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Ever gained 4 pounds overnight despite doing everything "right"? You're not alone. This episode dives deep into the science of weight fluctuations and how stress impacts our bodies in surprising ways. We share a shocking real-life example of gaining eight pounds in 48 hours during bodybuilding prep despite strict diet adherence and increased cardio—proving that your body's response to stress is more powerful than you might think.

Beyond the scale, we explore what true self-care actually looks like (hint: it's not face masks). We discuss how establishing boundaries, recognizing what genuinely serves you, and making choices that honor your authentic needs creates the foundation for real personal growth. As we navigate our thirties, we've discovered a clarity and comfort in our own skin that wasn't possible in our younger years, allowing us to show up more authentically in all areas of life.

The conversation shifts to breaking generational patterns, especially in parenting. While we can't shield our children from life's difficulties, we can equip them with tools we never had—therapy, open communication, and permission to process emotions in healthy ways. We laugh about the struggles of establishing new habits and routines while acknowledging that finding systems tailored to your specific personality is more important than following someone else's blueprint for success.

Whether you're curious about bodybuilding, navigating relationships, or simply trying to establish healthier routines, this episode offers both practical insights and the comforting reminder that you're not alone in your struggles. Subscribe now and join our conversation about finding balance in an unbalanced world.

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Ever wonder what the cards might reveal about your life's journey? In this captivating episode, we welcome energy worker and card reader Jenessa for an intimate session of live tarot and oracle readings that uncover surprising truths.

The mystical adventure begins with an explanation of how different decks serve different purposes—tarot for gentle guidance and oracle for those brutally honest messages we sometimes need to hear. As Janessa shuffles and allows cards to naturally fall, the readings take unexpected turns, revealing distinct paths for each host despite both being in major life transitions.

When the Death card appears in Heather's reading, it signals not an ending but a powerful transformation—shedding what no longer serves and embracing new beginnings. The oracle follows with the stark message "Nothing will come of this situation," confirming it's time to release past attachments and step confidently into a new chapter. Meanwhile, Lacey's reading reveals a more scattered energy, with cards suggesting a disconnect between knowing what to do and actually applying that knowledge. The Wounded Healer card particularly resonates, highlighting her tendency toward excessive self-criticism when striving for accountability.

The pendulum adds another layer of intrigue, answering questions about future relationships with surprising clarity. All this unfolds within a protective salt circle, creating a sacred space for vulnerability and truth. By session's end, both hosts gain valuable insights about their growth journeys—how far they've come and what still holds them back.

Whether you're a devoted believer in metaphysical practices or simply curious about alternative perspectives, this episode offers a fascinating glimpse into how card readings can provide clarity during life's complicated transitions. What might your cards reveal about the path ahead? Listen now and perhaps discover your own answers in our guests' experiences.

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"Is my brain actually broken, or is it just responding to something?" This question haunts millions of people trying to understand why they struggle with focus, emotional regulation, and executive function.

In this raw and revealing conversation, we dive into the complex overlap between trauma responses and ADHD symptoms—a confusing territory where even mental health professionals sometimes struggle to make accurate diagnoses. Drawing from our personal experiences (including Lacey’s recent ADHD diagnosis at age 39), we unpack why symptoms like difficulty concentrating, emotional dysregulation, and sleep disturbances can stem from dramatically different origins but look nearly identical on the surface.

The key differences emerge when we examine triggers. Trauma-related symptoms typically arise in response to specific triggers or reminders of past experiences, while ADHD symptoms tend to be more pervasive regardless of environment. We share vulnerable moments from our lives—like failing classes despite being in honors programs, struggling with everyday tasks like grocery shopping, or being unable to cry for months after losing someone—to illustrate how these conditions manifest and often amplify each other.

Most powerfully, we discuss how both conditions create a sense of playing life on "hard mode" without knowing it, and how proper diagnosis and treatment finally provide some tools to navigate the challenges. Whether you're questioning your own diagnosis, supporting someone who struggles with these issues, or simply curious about the intersection of trauma and neurodevelopmental conditions, this episode offers clarity, validation, and hope for finding effective support.

