaning in their experiences, rather than feeling stuck or powerless

• Understanding the internal processes that may be mirrored in external events, & how this understanding can lead to more intentional & empowered healing

Astrology as Life Navigation Tool

• Natal charts can reveal areas of life where significant growth & learning occur, helping to broaden one's perspective on challenges

• Valuable insights can potentially reduce suffering & allow for more conscious participation in life

External Perspectives and Personal Clarity

Renee shared her experience of a past relationship, where a reading with Maggie helped her gain clarity & perspective.

Astrology Readings and Life Insights

• Natal chart readings provide insights into an individual's life & purpose

• Chart processing sessions can deepen understanding

• Transit readings offer insights into specific time periods

• Solar return charts predict psychological changes over the next year

Our Guest: Maggie Jones Boyle, LPC, Sacred Circle Holistic Healing, specializes in working with childhood trauma, complex PTSD, & issues related to people pleasing, boundary setting, and sense of self.

www.sacredcircleholistichealing.com

@sacredcircleholistichealing

Your Host: Renee Fleming

www.resetwithrenee.com

@resetwithrenee

#resetwithrenee #traumahealing #astrology #evolutionaryastrology #frameworks #reclamation #clarity #lifepurpose #archetype

SUMMARY

Renee & Bex, both therapists & late-diagnosed autistic individuals, discussed their personal experiences & plans to research the intersection of autism & psychedelics as well as the potential benefits & challenges of using these psychedelics substances for therapy.

The conversation ended with a deep & meaningful discussion about their personal journeys, including their experiences with trauma, therapy, & psychedelics, & the need for more effective treatment modalities for neurodivergent individuals.

THEMES DISCUSSED

Exploring Autism and Psychedelic Therapy

Ketamine Therapy's Life-Changing Impact

Ketamine treatments helped Bex to relax & release physical tension, making therapy more effective. This change was also validated by her massage therapist.

Addressing Physical Trauma in Therapy

The need for a "bottom-up" approach to healing was discussed as well as the challenges faced by neurodivergent individuals, particularly those with autism, in identifying their body's states & needs due to difficulties with interoception.

Ketamine Therapy & Autism Impact

Ketamine therapy significantly reduced Bex’s depression scores & also seemed to affect her autism, making her less sensitive to sensory inputs & more flexible in daily routines.

Coping With Trauma & Loss

Emotional Experiences and Visions

An MDMA vision (black, oozing river of trauma & a vision of her younger self on the other side) led Bex to realize that she needed to confront her trauma directly. A life-changing moment with ketamine & a positive experience with MDMA also helped her feel more connected & less overwhelmed by her autism.

Journey to Self-Realization and Acceptance

"I am enough" is a belief that is hard for neurodivergent people to claim. A journey led Bex to realize that while she had spent her life asking for permission & approval to exist, she was always good enough. Bex shared her husband's sweet emotional response to their realization.

Neurodivergent Identities and Trauma Therapy

Exploring Psychedelic Treatments for Healing

Substance Sensitivity & Neurodivergent Effects

Personal Journeys and Therapy Challenges

About Our Guest: Bex is the owner of Your Unique Mind LLC & provides Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapy at Klarity Clinic in Las Vegas NV. Bex is also pursuing a PhD in Autism Studies at Towson University in Maryland.

In private practice Bex is focused on clients who are autistic or have other neurodivergent identities, trauma, & relational challenges related to neurodivergence.

In any spare time, Bex can be found playing or listening to music, playing poker, reading & researching various special interests, advocating for autistic supports, & enjoying her friends and family which include her 4 cats.

About Our Host: Renee is a therapist turned coach specializing in CPTSD, trauma bonds, & Neurocomplexity. Learn more here: https://resetwithrenee.com/

Both your host & guest are graduates of the Integrative Psychiatry Institute: https://psychiatryinstitute.com/psychedelic/

#resetwithrenee #psychedelicassistedtherapy #cpatp #neurodivergent #autism #audhd #hsp #traumahealing #woundedhealer #cptsdrecovery #latediagnosedwomen #interoception #youareneough #partswork

Renee and Helen, both healthcare, professionals discussed the challenges faced by women with neurodivergence and hormonal changes, particularly during perimenopause and menopause.

