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What happens when your ex-friend's ex-husband sends you a friend request? Does Girl Code have an expiration date? We're untangling the complex web of unwritten rules that guide female friendships and setting the record straight on what Girl Code really means.

The conversation kicks off with a real-life scenario that forces us to examine whether loyalty extends beyond the end of friendships. We share passionate takes on dating friends' exes (spoiler: it's a hard no), but acknowledge the gray areas that exist depending on relationship closeness and circumstances. From the infamous "90-day trial period" to distinguishing between casual dates and serious relationships, we navigate the nuanced boundaries that keep friendships intact.

Beyond romantic entanglements, Girl Code encompasses crucial safety measures like the "No Man Left Behind" policy and having emergency code systems in place. We discuss location sharing, extraction plans for uncomfortable situations, and the wingwoman duties that keep our circle protected. But we don't shy away from calling out how these principles get weaponized by mean girls hiding behind "just keeping it real" when they're actually tearing others down.

The most powerful aspect of Girl Code? Being there through thick and thin. We reflect on how major life changes like sobriety journeys reveal who your true friends are, and the beautiful synchronicity that sometimes brings friends back together after necessary time apart. Whether you're celebrating wins with solo cup wine glasses or showing up at the hospital during tough times, these are the moments that define genuine female friendship.

Ready to examine your own friendship circles? Listen in and ask yourself: Are you living by the real Girl Code or just talking about it?

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Have you ever had an app read your soul so accurately you felt personally attacked? That's exactly what happened when we dove into astrology through the Co-Star app in this unplanned but revealing episode.

What started as casual conversation about recent life changes quickly transformed into a cosmic deep dive when we began exploring our astrological profiles. The app didn't just tell us generic horoscopes—it called us out on our specific patterns, from relationship sabotage to career self-sabotage, with such precision we couldn't help but laugh (and occasionally gasp) at the accuracy.

Through our astrological explorations, we uncovered profound insights about ourselves. One of us learned about the walls built to protect against emotional vulnerability, while the other confronted tendencies to chase multiple dreams without completing any. We discussed how these patterns have shaped our approaches to love, work, and personal growth. The app even predicted specific dates for potential life changes, leaving us both skeptical yet curious enough to mark our calendars.

Perhaps most powerful was our conversation about what it means to be the "main character" in our own lives. The contrast between standing in the spotlight versus empowering others illuminated different but equally valid ways of claiming our importance in the world. These revelations felt especially meaningful as we reflected on our ongoing healing journeys and recent growth.

Whether you're an astrology enthusiast or skeptic, this episode offers a window into how external perspectives—even from an app—can sometimes reflect truths we already know but haven't fully acknowledged. Join us for laughter, vulnerability, and cosmic validation as we continue our season focused on healing and self-discovery. Follow along with our astrological journey and let us know if the stars have ever read you this accurately!

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What keeps us locked in cycles of trauma, and how do we finally break free? This raw, vulnerable conversation takes you through our parallel journeys of healing from toxic relationships and traumatic experiences.

The conversation opens with a crucial insight: toxic relationships aren't awful from day one. They start with genuine connection before gradually eroding boundaries through what we call "breadcrumbing"—offering just enough positive moments to keep you holding on through increasingly difficult times. We share our personal experiences with this pattern and the pivotal moments that finally helped us recognize and escape these dynamics.

Our discussion reveals how differently trauma can manifest in our lives. While some experiences leave obvious scars, others hide beneath the surface, emerging in unexpected ways years later. We explore how our bodies physically store trauma even when our minds try to deny it, from mysterious hip pain to the strange phenomenon of anniversary reactions. The distinction between genuinely processing grief versus just burying it emerges as a crucial theme.

The parallels in our healing journeys—from addiction recovery to setting boundaries to recognizing red flags—showcase both universal patterns and highly individual responses to trauma. We share the tools that have helped us along the way, from therapy and ketamine treatments to bodybuilding and music, revealing how creating joy amid healing is not just possible but necessary.

Take this journey with us as we navigate the messy, non-linear path of trauma recovery with honesty, occasional humor, and deep compassion for ourselves and each other. Whether you're just beginning your healing journey or well along your path, this conversation offers both validation and hope.

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