Have you experienced symptoms that could be either trauma or ADHD? We'd love to hear your story and what's helped you distinguish between them in your own journey.

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Ever wondered what happens when two friends record their lives during a complete emotional spiral? That's exactly what we did in season one of this podcast, and now we're looking back at those wild times with a mixture of horror and amusement.

In this deeply candid catch-up episode, we take you through the evolution of our friendship and personal journeys, from questionable fashion choices (like that four-inch hair poof that required half a bottle of hairspray) to the dramatic relationship revelations that continue to shape our lives. One shocking story involves discovering a secret child that had been hidden for five years during a 9.5-year relationship, alongside other disturbing behaviors that came to light all in one overwhelming day.

We don't hold back as we discuss the challenges of co-parenting with difficult exes, managing strong-willed children, and trying to provide stability despite complicated custody arrangements. There's something uniquely therapeutic about being able to laugh at our past selves while acknowledging how much growth has happened since those early recording days. We share our struggles with finding structure and routine—especially for those of us with ADHD tendencies—and our dating patterns that we're actively working to improve ("unattractive, unmotivated, usually addicted to something" being the type we're trying to avoid).

Between planning fitness competitions, family trips, and celebrating important milestones, we're navigating life's complexities with honesty and humor. This episode perfectly captures why listeners connect with our unfiltered conversations—we're all works in progress, making mistakes, learning from them, and occasionally recording the whole messy journey for everyone's enjoyment. Join us for this raw, heartfelt discussion that proves sometimes the best stories come from our most chaotic chapters.

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Have you ever wondered why that nagging pain in your shoulder won't go away despite massages, stretching, and even medication? The answer might surprise you—your body could be physically manifesting emotional trauma you haven't processed.

In this raw and enlightening conversation with massage therapist Jenessa from Intuitive Touch, we dive deep into the concept that "your body keeps score" of emotional experiences, storing them in physical form when they aren't processed mentally. Jenessa reveals how she reads subtle body signals during massage sessions to identify where clients are holding onto emotional baggage—whether it's tension in the shoulders, inflammation throughout the body, or that mysterious hip pain that appeared after a difficult life event.

What makes this discussion particularly fascinating is the contrast between different body types and how they respond to massage therapy. As Jenessa explains, working on an athlete's dense, trained muscles is "like trying to make a river rock squishy," requiring completely different techniques than someone whose body primarily carries emotional tension. This personalized approach is why cookie-cutter massage experiences often fail to provide lasting relief.

The conversation takes unexpected turns as we share personal experiences with alternative healing modalities like ketamine therapy and how they've complemented traditional massage treatments. One particularly powerful revelation comes when we discuss how the body physically responds to emotional anniversaries—with measurable changes in recovery metrics, inflammation, and pain patterns that correspond to significant dates, regardless of conscious awareness.

Whether you're dealing with chronic pain, curious about the mind-body connection, or simply looking to understand why your body sometimes seems to have a mind of its own, this episode offers valuable insights into holistic healing approaches that honor both physical and emotional aspects of wellness. Learn how massage therapy can serve as both physical medicine and emotional release when performed with intuition and understanding of the body's complex language.

Ready to discover what your body might be trying to tell you? Listen now, and take the first step toward truly understanding the connection between your physical sensations and emotional experiences.

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Dessert has never tasted so sweet as when you're finally free from competition prep restrictions. In this celebratory episode, Heather and Lacey indulge in a variety of treats while catching up on life, love, and the pursuit of the perfect lemon cake bite.

Fresh off her successful bodybuilding competition, Heather savors her first real meal in months – a teriyaki burger from Hop Jacks (which Lacey stubbornly refuses to call by its new name, "Hops and Drops"). The duo shares laughs over restaurant servers who still remember them from their weekly happy hour sessions years ago.