They highlighted the lack of understanding and support from healthcare providers, emphasizing the need for greater awareness, research, and standardized care for these issues.

The conversation also touched on the importance of recognizing women's roles in medicine and careers, as well as the need to promote acceptance and understanding of neurodiversity in society.

Listen to hear their discussion of the following topics:

1. Neurodivergence, Hormones, and Work-Life Balance
2. Women's Health, Neurodivergence, and Menopause
3. Challenges in Healthcare for Neurodivergent
4. Challenges Faced by Neurodivergent Women
5. Neurodevelopmental Disorders and Brain Chemistry
6. Neurodivergent Traits and Hormonal Impact
7. Challenges of Neurodivergent Women's Health
8. Managing Neurodivergent Burnout and Perimenopause
9. Addressing Menopause and Neurodivergence Care
10. Addressing Neurodivergence and Chronic Health
11. Promoting Neurodiversity Awareness and Advocacy
12. Next Steps

Our Guest: Dr. Helen Wall

Doctor, Broadcaster, Columnist & Medical Keynote Speaker

https://tvhealthdoctor.com/

Our Host:Renee Fleming/Reset With Renee

Therapist Turned Coach & Late Diagnosed Woman

https://resetwithrenee.com/

Renee interviews Danny Conner, a seasoned psychonaut, who has a wealth of knowledge & experience with different medicines.

Both Renee & Danny discuss the importance of "set & setting" as well as continued integration. Ideas of surrender & non-resistance are key to opening to the experience. Cautious & intentional use of any medicine is highlighted versus self medicating or recreational use.

The conversation focuses on the healing nature of the medicines & includes deep dives into the following areas:

1. Psychedelics for Personal Growth and Healing
2. Psychedelic Experiences & Spiritual Integration
3. Ayahuasca, DMT, & 5-MeO-DMT
4. Psychedelic Experiences &Consciousness States
5. Ketamine, 5-MeO-Dmt, & LSD Experiences
6. Meditation, Surrender, & Personal Growth
7. Substance Experiences & Trauma Work

For more information about Danny Conner:

https://five-meo.education/ https://sacredwellness1.com/

For more information about Renee:

https://resetwithrenee.com/

David Bedrick visited the show to discuss his book "The Unshaming Way" & share insights on embracing emotions, understanding trauma, & setting boundaries.

Embracing Emotions for Personal Growth

• Uunderstanding and embracing one's emotions vs suppress & eliminate them
• Understand the intelligence behind these emotions & experiences vs trying to fix them
• Benefits of amplifying & integrating these emotions, rather than suppressing them

Childhood Experiences and Self-Belief Impact

• How shame manifested in physical symptoms such as stomach aches & anger, which were then pathologized & dismissed by his family
• The importance of understanding what kind of person one is & what they are meant to be

Understanding Natural Essence and Strengths

• The need for witnesses to the violence people experience, whether subtle or overt
• The impact on a person's self-worth & ability to express themselves.

Understanding and Embracing Boundaries

• Boundaries are not just psychological concepts, but also physical impulses that help us avoid harm
• People struggle with boundaries because they have been shamed or conditioned to suppress their natural instincts. Unshaming the natural impulse to set boundaries is a key to healing &maintaining a healthy system

Emotional Authenticity and Self-Acceptance

• Why to expect pushback when setting boundaries
• Surrounding oneself with supportive people makes this process easier
• How unshaming oneself allows for greater self-worth and self-acceptance

Addressing Trauma and Shame in Relationships

• The importance of compassionate & protective responses
• How self worth is influenced

Authenticity and Vulnerability in Leadership

They emphasized the need for leaders who can hold space, witness, & share their own struggles & imperfections. OUR GUEST

David Bedrick, JD, Dipl. PW, is a teacher, counselor, and attorney. He grew up in a family marked by violence. While his father’s brutality was physical and verbal, his mother’s denial and gaslighting had its own covert power. This formative context introduced David early to the etiology of shame and instilled an urge to unshame.