Between bites of lemon layer cake, strawberry cheesecake, and vanilla pudding cake, they dive into stories about dating disappointments. Lacey coins the term "oppositional defiant disorder with the universe" to describe their shared tendency to ignore obvious red flags in relationships. The mysterious "motorcycle" who has ghosted Lacey three times but keeps reappearing becomes a metaphor for the lessons we refuse to learn.

The conversation weaves through Heather's competition feedback (coming in "slightly leaner" next time), injury-prone pasts (featuring Lacey’s five ankle sprains in six months), and mutual confusion over internet trends like ASMR and mukbang videos. Through it all, the underlying theme remains their enduring friendship – from sharing matching dresses in their "size zero days" to supporting each other through life's challenges.

As they plan for upcoming concerts and Heather's next competition in Florida, it's clear that these moments of connection over dessert represent something much sweeter than cake – the freedom to enjoy life's pleasures and the comfort of a friendship that has weathered years of change.

Take a moment to enjoy something sweet today, and remember that sometimes the best therapy comes with frosting. Subscribe for more conversations that feel like catching up with your best friends!

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What happens when your ex-friend's ex-husband sends you a friend request? Does Girl Code have an expiration date? We're untangling the complex web of unwritten rules that guide female friendships and setting the record straight on what Girl Code really means.

The conversation kicks off with a real-life scenario that forces us to examine whether loyalty extends beyond the end of friendships. We share passionate takes on dating friends' exes (spoiler: it's a hard no), but acknowledge the gray areas that exist depending on relationship closeness and circumstances. From the infamous "90-day trial period" to distinguishing between casual dates and serious relationships, we navigate the nuanced boundaries that keep friendships intact.

Beyond romantic entanglements, Girl Code encompasses crucial safety measures like the "No Man Left Behind" policy and having emergency code systems in place. We discuss location sharing, extraction plans for uncomfortable situations, and the wingwoman duties that keep our circle protected. But we don't shy away from calling out how these principles get weaponized by mean girls hiding behind "just keeping it real" when they're actually tearing others down.

The most powerful aspect of Girl Code? Being there through thick and thin. We reflect on how major life changes like sobriety journeys reveal who your true friends are, and the beautiful synchronicity that sometimes brings friends back together after necessary time apart. Whether you're celebrating wins with solo cup wine glasses or showing up at the hospital during tough times, these are the moments that define genuine female friendship.

Ready to examine your own friendship circles? Listen in and ask yourself: Are you living by the real Girl Code or just talking about it?

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Have you ever had an app read your soul so accurately you felt personally attacked? That's exactly what happened when we dove into astrology through the Co-Star app in this unplanned but revealing episode.

What started as casual conversation about recent life changes quickly transformed into a cosmic deep dive when we began exploring our astrological profiles. The app didn't just tell us generic horoscopes—it called us out on our specific patterns, from relationship sabotage to career self-sabotage, with such precision we couldn't help but laugh (and occasionally gasp) at the accuracy.

Through our astrological explorations, we uncovered profound insights about ourselves. One of us learned about the walls built to protect against emotional vulnerability, while the other confronted tendencies to chase multiple dreams without completing any. We discussed how these patterns have shaped our approaches to love, work, and personal growth. The app even predicted specific dates for potential life changes, leaving us both skeptical yet curious enough to mark our calendars.

Perhaps most powerful was our conversation about what it means to be the "main character" in our own lives. The contrast between standing in the spotlight versus empowering others illuminated different but equally valid ways of claiming our importance in the world. These revelations felt especially meaningful as we reflected on our ongoing healing journeys and recent growth.

Whether you're an astrology enthusiast or skeptic, this episode offers a window into how external perspectives—even from an app—can sometimes reflect truths we already know but haven't fully acknowledged. Join us for laughter, vulnerability, and cosmic validation as we continue our season focused on healing and self-discovery. Follow along with our astrological journey and let us know if the stars have ever read you this accurately!

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