Professionally, he was on the faculty for the University of Phoenix and the Process Work Institute in the U.S. and Poland and is the founder of the Santa Fe Institute for Shame-based Studies where he trains therapists, coaches and healers and offers workshops for individuals to further their own personal development.

David writes for Psychology Today and is the author of three books: Talking Back to Dr. Phil: Alternatives to Mainstream Psychology and Revisioning Activism: Bringing Depth, Dialogue, and Diversity to Individual and Social Change.

His new book is You Can’t Judge a Body by Its Cover: 17 Women’s Stories of Hunger, Body Shame and Redemption. His new book, The Unshaming Way, was published by North Atlantic books in November 2024.

Links:

Order The Unshaming Way: https://a.co/d/dYTwNa7

Website: https://www.davidbedrick.com/

Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/david.bedrick/

Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/DBedrick

Psychology Today: https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/contributors/david-bedrick-jd-dipl-pw

YOUR HOST

Find Renee @ResetwithRenee & on her website: www.resetwithrenee.com

Join Renee & others for a journey of growth, healing, transformation, leadership, & evolution in the Reset Collective available on Mighty Networks:

https://reset-gathering.mn.co/share/Z2B41TXYimz0wgrm?utm_source=manual

Renee & Ashley are GenX women who have worked with women for decades wrestling with the challenge of being an Overfunctioning Woman in love with an Underfunctioning Man.

GenX women received the message, “you can have it all” yet the GenX men were NOT taught how to level up their skillset to be in equal partnership.

There is an EPIDEMIC of women carrying the MENTAL LOAD & leading the planning, coordination, & execution of managing family & the home while working, caregiving for children & other family, AND not having enough resourcing.

The Overfunctioning Woman in relationship with an Underfunctioning Man will attempt to:

• Partner

• Problem Solve

• Plan

• Make Bids for Connection.

And she will meet the defensive shield of the Underfunctioning Man, who does not have the skillset or capacity to feel his own feelings. And therefore, he is not available to meet hers either.

His response will likely include:

• Denial

• Dismissal

• Defense

• Projection (turn the tables or “off load”)

Leaving her stuck with overwhelm, unmet needs, self-doubt, anger, resentment, & hurt.

This cycle will “rinse & repeat” until she loses hope & her love is destroyed.

She has experienced “death by a thousand papercuts” & when she is DONE, he feels blindsided.

Women in midlife are being called to RESTORE their personal power & plug energy leaks.

It is NOT selfish; it is self-preservation.

You are worthy. You are NOT crazy. This is textbook.

Emotional safety is a prerequisite for healthy relationships.

To learn more about Dr. Ashley Southard & her work: http://www.drashleysouthard.com/

To learn more about Renee & her work: www.resetwithrenee.com

To join the Reset Collective available for free on Might Networks: https://reset-gathering.mn.co/share/Z2B41TXYimz0wgrm?utm_source=manual

My AUDHD assessment as well as my podcast interview with Tanner Wallace of CPTSD Medicine took place in 2024.

In hindsight, there was much more to say about IFS, CPTSD, & AUDHD.

CPTSD Medicine Podcast Episode/Navigating Neurodivergence

https://open.spotify.com/episode/14OIRSzS0KfCJ7cceOn020?si=JS79kOegQZyoUx-1Y13Cgg

THIS EPISODE: While many neurological differences are hereditary & present at birth, some are acquired. For late diagnosed beings, NOT having this information can be a giant obstacle to living their best life.

IFS is a fabulous model for healing for both populations but alternative perspectives are needed to avoid delay in improvement, hurt & harn, & shame.

If you weren't born with a neurological developmental difference, you can still acquire neurological differences through trauma.

For people with native or acquired neurodivergence, finding neuroaffirming providers is essntial as neurotypical care can create hurt & harm.

Learn how Renee has come to understand how to adapt the IFS model for CPTSD Recovery.

Renee advocates for greater awareness of neurocomplexity & shares more about her journey of discovering her AUDHD on her path towards CPTSD Resolution.